Tip for autistic inertia that may or may not work for you:
When I'm feeling really stuck and I have list of things in my head that I "need" to do, I try to pick the one that has 1 step.
Doesn't matter if it's easy or difficult in other ways, just that it's only 1 step.
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And it may be that it's not actually one step but in your head you can visualize it as one step.
For example, the task I chose was basically "move a box to a different room" and that was it. To me I saw this as one step which is what got me out of my chair.
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The thing I actually needed to do was go take a shower, but that was too overwhelming to think about because that is 10 separate steps. So I thought "I'm just moving this box" and got out of the chair, and then once I did that I could do more complicated tasks.
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I sort of see it as building momentum. It also helps because I'm starting with a task I didn't really "need" to do, and the less I "need" to do it, the less anxiety I'll have about it. So by starting with a less pressured task, I could get my body moving without thinking.
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Ironically I'm putting a task at the bottom of this thread lol.
It's pretty sad to me that I'm 99% sure most autistic people have had thoughts of "I wish I could just be normal and not be so difficult" based on other people's expectations, esp. in childhood.
Like that's not up for negotiation, that's just the default experience for us.
How many 7-year-olds in the general population think "I wish I could just be less difficult for everyone around me" on a regular basis?
9-year-olds?
10-year-olds?
I'm not sure I would like to know the numbers for autistic youth.
When researchers and parents and doctors talk about causes and cures, this is one the first things I think of.
Do you ever go into a space and just immediately feel unwelcomed there?
I think for me this happens when there's a very unstructured situation and I'm not sure where to go or what to do. I think it's a side effect of social confusion.
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You see, most people would go up and ask someone where they're supposed to be, but not me because I don't want to "impose." Instead I just sit there watching people and wait until someone calls my name and tells me what to do (luckily that happened!).
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There's a few reasons for this initial reaction of mine. Sometimes it's easier to figure it out on my own than try to ask, so that's my default.
And then if I do ask, I'm wearing a mask and I talk quietly so people very likely won't hear me,
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What people really don't understand is when you got the original strain of COVID early on (b/c no masks) and you're lying in bed thinking "I really hope I don't die" and the nurse hotline says "don't go to the ER unless your lips turn blue" and you get POTS after.
I'm so tired of people telling me that the world works differently than it does.
This goes for people who think struggling grad students, disabled people, and trans people can be helped in certain ways that those populations don't know about.
The systems are broken.
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It is exhausting to have to tell people that the systems are broken.
They are not there to help you. They are there so that other people feel like things are being done when nothing at all is being done, but it makes the non-marginalized group feel a lot better.
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Telling disabled people the ADA exists and you should sue, telling grad students "if you just talk to so-and-so, if you keep advocating, it'll work out," telling trans people "I'm sure that person didn't mean to misgender you, they're a good person."
1. It starts out talking about Rett Syndrome only.
2. This parent asked for ketamine sedation at the dentist b/c she "heard rumors" that it helped (from who?!) and her child was "regressing" - saying fewer words at 3.
It is very dangerous to seemingly approve of parents giving drugs to their disabled kids because of some "rumors."
She thinks it helped because while her kid was sedated, she said "I love you" to her 12 times but the effect went away after a day.
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No mention of consent from the child whatsoever. I can't imagine perpetually putting a 3-year-old on ketamine just so some parents can hear I love you's as if the child never shows affection in any other way, or never really "means" it if she's not on ketamine.