Attention is an interesting thing. While everyone was star struck by Jacqueline Kennedy from Washington to Paris to London and wanted to catch a moment with her, the only attention she wanted was from her husband J.F. Kennedy and she wasn't getting it.
Meanwhile, everyone was telling JFK he was the luckiest man in the world. But JFK no send her papa 😭😭
Interesting that with all her power and glory, even Queen Elizabeth was envious of her until she opened up she was not happy and merely keeping up appearances.
She loved to be alone and hated the spotlight. But she went out because JFK was exploiting her social currency. People would do anything if she was around. Yet, if she outshone him, it became a problem behind closed door.
Rachel's neighbour, Vivian, who had earlier borrowed an electric kettle from her, came to return it just as she was set to go spend the weekend with her guy in town.
She opened the door which was not locked and found the couple looking lifeless. Her scream woke Osas up. Because Rachel was on Osas's body, Vivian hadn't noticed that Osas was bruised.
"Omg!" she exclaimed, dropping the kettle and tried to lift Racheal up but Osas who was fast regaining consciousness reached out and teamed up to rush Rachel to the hospital.
In the over 500 DMs I've gotten about relationship issues, I have come to understand many people prefer toxic partners to good partners. For some reasons, instead of dating the good one, you run to the toxic one and expect a miraculous turn around.
"But I still love her/him."
Sometimes, the toxic one is even an Ex but in comparison to the lover who treats you right, you feel choked by goodness and want the spontaneity of toxicity.
20 years later:
"You want us to stay with abusive partners" as though they were forced on you.
Problem is, you are enslaved to your feelings. Instead of assessing people's attribute and value system before deciding to commit and love them, you follow your feelings and everyday make excuses for why you can't live without them even if it kills you.
I don't mind dragging an issue for 4 days. I don't care what countries the opposition come from. I've come to understand that Twitter shapes beliefs and system.
I'm here to foster family values. I do not wish you divorce or toxic relationship. The goal is a healthy family system
To keep quiet is to allow damaged people control the narrative. Damage people are dangerous,they know they will survive. I'm worried about the impressionable ones who through identity politics, think people wish them well and so, absolve every nonsense from their group identity.
You accept the love you think you deserve. Relationship/Marriage is hardworking even on good days. If you are expecting roller costers and Disney land, stay single. If ypu think men are the problem, date women.
Do you want a successful marriage or not? It is a simple question.
You can't define HAPPINESS for someone else based on your own metric. Countless times, you see people in what you think is a toxic relationship and they tell you they are happy that love is sweeter when the person has some toxicity.
How do you want to determine who is happy and who is unhappy when you dont live with them? Anybody can keep up appearances. If people stay together, it is because they want to stay together. You accept the love you think you deserve.
Everyday, people are ignoring or dumping people that love them for people that have money. You won't even date your best friend of the opposite gender. Stop pretending happiness was a major factor in deciding who you married.
This talk about companionship is funny because when people are about to marry, they are not lacking companions. In fact, they have abundance of it. But we ask them to settle down because they are getting old and need to start building a home.
There is a high chance that the person you marry might not be your favourite companion. How many of you actually marry the best of your friends from the opposite gender?
"Na correct girl with good home training" and "he is rich to take care of me and my children" una dey marry.
You can't be operating on hypergamy and claiming you're marrying for companionship.
Even at 60, there are clubs of different categories. Sport club, Career Associations, Hang out buddies, Work Colleagues, Long term friends. You'll never be short of companionship.