How To Deal With Someone Giving You The Silent Treatment:

(A Thread) The silent treatment is when a person abruptly starts to ignore you and your presence as a punishment. They control when the silent treatment is given and when they'll speak to you again. This can last for hours, days, or even months.

You're not meant to be emotionally regulated all the time.

Being dysregulated can help us.

Here's Why: Sometimes, your emotions need to be dysregulated. When someone disrespects you, violates a boundary, or when you're heartbroken dysregulation is actually a healthy sign that you're connected to your own emotional experience.

Helicopter parenting creates adults who are easily frustrated and entitled.

Children need to experience loss, rejection, and hurt.

HERE'S WHY: Many well-meaning parents don't want their children to experience pain. So, they attempt to protect them from their feelings. They see them struggling with something and step in to "fix" it.

Normalize: having hope.

Understand your choices create your life, and you can overcome anything.

What we need to start teaching in society: Today, so much focus is on what we can't do.

And how systems are rigged, and we do not have much impact on the outcome of our lives.

As a child I had a nagging sense that someone was going to break in my house in the middle of the night.

Or, that my parents would die.

Here's why we have anxious, crisis thoughts: As a child, I remember staying up late with a deep fear someone would break in. I didn't understand my anxiety or why I had these "dark" thoughts. To cope with them, I made my room spotless.

Constantly reorganizing things.

Women don't belong in the workplace...

A THREAD 🧵 Women don't belong in the kitchen.

Or having babies.

Modern marriage is about having an (actual) partner.

Someone who shows up for you and works on themselves.

How Marriage Has Changed: In the past (and still in many places), marriage was mostly an arrangement. Dowries were paid. And often women were married off. With divorce stigmatized or not an option, many people silently suffered in their marriages.

Let's talk about how sex can be used to escape emotional intimacy: Sexual connection is a beautiful way to build deeper bonds and to create trust. But it can also be a way to create distrust and and to avoid facing parts of ourselves.

You're finally leaving survival mode.

Here's What It You'll Experience: 1. Periods of exhaustion.

As you adjust and heal you'll feel a heaviness in your body and a desire to sleep a lot. Rest is some of the most important self care during this time.

Avoidant partners deny issues and are quick to feel smothered.

They cope by clinging to their independence or running from issues.

How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner: People with avoidant attachment want closeness, but also feel smothered and uncomfortable with it.

They've learned to not trust and use distance and independence as a coping mechanism.

How to (actually) stop being impulsive and making choices you regret.

A GUIDE: Being impulsive is the result of chronic emotional dysregulation.

Emotional dysregulation creates racing thoughts and uncomfortable sensations in the body. This usually feels like anxiety or being stuck and frozen.

Women don't hear these things.

And they need to.

What a generation of women (finally) need to know: You don't need to have a prepared speech or an excuse not to do something.

It's ok to say no.

The Truth About Healing:

Sometimes you don't want to be around anyone at all because the social norms of society seem fake or shallow. A Truth About Healing:

As you become more authentic you'll fear more anxious. Anxiety can be a positive sign of growth and change.

It's hard to be the black sheep.

But it also gives you resilience, empathy, and the ability to break the cycle.

This Is For The Black Sheep:
(A THREAD🧵) The black sheep is the member of the family who doesn't fit in. Who has wants different things, who thinks outside the box, and who is most likely to wake up from life on autopilot.

Do you have a father wound?

How your relationship with your father impacts you: Our relationship with our father is one of our first relationships. How he interacts with you, meets (or does not your needs), and how he copes with life will greatly impact how you cope and view yourself.

Love is a series of behaviors, not a feeling.

Love means you... Are fully committed to learning, growing, and becoming the best version of yourself so you can be there for someone else.

You were the "problem child."

The difficult one.

Here's what life was like for you: You outwardly showed signs of pain and confusion. People looked at you as a child and blamed you for your pain. They labeled you with "behavioral issues" instead of asking: 'what's happening at home?' or 'what are you going through?'

Let's talk about the oldest daughter who became the protector of the family even though all she ever felt was unsafe...

A THREAD🧵 She knew even as a child her role was to be a "little adult." To hide how she felt, to ignore her own needs, and to keep it all together for everyone else around her.

Being the 'strong one' is exhausting.

Pretending we're ok, denying pain, and putting on a facade is what we're expected to do.

Why sensitivity is a gift: We've been told that being strong means denying our pain. We're expected to push through everything and keep going no matter what. It's no wonder so many of us are exhausted, burnt out, and dissociated.

Let's talk about love bombing.

Moving quickly into relationships, making promises, and then not following through.

Why People Do It: Love bombing feels good.

We meet someone and feel like the center of their world. Promises are made. And we think this could really be a person we could have a future with.

You grew with a parent who was one way in public and another in private.

This left you confused and angry.

Here's Why: Jekyll and Hyde parenting is common with emotionally immature parents who put their public appearance above everything. These parents value how they're seen in the community and lack the skills to connect and attune to family.