Have you sent networking messages, only to be met with silence? I receive messages every day from folx about UX - I try to respond to everyone, but it’s hard.
Here are some tips to make sure that your messages are read & receive a response: 1/
I get 5+ messages daily - I’d love to have 30min zoom chats with everyone, but I can’t (I have a full time job & I don’t work nights or weekends).
If you can ask your questions in a message, that’s a much lower barrier for a response! 2/
2) Ask specific questions.
“Can you tell me about your UX job?” is really vague. What do you want to know?
What information will tell you whether this job is a good fit for you? Do you want to know about the interview, or how this job differs from academia? Be specific! 3/
3) Don’t ask for/expect a job.
At my company, I have no role in the hiring process. I can refer you, but that’s it!
This is the case elsewhere too. You should network to genuinely find out more about a job and its fit - individual people have little power to make offers. 4/
4) Start with people you know.
This includes program alumni or friends of friends. You will be more likely to receive a response than from a stranger.
Not saying that strangers never respond (I do!), but remember: people are busy & you’re asking them to help you for free. 5/
With that said, I’m happy to connect here or on LinkedIn about UX and #altac!
Send your *specific* questions my way ☺️
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Overall, I had a really positive PhD experience. Now that I’ve reached 10k followers (!), I’m ready to share my secret:
You must choose an advisor who be kind and not toxic for 5+ years. Oh, and you need decide this based on a few hours of interviews. Don’t pick wrong! 1/
Your grad school advisor is the decider of whether your experience is fun/bearable or absolutely awful.
It doesn’t matter how great you are. I’ve seen many brilliant grad students just absolutely broken by toxic advisors. Several of them never finished their PhD. 2/
But a kind advisor, they will make the experience good (or at least bearable).
In 5 years, my advisor never belittled me. She never asked for work on nights/weekends. I never felt overworked or undervalued. I moved through all my milestones without pushback. It was great. 3/
@ProfessorIsIn has a great book, podcast, and blog. There is also a facebook support group for those looking for careers outside academia, in case you need some mutual support (there are 21k members currently - you are not alone!)
So you're going to do a PhD! Yay! Here's my best advice:
1) Don't work nights/weekends unless you have a hard deadline. Work 40hrs, no more. My most cherished grad school experiences were hanging out with my friends. Do not waste your youth providing unpaid labor. Don't do it!!
2) Explore alt-ac jobs. Do an industry internship . Not only will you learn about the kinds of careers you like, but you will also have industry experience for your resume. I said no to an internship opportunity in grad school, and I regret it now! Do not commit to being a prof.
3) Go to therapy (if you can afford it). Seriously. I was in therapy for my last four years of grad school, and WOW. I was able to manage the stress of grad school & process previous trauma/grief to become a happier person. One of the best decisions I've made.
Last Saturday, I watched a friend have a psychotic break from reality. What happened next was one of the most exhausting, frustrating, and disgusting experiences I've ever had with the police & the criminal justice system.
Last weekend, my friend began having paranoid delusions centered around technology and the internet. She destroyed her phone b/c she thought people were spying on her. She was always bit always emotional but I had never seen her this distressed before 2/
One of her roommates convinced her to go to the ER, but once they got there, she changed her mind and refused to self-commit. The ER basically told her roommate that her behavior would have to get worse before she could be involuntarily committed. So we watched and waited 3/