Account Share

Discover and read the best of Twitter Threads about #actuallyautistic

Most recents (24)
Dear @NevilleSouthall,

Hi! You're a great human. I respect all you do. But you're letting a non-autistic person speak for #autistic people, and I - we - need to talk to you about why that isn't okay.

(A thread - that I am happy for others to post on.) #ActuallyAutistic
#ActuallyAutistic people, like myself and many others, are spoken for - a lot. We often find ourselves without the ability to speak freely.

Not because of our own difficulties, but because we are spoken over. And ignored.

This can be small-scale, like at home...
...or large scale. Like providing a platform for people who aren't autistic to talk about autism.

I'm also bisexual. You wouldn't invite a straight person to talk about LGBT+ stuff, would you?
Read 16 tweets
Another hate campaign...
This time it's #endautismnow.
This is a truly vile one, and it's good to see so many #ActuallyAutistic people speaking against it. Here's my thoughts on it.
This'll be a long one...

CW: ableism, child abuse, violence, trauma, mentions of eugenics.
Okay, so first and foremost:

There is no 'cure' for autism. And even if there was, us autistic people wouldn't want it.
We experience life through the unique viewpoints that we have, and suddenly losing that perspective would be the height of trauma.
I'm talking about a full on existential crisis here... So much of how we perceive the world is shaped by our autistic minds. We would not recognise the world should that change so drastically.
Read 19 tweets
Late autism dx (inc self dx) forces us to speak to our inner child.

And say "it's ok. You're not wrong. You're not broken. You're not a freak"

I think the trauma of growing up autistic and not knowing it is grossly underestimated and requires time & therapy to deal with
On one hand it's a blessing - you finally have answers and explanations for everything that's ever happened to you.

On the other hand, going over past trauma, even with this new lens is painful and harmful and hard work
Finding the #ActuallyAutistic communities on social media help so many people so so much.

But that's not enough.
Read 4 tweets
Did Thread Reader help you today?
Support me: I'm a solo developer! Read more about the story
Become a 💎 Premium member ($30.00/year) and get exclusive features!
Too expensive?
Make a small donation instead. Buy me a coffee ($5) or help for the server cost ($10):
Donate with 😘 Paypal or  Become a Patron 😍 on
Using crypto? You can help too!
#ActuallyAutistic symptoms media tend to ignore:

- Fluctuating emotional age
- Hypersensitivity to sounds, smells, tastes, bright lights
- Insomnia
- Compulsive talking about special interests (infodumping)
- Involuntary strict adherence to spreadsheets and lists
- All-consuming obsessions with crushes
- Inability to see a barrier between "me" and "rest of the world"
- Emotional response to other people's mistakes
- Feeling of sadness, helplessness, anger at spelling errors
- Inability to tell time; to distinguish past, present and future
- Taking things literally
- Hyperverbalism: intuitive understanding of etymology, grammar, spelling; inability to use "easy" words when "big" ones convey things better
- Sing-song voice OR flat affect
- Spinning, skipping, clapping, flapping, childlike or wooden body language
Read 18 tweets
It really astounds me how many people think, "it couldn't possibly be ADHD, I can focus when I'm interested"

like hi you are literally describing hyperfocus which is common in both ADHD and Autism.

I just wish we had less stigma, more sharing important information.
Seriously one of the ways I bond with other neurodivergent people (especially Autistic and ADHD people) is to make jokes about how weird and sometimes wonderful hyperfocus is

it's a mental minefield of "I did all the things! But nothing on my to do list. Again. Whoops"
Knowing about hyperfocus in our ableist society is also really important

Because I think we all internalize that maybe we're just "making up our disabilities" or "it's not THAT hard to focus"

But then we end up beating ourselves up for variable attention and disability
Read 27 tweets
I'm re-reading @HHoangWrites #TheKissQuotient (read the first time in one sitting and forgot to tweet about it). Y'all, this is why #ownvoices fiction is so bloody important.

I can see myself in Stella. She sniffed Michael's t-shirt and is fascinated by his scent. That is so
accurate to my #ActuallyAutistic experience of sensuality and romance that I'm almost in tears on the second read because I can finally see me in a majorly recognized romance novel.

And damn Helen, can you ever write how to kiss! #TheKissQuotient

Publishing? I need MOAR.
This! Stella's night-time routine! Yes! #TheKissQuotient
Read 6 tweets
I spoke to a young woman yesterday who didn't think she could be autistic because she experienced empathy. Once more for the back of the room: autistic people do not lack empathy.
The misapprehension comes - I think - because maybe we don't always express our empathy in ways that non-autistic people immediately recognise. But it's there, trust me. We're sometimes overwhelmed by it.
I think this imagined lack of empathy is often used to de-humanise us: we're not rounded people; we have something lacking. It's just plain wrong.
Read 7 tweets
A gentle reminder.

I'm #actuallyautistic and like many of us, using a telephone is not something that's top of our list when it comes to communicating.

