How to deal with someone with an avoidant attachment style: People with avoidant attachment feel most safe when they are alone and independent. They learned early people can't be trusted, and that no one will help them when they need it.

The best way to respond to difficult or combative people is to never fawn, apologize, or shrink.

A complete guide to not having a cortisol spike: Difficult or combative people are trying to re-enforce victimhood in almost every experience they have. Daily interactions become an opportunity for them to create conflict where conflict doesn't exist.

How To Stop Obsessing Over Them

(A Complete Guide to Limerence): Our society doesn't recognize love addiction, but it's real. Especially for people with anxious attachment patterns. Your brain becomes hijacked.

You analyze every text.

You check your phone more than you want to admit.

If you never saw your mother be loved well...

If her downfall came from her marriage that broke her, here's how you can honor her today: Some of us watched our mothers live in chains. Not visible chains, but the chains of a toxic marriage, of doing all the emotional labor, and of giving much more than she ever received.

The chaos you dealt with as a child becomes the ADHD or bipolar you develop as an adult: Trouble holding attention, dissociating for long period of time, and unstable moods are symptoms.

Why would we have focus, attention, and emotional stability when we're angry and unsafe?

How to deal with someone who is committed to misunderstanding you: Emotionally difficult people are fulfilled by getting someone else emotionally activated. They want your reaction. Good or bad, it feeds their deep longing for connection.

Crying is the body's way of processing emotions.

Apologizing for crying or telling someone to stop crying blocks our brain from releasing painful events.

The Science of Tears: When we have an emotional experience, our limbic system alerts the brain and facial nerves to produce tears. Tears release neurotransmitters and hormonal stress responses from the body.

Visiting your low-effort family is confusing.

They always want you to visit, but once you're there they're distracted.

How To Deal With A Low Effort Family: Low effort families struggle to emotionally connect. They don't want to visit you, and have an expectation you should always visit them. They rarely call you to check in, you have to call first.

The real reason relationships end is because no one wants to parent their partner.

That's how respect and attraction is lost.

Here's what you expect from a partner: You've spent a long time taking care of everyone else. You want a partner who makes your life easier, not more difficult. Someone who finally steps up to take care of you, too.

When you grow up with an angry father, sometimes you become him: Growing up with an angry father, you learned to read the house like a weather report. The sound of his footsteps, the tone of his voice, or the look on his face told you exactly how to brace yourself.

Most of your problems in life come from lack of communication skills.

How to say what you mean and get what you want: Getting what you want starts with directly asking for what you want. With better communication skills, you'll be less frustrated with and more connected to everyone around you.

How to deal with someone who has a high level of narcissistic traits: Narcissistic traits come from arrested development. Arrested development means someone stopped emotional or social growth. They age physically, but not mentally.

"Nice" people can actually be manipulative.

It's not nice when someone does something only to get something in return.

How to Spot Manipulation: Many people believe they're being nice, when they're actually trying to gain something for themselves. This is a common and subtle form of manipulation.

How to immediately shut down someone who's rude or disrespectful: When someone's rude to us, we think it's our role to defend ourselves or to make them understand what they've done.

This is over-functioning. It's never our role.

If we want to talk about wellness, mental health, and longevity, we have to talk about abuse and neglect.

Our government even acknowledges it as a threat to public health.

But this research is held back: Abuse is a core driver and one of the most preventable causes of early death and major disease. It's well known that abuse alters our biology and brain size.

Chronic speeding or road rage is a core sign someone struggles with emotional regulation.

They might also ignore your anxiety.

Why Driving Shows How Safe A Person Is: How a person drives is a core sign of the state of their nervous system. Driving can flood a person's body with adrenaline creating aggressive or hostile behavior.

Dating people with narcissistic tendencies is one of the leading cause of almost every health issue we see.

Few people connect health issues to relationships.

But the connection is research based: At the root of narcissistic behavior, is a complete avoidance of emotional intimacy. This makes them unpredictable and inconsistent with their word. But they are often emotional chameleons, able to give people an illusion of what they want.

Men's nervous systems are more reactive and focused.

Women's nervous systems are more responsive and social.

What this means in relationships: When stressed or triggered, men's nervous systems are more reactive and focused. To reduce stress, they focus on fixing the issue as quickly as possible.

They also have less emotional engagement.

People with less friends are usually the most aware.

You are not for everyone, and that's a good thing.

Here's Why: We're conditioned to believe having a lot of friends means we're worthy. It's become social proof we're a good person. What we don't see is sometimes people with large friend groups don't have the relationships we think they do.

Secure men change our world.

They decrease violence, addiction, and crime in our culture.

How To Create Emotionally Healthy Men: Insecurity is the result of a lack of attachment needs being met in childhood. When men don't get their attachment needs met, they struggle with relationships, in careers, and seek to control others due to their lack of security.

When someone can't regulate their emotions, you become the problem.

Many adults can't self regulate.

Why This Matters: Emotional regulation is the ability to feel your feeling, and make a conscious choice on how you react to them. When someone can't emotionally regulate, their emotions make their choices for them. And you become the problem.