Thread by @oztwidows

Good evening to Aussies & Good afternoon, Good morning to anyone else around the planet who comes across this thread. Time has been spent this week looking after real life issues outside of the internet. Today's thread is again about misogyny, AGP trans person, & transwidows

I've come across this article by Tatum Street in the Spectator, spectator.com.au/2022/10/austra…. I don't think she quite understands the role of AGP in trans women, but does use a well known ex AFL footballer as an example, so I'll run with it. 2/* #transwidowsOz #transwidows

Men who abuse women, are feted, particularly celebrity but when you add in a dash of blue & pink, it absolves one of their sins. Recently a #transwidow discovered her ex husband, an AGP trans person was showcased at a feminist event. It stopped her from speaking up. 3/*

Many other women who are #transwidows, see their former spouses rise &receive praise, get sympathy for how hard it must have been to hide their "true selves" and their suffering spouses, in the words of one well known irish psychologist, "well done you". 4/* #transwidowsOz

What do #transwidows have in common with the victim of the former footballer? We're women, we've been abused, harassed, we've felt frightened for our life and sanity, & we have no support in the aftermath. #transwidowsOz

As Tatum has written in her article, it's galling to see the Australian Prime Mister @AlboMP standing shoulder to shoulder with a person who caused a woman to fear for her security & wellbeing. 6/* #transwidowsOz #transwidows

There's no redemption arc for AGP trans people who have abused their spouses or women & family in their lives before, during and after transition, nor does being trans nullify responsibility for their behaviour towards #transwidows. 7/* #transwidowOz

#transwidows need the support, the counseling, the welcoming arms of the very organisations that currently reject them, for believing in their own material reality & experiences. 8/* #transwidowsOz

When praising a transperson who's in a standard relationship, for coming out & being brave & strong, think about what you're saying to their spouses. You could be sanctioning domestic violence, coercion, psychological & emotional abuse. #transwidows #transwidowsOz FIN

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