There's a radical shift in relationships happening in 2026.

People are no longer sacrificing their nervous systems for friendships or love.

Here's Why: Over the past 5 years, people have learned our immune system, brain, and nervous system are most influenced by who we spend our time around.

Marriage is partnership. It's that's never 50/50...

Sometimes you give more, sometimes you need more.

The truth about marriage: Who you marry is one of the most important decisions you'll make in life. The person you spend your life with has a proud effect on: your fulfillment, your immune system, and your daily habits.

Your nervous system will tell you when it's time to walk away.

Your body always knows.

Here's when it's time to save yourself: Our nervous system carries an ancient intelligence. It knows when people or situations are bad for us. It sends us signals that we sometimes overlook. Sometimes it's headaches. Or mysterious symptoms even when our bloodwork is "perfect."

The angry daughter is treated like the problem in the family.

They're called dramatic and difficult.

In reality, they're the truth teller: The angry daughter is often the scapegoat of the family. She feels and understands the family dysfunction. She's not willing to live in a lie.

She's had enough.

People with covert narcissism is an epidemic in our society.

They make you feel guilty, question yourself, and they blame you for their emotions.

Here's Why: When someone is a covert narcissist, they're suffering from attachment wounds and insecurity. They've never developed a full sense of self.

The love language of the nervous system...

7 Statements to put someone else in a regulated state: "I choose to be here with you even when it's hard and I feel frustrated. I'm not going anywhere."

Your nervous system will tell you when you've met your person.

It won't feel like fireworks.

This is what love is to your nervous system: Our nervous system knows that love is consistency and predictability. It's our partner walking into a room and our whole body feels safe.

The angry daughter has been labeled the "difficult one" in the family.

Really, the most unheard.

Here's Why: The angry child daughter grew up with a parent who was almost always frustrated with her. This parent was short tempered, and critical. They let her know that she was too much.

Learning how to say “no” is how we gain confidence and self respect.

It’s our most basic boundary.

Here’s how to practice: A loving no is a way of saying yes to ourselves.

For people pleasers saying no can put us into fight or flight.

But it helps us end the pattern of self betrayal.

A “situationship” can feel like a threat to our nervous system.

Why non-commitment feels unsafe: A situationship, or a relationship that’s not fully committed to or defined can be one of the worst things for your nervous system.

Nobody talks about grieving the father you wish you had…

A Thread 🧵: Having a father who isn’t capable of being a father to you, is one the most painful thing a person can experience.

A partner who is unfaithful is one of the most painful and difficult experiences.

Why People (actually) Betray Others: Many people believe if someone loves them or cares about them, they will be faithful.

But a person’s ability to commit and be in integrity has everything to do with their own biology.

When you talk to your mother she’s not actually listening, or the conversation always goes back to her.

Here’s Why: When you talk to her, you see her eyes glaze over. She seems distracted and distant. She doesn’t ask many questions. And somehow every conversation comes back to her or how she feels.

You knew your mother didn’t like you.

She was in competition with you, or seemed completely uninterested in your life.

A truth people don’t talk about: There’s a cultural myth that all mothers are warm and nurturing. But the truth is, many mothers have children and resent them. They feel their children should meet their needs, and are still looking for mothering, themselves.

Sexual Discipline means your sexual behavior is aligned with your emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing.

Why it matters (a thread 🧵): Having sexual discipline means you:
- don’t use sex as a distraction from your emotions
- choose partners who respect you and your body
- respect yourself and your own body
- know the difference between attraction and connection

A loving mother wires her child for lifelong resilience.

Her attuned presence becomes our blueprint for safety, regulation, and connection.

Why Motherhood Matters: The first person who regulates our nervous system, is our mother beginning at conception. Our heart syncs with hers in the womb.

This is called biological synchrony.

Depression runs through a generation when the focus is achievement and external validation over self awareness and sustainable relationships. Depression runs through a generation when the economy creates parents who so exhausted from making ends meet, they have nothing left to give their children.

The mother wound is a generational trauma passed down from a mother to her children. It can impact so many parts of our lives.

HOW TO HEAL: Our parent figures shape the way we see ourselves and the world.

Fathers matter.

Engaged fatherhood is early intervention. It lowers cortisol, strengthens immunity, and builds lifelong emotional stability. When a father attunes, he doesn’t just shape character — he shapes biology. He becomes part of the child’s cellular memory of safety.

Autoimmune disorders can be the body’s response to chronic nervous system dysregulation.

Your body isn’t attacking you, it’s trying to protect you.

Here’s Why: We’re built to handle stress. We’re meant to experience stress and trauma, then recover. This is called resilience. But when stress is chronic, our nervous system can get stuck in fight or flight. We never complete the stress cycle.

If you want a healthy relationship, you’ll need to ask yourself this question over and over again:

“Could they be right?“

Here’s Why: The closer the relationship, the stronger our ego reacts.

Sometimes we get defensive, deny we’re doing things, or don’t take in the other person’s point of view.