Okay, not to bang on about #Ballum, but Callum closing the window dramatically like that, without clarifying 'hang on, I'm coming down', in order to do a big romantic moment, and not realising that Ben would think he'd left the conversation, was the most adorably Halfway thing 😂
Ben: *declares his undying love loudly and publicly*

Callum:
Imagine if he'd got down there and Ben had already walked away, and Callum was just stumbling around looking for him like 'shit, my big dramatic romantic moment did not go as planned'.
The way that @BigGayAdventure pointed out to me that Callum making sure the window was shut before going to do his big dramatic romantic thing was like him making sure the tap was turned off whilst comforting Ben during his meltdown. Always practical, is our Callum.

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Oct 29
Seeing as Simon Baron-Cohen is once again out and about being trumpeted as THE autism expert, let's talk about the damage that his 'extreme male brain' theory has done to #ActuallyAutistic people, and how that damage continues to reverberate through autism circles to this day.
It's not his only damaging theory, there's absolutely been more than one of those, but his 'extreme male brain' theory is the one I'm interested in, as it more directly relates to my area of interest (autism, sexuality and gender). And boy, has it done damage on numerous fronts.
So what is the 'extreme male brain' theory? Well, it's the theory that autistic people have an extreme version of a so-called 'male' brain, meaning we see the world through a 'male' lens, and struggle with more 'female' things like socialising and social cues.
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How about, rather than saying 'autism can present differently, and with different challenges, and therefore we need to come up with new subgroups within autism', we instead commit to holistic, individualised approaches that directly work with every autistic person's unique needs?
Simply creating new subgroups based on things like IQ (blech) 9r whether someone is verbal or not, will only serve to create an autism 'tier' system, and will also continue to not address that people will have different needs and challenges to others in that subgroup.
It's basically taking the idea of 'severely' or 'profoundly' autistic, and/or the ideas around functioning labels, realising those have fallen out of favour, and trying to find an alternative name for them without actually addressing the fundamental issues with those labels.
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Oct 29
I will start believing that the world gives a damn about autistic people when the world collectively stops giving Simon Baron-Cohen airtime as an 'autism expert'.
How can one single person cause so much damage, and then continue to be viewed by the world as the top 'expert' in the field in which he caused all that damage? Whereas if an autistic advocate gets something wrong, we're often consequently excluded from the room forever.
There are generations of autistic women, and, actually, autistic people of all genders and gender presentations, who have been missed, overlooked and neglected because of this man's work. His work is not only misogynistic, but deeply bio-essentialist and sprinkled with eugenics.
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Oct 29
In so many cases, your acceptance of difference is contingent on a) us hating ourselves, and b) us wanting, or at least trying, to be more 'normal'.

For example, you're okay with autistic people, so long as we see our autism as a tragic, and try our hardest to act neurotypical.
You see this so often with queer identities too, that people are willing to accept that you're queer, as long as you don't get too loud or proud about it, as long as you don't talk about it, and as long as you try and behave as straight-acting as you possibly can.
The idea around this is simple: we will accept who you are, as long as you make it clear that the way you are is tragically against your own will, and you would change to 'normal' in a heartbeat if it was humanly possible to do so.
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Oct 29
One of my least favourite fictional tropes is: a character's parent was evil, and that's why this character does bad things, even if they haven't ever met or had any real interaction with said parent. It's lazy, and it also feeds into harmful ideas around mental illness.
It builds into this idea that your genetics determine your character, and there's nothing you can do about that (see Dany in GOT, Jade or Hope in Corrie), and also seems to suggest that evilness is a form of mental illness, as mental illness does/can have a genetic component.
That last bit is important, because that's where the harm comes in - it treats evilness/badness as a mental illness which can be passed on to the evil/bad person's children, and that's a deeply harmful, dangerous trope around mental illness which we should have moved beyond.
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tw: transphobia

When you try and act like there is a strict, defined, universal experience of being a woman, and you use that shared 'experience' to exclude trans women from claiming womanhood, I say you are absolutely full of shit. There is no single 'experience' of womanhood.
My experience as a disabled woman is very different to an abled woman's experience.

My experience as a queer woman is very different to a straight woman's experience.

And I know that my experience as a white woman is very different to the experiences of women of colour.
Trans women may have a different experience of being a woman than I have, but *I* have a totally different experience of being a woman, due to so many factors, than tons of other women out there. We all have shared experiences, but we don't all share in one experience.
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