Childhood trauma is “invisible” but it’s always present in the nervous system.
It’s common for someone to say “I don’t have childhood trauma” but their bodies & behaviors tell a different story (🧵)
Do you wince or feel anxious when someone walks into a room? Do you want to connect with someone but cannot trust that they actually love you? Do you lack communication skills & immediately lash out or shut down?
Do you have beliefs like “I don’t matter” “no one cares what I have to say?” When you’re hurt do you struggle to regulate your emotions or even know what you actually feel?
Have you spent a majority of your adult life people pleasing or achieving to get love, validation, or approval? And now you wonder who you even are or why you feel so empty?
Our body doesn’t forget. Our behaviors reflect our past. The way we view ourselves & the world around us is forever changed when we experience childhood trauma.
Most important to understand is that childhood trauma doesn’t just look like severe abuse, neglect, & assault. Emotional neglect & abuse are so common in our society we just call it “normal.”
We have an entire society of adults living these consequences.
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Guilt tripping is when someone tries to get you to change your behavior or remove a boundary. It's done through pressure and works by activating your empathy.
1. Someone who doesn't invalidate her: she's heard she's too sensitive or over reacting her whole life. She wants someone who listens, is curious about her feelings, and who wants to hear how to love her well.
2. Someone who protects her: she was never protected, and craves it. She wants someone who confidently puts people in their place when they disrespect her. She wants to take a deep breath and relax knowing she's taken care of, fully.