Dating people with narcissistic tendencies is one of the leading cause of almost every health issue we see.

Few people connect health issues to relationships.

But the connection is research based: At the root of narcissistic behavior, is a complete avoidance of emotional intimacy. This makes them unpredictable and inconsistent with their word. But they are often emotional chameleons, able to give people an illusion of what they want.

Men's nervous systems are more reactive and focused.

Women's nervous systems are more responsive and social.

What this means in relationships: When stressed or triggered, men's nervous systems are more reactive and focused. To reduce stress, they focus on fixing the issue as quickly as possible.

They also have less emotional engagement.

People with less friends are usually the most aware.

You are not for everyone, and that's a good thing.

Here's Why: We're conditioned to believe having a lot of friends means we're worthy. It's become social proof we're a good person. What we don't see is sometimes people with large friend groups don't have the relationships we think they do.

Secure men change our world.

They decrease violence, addiction, and crime in our culture.

How To Create Emotionally Healthy Men: Insecurity is the result of a lack of attachment needs being met in childhood. When men don't get their attachment needs met, they struggle with relationships, in careers, and seek to control others due to their lack of security.

When someone can't regulate their emotions, you become the problem.

Many adults can't self regulate.

Why This Matters: Emotional regulation is the ability to feel your feeling, and make a conscious choice on how you react to them. When someone can't emotionally regulate, their emotions make their choices for them. And you become the problem.

Many men hate women because of the relationship they had with their mother.

That relationship defines how he views all women.

Here's Why: Some men have a deeply conflicted relationship with their mother. This begins when their mothers relied on them for too much, too soon.

He became her source of emotional support and validation and at the same time his needs went ignored.

When a man is enmeshed with his mother and not held accountable he becomes entitled.

Entitlement leads to high levels of narcissistic traits.

Here's Why: The mother son relationship has a profound effect on who a man becomes as an adult.

If a mother becomes emotionally enmeshed with her son, she can't provide boundaries, clarity, and accountability to her son who desperately needs it.

There's a radical shift in relationships happening in 2026.

People are no longer sacrificing their nervous systems for friendships or love.

Here's Why: Over the past 5 years, people have learned our immune system, brain, and nervous system are most influenced by who we spend our time around.

Marriage is partnership. It's that's never 50/50...

Sometimes you give more, sometimes you need more.

The truth about marriage: Who you marry is one of the most important decisions you'll make in life. The person you spend your life with has a proud effect on: your fulfillment, your immune system, and your daily habits.

Your nervous system will tell you when it's time to walk away.

Your body always knows.

Here's when it's time to save yourself: Our nervous system carries an ancient intelligence. It knows when people or situations are bad for us. It sends us signals that we sometimes overlook. Sometimes it's headaches. Or mysterious symptoms even when our bloodwork is "perfect."

The angry daughter is treated like the problem in the family.

They're called dramatic and difficult.

In reality, they're the truth teller: The angry daughter is often the scapegoat of the family. She feels and understands the family dysfunction. She's not willing to live in a lie.

She's had enough.

People with covert narcissism is an epidemic in our society.

They make you feel guilty, question yourself, and they blame you for their emotions.

Here's Why: When someone is a covert narcissist, they're suffering from attachment wounds and insecurity. They've never developed a full sense of self.

The love language of the nervous system...

7 Statements to put someone else in a regulated state: "I choose to be here with you even when it's hard and I feel frustrated. I'm not going anywhere."

Your nervous system will tell you when you've met your person.

It won't feel like fireworks.

This is what love is to your nervous system: Our nervous system knows that love is consistency and predictability. It's our partner walking into a room and our whole body feels safe.

The angry daughter has been labeled the "difficult one" in the family.

Really, the most unheard.

Here's Why: The angry child daughter grew up with a parent who was almost always frustrated with her. This parent was short tempered, and critical. They let her know that she was too much.

Learning how to say “no” is how we gain confidence and self respect.

It’s our most basic boundary.

Here’s how to practice: A loving no is a way of saying yes to ourselves.

For people pleasers saying no can put us into fight or flight.

But it helps us end the pattern of self betrayal.

A “situationship” can feel like a threat to our nervous system.

Why non-commitment feels unsafe: A situationship, or a relationship that’s not fully committed to or defined can be one of the worst things for your nervous system.

Nobody talks about grieving the father you wish you had…

A Thread 🧵: Having a father who isn’t capable of being a father to you, is one the most painful thing a person can experience.

A partner who is unfaithful is one of the most painful and difficult experiences.

Why People (actually) Betray Others: Many people believe if someone loves them or cares about them, they will be faithful.

But a person’s ability to commit and be in integrity has everything to do with their own biology.

When you talk to your mother she’s not actually listening, or the conversation always goes back to her.

Here’s Why: When you talk to her, you see her eyes glaze over. She seems distracted and distant. She doesn’t ask many questions. And somehow every conversation comes back to her or how she feels.

You knew your mother didn’t like you.

She was in competition with you, or seemed completely uninterested in your life.

A truth people don’t talk about: There’s a cultural myth that all mothers are warm and nurturing. But the truth is, many mothers have children and resent them. They feel their children should meet their needs, and are still looking for mothering, themselves.