Church leaders: this is 💯 how it comes across when you refuse to listen to survivors, advocates & others who challenge your chosen response path. Don’t like the implication? Choose humility. Listen to, learn from, & respond to what your critics are saying. #churchtoo#acnatoo
If there is another reason @The_ACNA continues to ignore public critiques, resignations & stories of injury (while muffling social media), I’d love to hear it. B/c otherwise it looks like abandoning the injured b/c making repairs would require leaders to admit mistakes & change.
I will never understand how any spiritual leader thinks simply *not replying* to emails, phone calls, public letters of resignation, survivors begging for response is a legitimate pastoral/professional option.
The people under spiritual care deserve better than the silent treatment for daring to challenge powerful leaders. And there is no excuse for being unaware of your power & how intimidating it is for people to question spiritual leaders.
“As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord, because my flock lacks a shepherd and so has been plundered & has become food for all the wild animals, & ***because my shepherds did not search for my flock but cared for themselves rather than for my flock,*** therefore, you…
…shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I am against the shepherds and will hold them accountable for my flock. I will remove them from tending the flock so that the shepherds can no longer feed themselves…
…I will rescue my flock from their mouths, and it will no longer be food for them.” Ezekiel 34 Survivors, advocates, critics are not the enemies of @The_ACNA. We, too, are part of your flock & have been left abandoned & vulnerable.
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If @The_ACNA wants to spotlight what they’ve paid for abuse response, it would be good to first acknowledge the untold cost of the abuse itself, largely born by survivors.
Would love to see a financial breakdown of % @The_ACNA is paying to support survivors, make amends & create healthy church cultures, etc vs % going to necessary retroactive costs resulting from institutional failure to safeguard & respond well (investigations).
@The_ACNA I hear the ACNA’s ability to name the amounts they’ve paid, but I am not sure that means they’ve acknowledged the true costs, nor accepted that these costs are not examples of their generosity but of their failure to adequately budget for healthy structures.
🧵Really surprised to see church leaders describing the fallout from abuse within the church as a “stormy season” (ACNA) or “judgment on a denom” (SBC). As though church leaders struggling to respond are somehow the victims here. This seems to me to reveal a mistaken emphasis.
The complexity and cost of abuse response is not a judgment or difficulty for a church to “handle” - but a reality that should remind us of the impossible-to-measure nature of the injury of abuse and the rippling effects of the devastation of betrayed trust.
I will never understand why church leaders don’t scramble to repent & make things right when allegations become public rather than spotlighting how hard it’s been *for the church.*