Thread by @PGeeman

1. Hello and welcome! It’s #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr. & Mrs Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word.

2. We're discussing 'How Do I Reset My Marriage For Bliss?'' It's easier for singles to opt out of relationships if it doesn’t align with what they've planned for their lives; or because both parties are not moving in same direction, among other reasons. #MrMrsBetterHalf

3. However, for married couples, it isn’t quite that clear-cut. When you walk down the aisle and accept to be married to another person, you say a vow agreeing to stay “till death do us part”. #MrMrsBetterHalf

4. This obviously doesn’t mean that if the said union causes you physical or psychological harm, you cannot leave; but it means that you can’t get up and go due to a few misunderstandings. #MrMrsBetterHalf

5. So, as a married person, when you take stock of times spent together and your expectations for the future, it is with the mindset of how to be better and have the marriage of your dreams. #MrMrsBetterHalf

6. One in which you are both on the same page and supporting each other to achieve individual and collective goals; pushing each other to be better; growing together and rekindling your romance. #MrMrsBetterHalf

7. Resetting a marriage is about improvement. How do you resolve issues as a couple? Are your communication skills great? Do you even understand each other’s communication styles? #MrMrsBetterHalf

8. A great marriage or relationship isn’t one in which there is no conflict, it is one in which conflict is amicably settled; where a couple confronts issues as a team instead of fighting each other. #MrMrsBetterHalf

9. If you are in a relationship where there is absolutely no conflict, look closely – one person may be pretending or sweeping things under the carpet. We all have different personalities, experiences and backgrounds. #MrMrsBetterHalf

10. It is impossible for two people to be friends and not disagree; scale that up and think about two people who are emotionally connected and live in the same space. They won’t always agree on everything. #MrMrdBetterHalf

11. No matter how perfect you are for each other, your opinions will not always align. Those non-alignments test the strength of your relationship. Can you stay together even if you don't always agree? #MrMrsBetterHalf

12. That said, when there is always conflict too, it signals a problem. If you are not enjoying your marriage at the moment because you and your spouse are always at loggerheads, resetting means figuring out a way to course-correct and create new beginnings. #MrMrsBetterHalf

13. Have an open conversation about how you got to where you are in your relationship; what happened; whose actions or inactions created unpleasant circumstances; then agree on what to do to make the situation better. #MrMrsBetterHalf

14. The truth is, you can restart or reset your marriage. To reset a thing is to make it start from the beginning. I believe your marriage was once sweet and blissful and I can assure you that it can get back to that place. #MrMrsBetterHalf

15. Identify the specific issues you are dealing with. Is it infidelity, communication, in-laws, parenting, financial or sexual? You must know what exactly you are dealing with in order to make good progress. #MrMrsBetterHalf

16. Do you need to get help in any of these areas? Get some help. Even if not from a human counsellor; you can get wise counsel from books, audio messages and other materials. Also, as a couple, you must decide what works for you. #MrMrsBetterHalf

17. That another couple has something going for them doesn’t mean the exact thing will work in your marriage. You are not them. Take time to understand each other, your unique relationship and what works for your situation. #MrMrsBetterHalf

18. How does your spouse like to be apologized to? How does s/he like to be loved or communicated with? Do you even have a shared vision? A lot of discrepancies can arise if you are not on the same page. #MrMrsBetterHalf

19. It’s like going to the bus park and getting on a bus going to a different destination from yours because someone you know is on it. You are pulled away from your goals and vision for your life if there’s no shared vision in marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf

20. Have a vision of a good marriage based on clear communication and agreement between both of you. 19. What is your family's vision? What do you plan to achieve in the next 2 years or 10 years? #MrMrsBetterHalf

21. How do you plan to educate your children? Or take care of your ageing parents? Where will you live or what kind of house will you buy? Pick a goal per time and focus on it. It doesn’t help if you are pulled in different directions at the same time. #MrMrsBetterHalf

22. Pick a goal per time and focus on it. It doesn’t help if you are pulled in different directions at the same time. Do you want to focus on saving for your children’s education now? Or developing both your careers or businesses. #MrMrsBetterHalf

23. Do you want to focus on saving for your children’s education now? Or developing both your careers or businesses. Whatever you have decided to do per time, work towards it with practicality and actionable steps. #MrMrsBetterHalf

24. You must know how to get from where you are to where you want to be. If the issue you have with your marriage is romance, you may wonder what good it does if you are on the same page but the fire of romance isn’t burning bright. #MrMrsBetterHalf

25. Few tips to keep the fire going: A) Date in marriage. Remember when you were trying to get/keep the attention of your spouse? You would constantly think of how to blow their minds, you’d want to go out and have nice experiences. Keep that up in marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf

26. B) Use endearing words; invest continuously in romantic gestures and give special attention. Some people just want special attention and that feeling that someone is thinking about them and for them. #MrMrsBetterHalf

27. C) Fill each other’s emotional tanks in order to keep love and romance alive. When you are deliberate about filling your partner’s emotional tank, you will keep love alive. People gravitate toward people who make them feel alive. #MrMrsBetterHalf

28. D) Speak their love languages and do the things that they appreciate and value. What is the thing you do or the place you go that makes your husband or wife feel alive? Do that!
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29. Couples don’t just stumble on good marriages; it takes dedication & conscious effort to make any relationship work so you must be willing to do same Make up your mind to have the marriage of your dreams filled with peace, harmony and happily ever after! #MrMrsBetterHalf

30. I hope this has been helpful to you. I will be back next week with another topic. Until then, thanks for following. May your marriages and relationships be sweet! If you're yet to check out my relationship, visit amarecourse.com today to sign up! #MrMrsBetterHalf