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Aug 18 11 tweets 4 min read
More on ‘bad sex’:

~ If he’s focused on the porn in his head rather than the essence of the woman before him… she’s going to feel that (on some level);
eventually questioning her worth & place in the relationship

OR

1/…

#Intimacy #couples #sex #marriage
2/ Bad sex examples…

~ If he’s so soft & sweet that she literally starts falling asleep each time they start touching,

because she can’t feel him holding the space of their intimacy with his masculine presence

OR…

…👇
3/ Bad sex:

~ They bonded over their shared trauma once…and one of them has healed now, and there’s a mismatch

OR…

~ One of them has been through recent trauma and the other Lover is not equipped with how to approach their Beloved in a way that is received

🌹
4/ Another example of bad sex…

~ She enjoys finally having some connection. The cuddle is lovely, but she could do without the banging down below… in fact it’s a bit much, & uncomfortable, so she focuses on how nice it is to be close to him again & waits for him to finish

🙈
5/ Or he has performance problems only with her… and he doesn’t know why

Or she can’t get lubricated with him… and she doesn’t know why
6/ @dovidfeldman This thread is inspired by the conversation we had on ‘bad sex’ & it’s impact on a seemingly loving marriage

While the internalized response to the bad sex does typically touch on core wounds that need healing (I agree), I find that it goes beyond that 😌 🤍

⤵️
A man or woman may not realize that the core issue to the marriage breakdown is their ‘bad sexual experience within the marriage’

Because they believe that marriage is something that operates in the socially-accepted mental level & emotional level only… rather than …

⤵️
8/ … acknowledging the more primal, often very very suppressed parts of who we are.

This puts the marriage in jeopardy when one of them suddenly experiences sexual chemistry and sexual love with someone else.

Full intercourse isn’t required to experience this,

…⤵️
9/ … it’s something that can often be felt, even at a distance, & circumvents reasoning!!

But oh no, ‘bad sex’ won’t typically be blamed though!

*Because* we put sex into a box of ‘p in v’ rather than identifying the various holistic components that are involved…

⤵️
10/ …that create a mutually satisfying experience

I’ve said quite a bit here 😅
I’ll stop now 😄

(…I must write a 📖 … there’s much more to be said, probably in a clearer way too 😉)

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Aug 18
Living with full authenticity towards our lover does come with risks.

It’s amazing how much we can hide; bcoz of fear, our own confusion or not knowing how to communicate in a way that honors the Masc/feminine polarity within the couple

One time, I hurt my husband… 1/
2/ We all have sore spots to grow into, & I found one

My conscience was clear; I had done everything in the highest way I had access to

I gave him space, then saw the word ‘discernment’… and I knew this was no small thing

He was in the shower
I knelt. My head at his feet. 2/
3/ He lifted me up. He knew my innocence, yet the pain remained

For each painful lie he spoke out, I submissively presented God’s truth

…till we both had faith, that even though we didn’t have the full answer yet… it existed, & we could get there, together, one day 💞
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Aug 13
Erotic Loving ~ #1 💋

To be sexual doesn’t require lingerie, handcuffs or doing what is uncomfortable!

Sex, and our place in it, has a wiiiiide scope and I hope to share a few things I’ve learned along the way 😌

Let’s talk about erotic styles (This is not kinks)

1/
2/ We each have certain erotic styles

These may be influenced by our culture and what we see

It’s incredible when you realize that there’s more scope to erotic styles than what you’ve seen in your life

People are doing things differently… and really enjoying themselves ⤵️
3/ Some people experience deep satisfaction from the presence and unique way their lover touches a seemingly non-erotic area.

Another person could touch the same place, but the experience is totally different!

This shows us that technique isn’t everything 😌
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Aug 10
Dominance & submission

My young son is a ‘dominant male’ - needing guidance. On our bike ride I could see his intense struggle w not leading

I shifted to support him in his dominance. I see the value now. He has the capability to excel & take good care of ppl… 1/
2/ it was a big shift though. There’s a freedom in leading. And I’m the adult!! 😂

What he needed was not just my physical obedience, but my energetic structuring to be in support of his.

Much of the time, I was actually teaching him what to do. 👇
3/ I just taught him in a way that supports him in his leadership.

I actually enjoy my 2nd chakra and heart activating when I’m in that role. There’s a feminine deepening that occurs.

It’s certainly a situation that is fascinating to navigate!
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