Mental health issues aren’t just a brain problem.

They’re a metabolic problem.

How This Information Can Help You Heal: Studies show depression, anxiety, and even bipolar disorder are linked to how your brain processes energy—especially glucose.

Your partner can’t make you happy.

That’s not their job.

Here’s what they can do: Happiness is our responsibility. We need to understand ourselves, build healthy habits, and work through our traumas to feel happy and fulfilled.

That’s no one else’s role.

If you want a close relationship with someone, you have to be interested in them as a person.

This is called emotional intimacy.

Here’s How To Create It: There are 4 types of questions that help build emotional intimacy.

They are:
1. Feeling Questions
2. Interest Questions
3. Future Questions
4. Play Questions

Why the people pleasing daughter ends up with the emotionally reactive son.

This will help you understand your relationship: The people pleasing daughter was conditioned to calm down emotionally reactive parents. She learned early how to deal with people who had tempers. She’s easy, quiet, and agreeable to make her life easier.

Cortisol is a stress hormone that causes disease, weight gain, and inflammation in the body.

We can lower our cortisol through our diet.

3 Foods That To Naturally Lower Cortisol Levels: The foods we eat impact the way our body responds to stress. Specifically, it impacts the level of cortisol we have in our body. Cortisol is a stress hormone. In small doses cortisol is actually highly beneficial.

Most people are children in adult bodies.

Emotional immaturity is a silent epidemic.

How to know if someone is emotionally mature: For many generations, parents were told having children meant building a roof over their head and providing them with food. But children have emotional needs that require parents to be attuned, open, and conscious.

The impact of having a narcissistic mother

A THREAD: Being raised by a narcissistic mother means your mother hasn’t fully emotionally matured.

Her main focus is her own needs and the way she’s perceived. Image is everything.

How to support someone through a difficult time.

A STEP BY STEP GUIDE: When someone goes through something difficult, it can bring up feelings of helplessness and anxiety in us. These feelings make us go into fixer or saver mode because we’re uncomfortable.

You had to keep a secret.

A secret that took your innocence and changed the way you saw the world.

A letter to the younger you: A secret happened in a place you were supposed to be safe. At a time in your life when you were too young to understand or even begin to process all of the confusing feelings.

The reason most people are so angry, is because their pain was ignored for so long.

Anger was the only way they ever got attention and connection.

Why “Anger issues” develop: Anger is one of the most misunderstood human emotions. It’s a secondary emotion, meaning that underneath anger is: sadness, grief, and shame.

How to stop being emotionally reactive and immediately gain more confidence: Emotional reactivity is a pattern of reacting impulsively to situations where we feel anger, hurt, or stress.

You accept breadcrumbs for love.

Why you might have been raised by present but absent father: A present but absent father is a father who was physically there, but emotionally checked out. When he was home, he was shut down. Usually spending all his time in his office, the garage, basement, or doing yard work.

Why the parentified daughter ends up with the avoidant, passive son.

This thread will help you understand your relationships: The parentified daughter was conditioned to be responsible for everyone and everything. She grew up having no one attune to her emotions. In the chaos, she coped my managing the moods of everyone around her.

If they only show interest or work on the relationship when you start pull away…

They probably have a fearful avoidant attachment style.

Here’s The Signs: A fearful avoidant attachment style is when someone comes on very strong at times, and is distant and detached at other times. The relationship always feels hot and cold.

Dysfunctional families expect people to dissociate from reality to function.

The person who speaks up becomes the scapegoat.

Read this if you’re the scapegoat: In dysfunctional family systems, each member copes by denying reality. There might be abuse, chaos, secrets, or betrayals. But it’s never talked about. To keep going, everyone must pretend it isn’t happening.

As a couples therapist, I noticed 8 patterns in couples who didn’t make it.

HERE THEY ARE: 1. They had no boundaries with family.

They shared relationship issues and had one or more members of their family over-involved in the relationship. This created a lack of trust and friction.

The impact of being raised by a narcissistic father: Being raised by a narcissist father means your father hasn’t fully matured emotionally. His main focus is: his own needs, the way he’s perceived by others, and being ‘respected‘ by his family.

He tends to confuse respect with obedience.

You feel confused, hopeless, and lost your spark.

You’re questioning everything.

Why you might be going through the dark night of the soul: The dark night of the soul is when life feels like it’s crashing around us. Nothing seems to make sense. And everything we’ve been told feels like a lie.

Our mental heath care system is broken.

We are telling people there is no hope, they are broken, and not giving them the full story.

How we can start healing ourselves: Create mitochondrial health: nutritional psychiatry recognizes the need to prioritize nutrition for mitochondrial function. Eat food your ancestors ate. Mitochornial dysfunction is a key feature in bipolar, anxiety, and depression.

Want to have better relationships?

Stop over-explaining.

How to be clear and kind: Over-explaining is a stress response. When we over-explain we’re afraid that someone will get upset with us or misunderstand us.

Here’s what an adult child wants to hear from their parent.

(also called accountability) I know I didn’t always handle my emotions well, and I was overwhelmed often. I can see how that would have been scary for you growing up, and I’m so sorry you had to deal with that alone.