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🧵 HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO PROB SHOULD GO TO THERAPY BUT WON’T GO TO THERAPY THREAD 🧵

Out the gate on this nice Sunday, please don’t ASSUME that I feel as if therapy is the only way people can work on themselves. If you want to inform people on the different ways they can do so, please do so on YOUR page. I’m a COUNSELOR so my page is about THERAPY. MY EXPERTISE📌

So anyways. Y’all prob gone be mad at me after I say this but we can’t blame people for doing things if we never communicated how those “things” make us feel. Y’all be mad at people because y’all expect them to read y’all mind. That’s not fair.

However, after you’ve communicated it a few times (because we gotta give a couple just for the learning curve of doing something new), and they keep disrespecting you the next move is UP TO YOU.

You don’t have to stick around & wait for someone to disrespect you again in the name of LOYALTY & POTENTIAL. Sticking around for potential is like waiting on a promise nobody ever promised you. It’s a waste of time & more than likely it’s probably never coming.

The love you have for YOURSELF has to outweigh the love ANYONE else could ever give you. If a person says being selfish is wrong it’s because they want to be able to get whatever they can out of people that will give it while still remaining selfish themselves.

Sometimes being SELFISH & PUTTING YOURSELF ABOVE EVERYONE ELSE IN YOUR LIFE is NECESSARY. This is the first step to dealing with others who won’t help/work on themselves. LOVE YOURSELF so you won’t feel empty when others remove themselves or don’t love you.

1. LET GO OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF THEM. Acceptance. Ask yourself how you can be at peace with the person that they are. If not you’ll possibly find yourself trying to “fix” them to make yourself feel better.

2. SEE THEM AS A MIRROR. Your triggers are your blueprints to healing. Whatever action they’re doing that’s triggering you, ask yourself “why does this bother me so badly? Where does it come from?” Your triggers are PERSONAL & have nothing to do with that person. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’ma let y’all sit on that one for a bit.

3. LEAD BY EXAMPLE. Become the person you truly want to be and change yourself instead of criticizing them or telling them they need to change. How can you work towards being the person you wish you showed up as to others? We could all benefit from change.

4. KEEP YOUR PEACE. In triggering situations we quickly lose our capacity to think clearly. It’s important to know what can bring you back down to peace so you can handle conflict & express emotion in a healthy way. It’s possible to feel both peace and anger at the same time.

5. SEE THE GOOD IN THEM. SEE THE PAIN IN THEM. Remember everyone is going through something. Just like you — everyone has gone through things that influence the kind of person they are. Remember that all “negative” behavior is due to a response to conditioning and past (1/2)….

lived experiences. Look deeper beyond their personality. Try to put yourself in their shoes. Give them grace. Accept them for who they are then choose your own actions wisely. (2/2)

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