For me, auditory processing disorder makes it difficult to hear and parse the content. And there's a component of sensory
Processing difficulty for me when it comes to talking on the phone as well.

But like many #actuallyautistic I have several co-occurring conditions.

2 of them, #dyslexia and #dyspraxia make things quite a struggle for me.

One of the biggest ways they effect me is

Communication for me as an #actuallyautistic #Dyslexic is like a living jenga puzzle. At any second a learning or physical #disability is moving those pieces on me and one wrong move and it all comes down.

Thank goodness I live in a time with so many various
Read 6 tweets
A lot of people reach out to me asking about autism because they suspect they might be on the spectrum too. No autistic person is the same, but below is a thread of different expressions and common co-occuring conditions
Autism can be described as differences in excutative functioning, motor skills, and sensory skills, as well as differences in communication and social skills (but the last two are emphasized too much, and the 1st 3 are not brought up enough)
What does this look like? I'm messy, clumsy, can't switch between tasks, have terrible hearing, and occasionally go mute or mix up my words
Read 21 tweets
It’s mental health awareness week-and as 1 in 4 of us will suffer from a mental illness I’d like to share with you my story.I have nothing to hide and no qualms about delving into my very candid story about my mental health. Trigger warning: suicide idealisation and a long read..
began feeling ‘strange’ around August time 2017. I can’t put my finger on what triggered it or what led me to decline so quickly but I just didn’t feel ‘right’.It all came to a head at Christmas time when I drove home on the motorway drunk after a fall out during a night out
I didn’t fear for my life, I already had it in my head that I was ok if I didn’t survive. Things got worse after that. I made it into work the first day back after Christmas and honestly didn’t know how I hadn’t crashed my car because that’s all I was thinking about doing
Read 19 tweets
So I've been thinking about this for a while now and I'd like to share my thoughts on the language we use, and how we think about, "challenging behaviour" (CB). I'd like to replace the term with Distressed Behaviour (DB)
For me the change from CB to 'behaviour that challenges', while welcome, doesn't go far enough. It also requires some clunky linguistic gymnastics to say. I think we can do better.
CB is usually defined as "Culturally abnormal behaviour(s) of such an intensity, frequency or duration that the physical safety of the person or others is likely to be placed in serious jeopardy, or behaviour which is likely to seriously limit use of, or result in the person...
Read 31 tweets
Some thoughts on today's paper in @MolecularAutism regarding Hans Asperger's complicity in Nazi crimes against people with disabilities. (Thread)…
The paper makes a fairly compelling case that Hans Asperger was complicit in the Nazi eugenics project, using a wealth of documentary evidence that the author is to be commended for compiling. (1)
The paper has some flaws - for example, it criticizes @stevesilberman's NeuroTribes for not including this info on Asperger, when the author is very aware that the reason for this is that he declined to make his research available to Silberman. But overall, it's very solid. (2)
Read 23 tweets
Thread about "functional labels" and assumptions around verbal and other types of communication.
I am an #ActuallyAutistic adult, spouse of an #ActuallyAustistic adult (@bogiperson), and a parent of an #ActuallyAustistic child.
This thread is in reaction to @brookewinters33 's thread earlier today on functional labels (please check it out) and some of the antagonistic responses it gathered.

I will try to explain why "functional labels" are harmful in our lives as an #ActuallyAutistic family.
Useful context: I am an immigrant in the US. When my child was first diagnosed at 18 months (I was still with my ex at that time) we were insistently told by multiple professionals that we MUST use functional labels. #ActuallyAutistic
Read 35 tweets
I want to talk about autism and vaccines. I know it's all been said before, but I gotta say it, for me.

Vaccines are safe. They don't contain poisons, or Mercury. They don't give kids autism or mental retardation.

They give kids immunities to common, deadly diseases.
I'm a mom.

When preparing to have my kid there was a ton of reading to do. A ton of permissions to sign.

"Do you authorize us to give the baby a shot of potassium. Possible side effects include..."
Read 14 tweets
Tonight, I'm going to be talking about Hyperlexia. For those who don't know, here's the wikipedia article on it:

"a child's precocious ability to read." Except it does affect us as adults. and it is a learning disability.
As a child, i picked up reading very fast. I was reading novels in Grade 2, and by grade 7, I was reading at a 3rd-4th year University level and had a vocabulary somewhere around most masters students.
Even now, I read quickly, and when it hits special interest time, I won't be able to stop. Like when I discovered the Dresden Files novels in ~2007.

