My #perimenopause has mostly had two settings
- beat someone up
- have a breakdown
Which is why I love the film Everything Everywhere All at Once so much: Evelyn beats many people up and has a breakdown of sorts. It is the perfect menopause allegory. #MenopauseAwarenessMonth
And I don’t know if Michelle Yeoh has ever talked about her #menopause transition. I don’t care, I love her. She’s 4yrs older than me so I’m claiming her too. It is enough for me that Evelyn gets to beat people up AND have a breakdown of sorts because fuck, yes please!
If you’re wondering where along my menopause journey I am, it is far enough that if I hear a voice in my head saying "Oh my god, you can't write about that!" I WILL IN FACT WRITE ABOUT THAT. To mark #MenopauseAwarenessMonth, some thoughts on shamelessness.
Few things are surrounded by more shame and silence than a cis woman who is no longer young, her vagina which is no longer wet, and her sex drive which is not supposed to exist. feministgiant.com/p/moisturize-y…#MenopauseAwarenessMonth
If I thought I needed to be brave to write about my 2 abortions,it is next level courage to admit to being that cis woman who is no longer young, whose vagina is no longer wet & whose sex drive is not supposed to exist.
So here I am looking shame in the eye, daring it to test me
I am “aware” of my menopause every day. To make up for the silence & taboo that ensures we know next to nothing about what happens to our bodies during this time, I'll be sharing some of my essays throughout the month. feministgiant.com/p/essay-menopa…
If you've ever menstruated, you can go through #menopause, a point in life that marks 12 months without a menstrual cycle.
The time leading up to menopause is known as #perimenopause, and once you’ve reached the point of 12 months w/out a menstrual cycle,you are post-menopausal
It is not just cis women who experience menopause.
Remember non-binary people, trans men, and other gender non-conforming /expansive groups who also experience menopause and do so under even greater levels of silence and taboo.
What if #menopause is a dive into the self to explore the myths of what we're supposed to be at this stage of our life, what "success" is, what "milestones" to celebrate or regret. And to then wreck them.
Is #menopause harder when you’ve ticked off milestones that have become reminders of how few of them lie ahead still; are they reminders, in other words, of how little time is left?