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Aug 5 9 tweets 2 min read
Hello 👋 I am autistic.
I suspect this will not be a surprise for folks who have worked or spent time with me💅

It was sort of a surprise to me though😬
I thought everyone had a super complex system of arbitrary rules that they had memorized, to help them navigate social situations

ahahaha nope that's just me apparently😬

Allistic (non-autistic) people "just know"
I love rule systems. My brain loves rule systems. There are many ways to be great at software development, and mine is rule systems.

I distinctly remember realizing, as a 6yo, that social interactions were governed by an immense invisible rule system. I started building mine.
I'm 46 years old - about 15 years too old to have been evaluated for autism in school. Even once screening was more common (late 80s, early 90s) autism was mostly looked at as a boy problem, soooo

between my gender and my internal rule set, I might have fooled a screener anyway
The way I realized I am autistic was to follow a bunch of #actuallyautistic people, both here and on Instagram. I followed them to learn about what I thought was another group different from me

Turns out, they are my people 💖❤️💗
I brought up whether I could be autistic with my longtime psychiatrist about a year ago.

He looked at me blankly, and said, "well, yes, of course."
So apparently I was the last to know. Anyway, here I am. I love you all <3

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TERFs are the worst. Morally repulsive AND factually wrong. The worst part is that they call their abuse of trans folks “fighting for their rights as women.”

I guess I’ve lived long enough to see my activism co-opted by the baddies.
Women are women! Trans women are part of that! As a uterus-haver, I am not bothered by penis-havers being women! Some of them always have been anyway. The whole “sex not gender” thing is just incredibly stupid.
Let me address my fellow uterus-havers:

Remember that one male teacher in high school who creeped you out? Or maybe that senior boy when you were in middle school? Or a friend of your dad’s when he got drunk at a party your parents threw?
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Whenever I want to feel happy about being in my 40s, r/relationships is where I go.
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It is AMAZING to be old enough that the answer to that is just obvious🚮
“Relationships are hard work” yeah but that hard work is stuff like “listening,” not stuff like “giving up your hobbies”
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Bitcoin is not a currency.
Just had to get that off my chest. Please continue with your day.
Bitcoin is a commodity. You buy it hoping someone will buy it for more later. Except there’s no actual value behind the commodity.
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Today, another idiot FSF fan tried to get me fired. This time by tagging in rando Salesforce people not even near my reporting line.

It’s almost like FSF people REALLY don’t like women engineers 🤔
They’re also, on the whole, not too bright when it comes to “canceling” someone 🤔🤔
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More and more, Bitcoin is reminding me of Qanon:

- mysterious unknown founder

- siphons off emotional and/or actual energy to no useful end

- adherents don’t understand what it’s for or how it works
Another defining feature of both Bitcoin and Qanon:
Pure faith, untainted by the complexity of the actual world
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