And read all 10 out at that time in one weekend.
Read 16 tweets
I watched The Brainwashing of My Dad last night and it explained so much for me but was so exhausting. In 2015 it didn’t even touch on the way the rightwing extremists would use fb or reddit and YouTube to radicalize and warp my previously open minded family and friends
I keep telling people in my life the scariest thing about fb is the way it drives wedges between neighbors and families, radicalizing social bubbles until we don’t recognize each other. People are only just now criticizing fb “cause it stole our data”. Not cause of the wedges.
The Brainwashing of My Dad didn’t have to mention online media or 2016 at all, you can easily extrapolate from what’s been going on in talk radio and Fox and right wing emails how decades of focused, intentional work on the right got us here.
Read 12 tweets
Laptop bans are a big topic at the moment, so I’d like to talk about my laptop use in class as a mature student with ADHD without academic accommodation.
So, what am I doing on my laptop when it’s open in class? Honestly, I’m rarely taking notes.
That’s not to say that others aren’t taking notes or benefitting from laptop usage in a purely academic way, but I’m rarely taking notes because I rarely take notes anyway.
Read 37 tweets
Just want to remind everyone - especially my allistic followers - that #actuallyautistic people are not steryotypes.

Some of us are super sensitive to noise and light and must wear headphones and sunglasses.

Some of us are *under* sensitive and actually seek these things out.
Some of us are super picky eaters and eat the same three foods everyday.

Some of us need regular variety of tastes and textures.

Some of us have special interests in mechanical things: clocks, trains, cars

Some of us have SPiN in astrophysics, makeup, or animals.
Some of us prefer to flap and vocalize to stim

Some of us scratch, twiddle, or bite our lips.

Some of us say socially "inappropriate" things loudly in public

Some of us mask very well or have social anxiety or both.
Read 10 tweets
the abuse of autistic children is not only tolerated,

but is celebrated, honoured and rewarded.

telling stories about how you abused, tortured and traumatised us will make you famous & rich.

the outcry of the #actuallyautistic community is always seen as bad faith slandering.
the abuse of autistic children is so expected, so normalised, so glorified that many symptoms of trauma and ptsd are starting to be seen as autistic traits.
trauma will cause autistic children to show more "problematic behaviours".

trauma in non-autistic children often leads to

- regression
- incontinence
- dissociation (staring into space, withdrawing into yourself)
- aggression
- anxiety
- irritability

and much more.
Read 9 tweets

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum

Please let this torture be over soon.
"What motivated this ordeal was a fundamental truth--that I cannot be happy if my son cannot function competently in his community."

Then she says he forgives her.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum

It's true that autistics tend to be INCREDIBLY FORGIVING, often past reason.

Until you go
too far. And then you're pretty much dead to so many of us.

I wonder what it will take for Zack?

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Read 14 tweets

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
And we're in a chapter praising the Tomotis method of 'training'.

I don't know what it is, but just because of the fact that the TODAY SHOW featured it, (they're a pawn for Auti$m $ peaks or so I've been informed.)

and based on how it's described, it's more autistic torture.
Must be nice to have enough ready cash to drop 3k per treatment on this 'therapy'.

I don't make that in a year.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Read 15 tweets
Hi! I’m #ActuallyAutistic, and I’d like to clear up some myths about my disability. First: yes, it IS a disability! My brain works completely differently than yours does, often interfering or limiting my daily functioning. 1/
Second, it’s a spectrum, so the way autism manifests in me isn’t the way it looks in everyone (or probably anyone but me). Third, high- and low-functioning are outdated, ableist terms. They are often used to differentiate between verbal, “independent” autistics, and 2/
non-verbal ones who may not be able to live independently. However, unless you're the autistic in question, you don’t know how well someone functions or not. More on that later. Autistics have empathy. Because we often don’t know how to process crises (or any social situation) 3/
Read 23 tweets
I want to talk a little bit about being #ActuallyAutistic #autistic in the wake of #MassShootings

This is going to be a long thread.
I will also be willing it slowly because some of the side effects of the thing I take to not kill myself are

- difficulty concentrating
- trouble organising thoughts
- forgetfulness
There have been more school shooting in my lifetime than years.

In 2017 there were so many mass shootings that I lost count.

I cannot remember a time when our schools did not teach us to prepare for a shooter attacking us.
Read 25 tweets
You know what? I’m really losing my patience with “autism parents” (not a thing - your child is not autism) right now.

There are many #ActuallyAutistic people having important discussions on Twitter. We are figuring out world that was not made for us.
We are talking about things we find easy and things we find hard, our likes and dislikes, how we adapt, how we wish society would adapt to us.

These conversations are very new. Particularly for non-men. It has always been seen as a ‘male syndrome’. It is not.
So when we are having discussions and an autism ‘advocate’ comes and shuts us down by telling us we’re ‘wrong’, what exactly is that doing?

Well I’ll tell you, from my POV it’s butting in to a conversation between autistic people about their lives when you’re not autistic.
Read 13 tweets
Related hashtags
Did Thread Reader help you today?
Support me: I'm a solo developer! Read more about the story
Become a 💎 Premium member ($30.00/year) and get exclusive features!
Too expensive?
Make a small donation instead. Buy me a coffee ($5) or help for the server cost ($10):
Donate with 😘 Paypal or  Become a Patron 😍 on
Using crypto? You can help too!