I used to never picture the future, because I never thought I would live to see it. I worked so hard, for years, on loving myself in order to see a future where I could exist.
I can't express how painful it is to have that taken away again due to rising fascism.
I don't picture the future anymore, because I don't know if I'll live to see it. I don't know what it will look like. There's simply an empty void, approaching closer each and every day.
And I try to function in spite of it.
I don't consider myself particularly brave, but I've been focusing on what I can control. On what I can do. And the one piece of solid ground in the future is that I'll be fighting, to protect the vulnerable. And to protect myself.
At least now I know I'm worth fighting for.
And I remember, for better or for worse, that what we do as fascism escalates is a choice. A series of constant choices. Choices to look the other way, or to try to help. Choices to stop this.
I can trust myself enough to know I'll be choosing to fight, even when I am afraid.
There is power that we hold, even now. Power to intervene in hardship and strife. In the face of an immense, faceless enemy, we can give faces to its victims. Because no matter how small, every bit counts. Every time you support someone counts, because every person matters.
So this is a reminder. Things are dire. It's time to choose what kind of a person you are. It's time to make choices.
It's okay to be afraid. It's okay to feel small right now.
But it's not okay to write yourself off because of that. We need everyone.
We are so strong together.
"I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
If you live in the US and care about trans people, you can use transformationsproject.org to learn about anti-trans and pro-trans legislation proposals in your state and nationally, and also find contact info for your representatives. Please take a few minutes to do this, and RT.
I would also encourage everyone with disposable income to go to the hashtag #TransCrowdFund and support struggling trans people.
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TIL about "broken heart syndrome", where by a mechanism science has yet to understand, traumatic events, especially the loss of someone close to you, can trigger heart issues and eventually heart failure.
In the year after losing a loved one, women are twice as likely to die as those who have not lost a loved one. For men, this rate increases astronomically, as they are 6x more likely to die as those who have not lost a loved one.
I would be willing to bet this is because men on average have fewer close social connections, and so the loss of a single loved one is likely to be a greater proportion of their total support.
Toxic masculinity and the social isolation it causes kill not just women, but men too.
Controversial take but I hate the ally flag. It's just a way for cishet people to "express support" without the risk of being assumed queer.
Lmao
This post is getting a lot more traction than I expected, so let me say this. Some people have brought up that they've used the ally flag when it wasn't safe for them to ID as openly queer. I think that's a valid point. I don't intend this post to mean the ally flag can't exist.
I don't bother arguing with "gender critics". I'm a biologist. I could cite sources + explain scientifically why there is no support for their positions. But I don't bc it doesn't matter.
The bigots aren't bigots bc of the science; they're using their understanding of the science to justify their bigotry. When they feel the "evidence" isn't in their favor, they choose to ignore it or belittle it.
This is not a fight that can be won simply by being in the right.
That's terrifying, I know, but it's also important. We have to fight like hell bc our winning is NOT guaranteed, and lives are on the line.
Thinking a lot about how transness and fatness intertwine, and how even as I transition and my dysphoria reduces, I still need to do extra work compared to thin trans people to love myself and my body.
Thinking a lot about how the "representatives" of the trans community are overwhelmingly thin. Thinking a lot about the mental health of fat trans people who are often told our fatness makes us undesirable, ugly and unloveable.
Thinking a lot about the cumulative effects of the lack of support and affirmation for fat trans people compared to our thin counterparts.
I'm a large trans account. One of the largest among transmascs. And I want to take a moment to acknowledge that my following is tied to my whiteness. Consistently, we see racism in the trans community limit the voices of trans people of color, especially Black and Indigenous ppl.
The racism in the trans community isn't an issue our community can ignore, and it's not an issue that large white accounts can ignore without contributing to the harms here. It harms the most vulnerable among us, who we should rightfully be supporting the MOST.
It is unacceptable to simply look at the racism in the twitter trans community and decide that because you're white, it is not your problem. My whiteness is intrinsically tied to my influence, and it gives me a responsibility to point out racism.
I'm staring down potentially being financially secure and stable for the first time in my adult life and I'm... So excited?
Like, in a few months I might be able to afford to commission artists I like, or get new tattoos. I'll be able to contribute to mutual aid without stress. I'll be able to buy myself a coffee as a treat whenever I want. Mostly I'm looking forward to being more mentally stable.
Material conditions affect mental health so much, but our "solutions" are hyperindividualized instead of systemic. It's a scam. You can't "mindset" your way out of material hardship and systemic discrimination.