Why does my #autistic child manage to behave well all day at school, then go into meltdown when I collect them? A short thread for parents.
Hello. I'm autistic. So is our fine son. Let's look at a school day...
First, a school day starts with a lot of cleaning-of-child (sensory pain).
And a lot of getting dressed into clothes that feel like sandpaper or barbed wire on the skin. ...ctd...
Then, there's the peril of the school playground with screaming, shouting, chatting. It blends into one hellish noise for the autistic child, unable to see faces to identify who is who, & can't read face expressions fast enough. So socialising becomes impossible & scary. ../ctd
Going to do a little thread on what it’s like to be on the autistic spectrum. Will add to it from time to time, mostly myth debunking, stuff you might not know & how to help / interact with autistic people in your life. #ActuallyAutistic
Did you know that a lot of autistic people have problems processing sensory input? Even leaving the house can be totally overwhelming as we are less tolerant of bright lights, strong smells, loud noises (or multiple noise sources), textures, motion etc. #ActuallyAutistic
If you’re meeting an autistic friend, try to meet somewhere quiet & calm. If you can make the effort to travel closer to us, that helps greatly as long journeys can be really difficult. On top of the sensory issues, we can be very anxious about planning. #ActuallyAutistic
Autism. A romp through history in some easy tweets. A thread.
It's been around for all of human history, as far as we know. A part of human diversity, and very diverse it is, too. Any gender, age, background, IQ, skill set. /ctd...
Autism was first noticed by a woman, Sukhareva, who wrote about in 1926 and noted that we had pretty major sensory issues. Then, some men claimed they'd invented it, and decided it was mostly to do with males, which it isn't. /ctd...
In fact, not only did they think autism was to do with males, but they were pretty sure it was young males, with a very low IQ, language difficulties and goodness only knows what else. All incorrect, as it turns out. So... /ctd...
Another hate campaign...
This time it's #endautismnow.
This is a truly vile one, and it's good to see so many #ActuallyAutistic people speaking against it. Here's my thoughts on it.
This'll be a long one...
CW: ableism, child abuse, violence, trauma, mentions of eugenics.
Okay, so first and foremost:
There is no 'cure' for autism. And even if there was, us autistic people wouldn't want it.
We experience life through the unique viewpoints that we have, and suddenly losing that perspective would be the height of trauma.
I'm talking about a full on existential crisis here... So much of how we perceive the world is shaped by our autistic minds. We would not recognise the world should that change so drastically.
- Fluctuating emotional age
- Hypersensitivity to sounds, smells, tastes, bright lights
- Compulsive talking about special interests (infodumping)
- Involuntary strict adherence to spreadsheets and lists
- All-consuming obsessions with crushes
- Inability to see a barrier between "me" and "rest of the world"
- Emotional response to other people's mistakes
- Feeling of sadness, helplessness, anger at spelling errors
- Inability to tell time; to distinguish past, present and future
- Taking things literally
- Hyperverbalism: intuitive understanding of etymology, grammar, spelling; inability to use "easy" words when "big" ones convey things better
- Sing-song voice OR flat affect
- Spinning, skipping, clapping, flapping, childlike or wooden body language
I spoke to a young woman yesterday who didn't think she could be autistic because she experienced empathy. Once more for the back of the room: autistic people do not lack empathy.
The misapprehension comes - I think - because maybe we don't always express our empathy in ways that non-autistic people immediately recognise. But it's there, trust me. We're sometimes overwhelmed by it.
I think this imagined lack of empathy is often used to de-humanise us: we're not rounded people; we have something lacking. It's just plain wrong.
Communication for me as an #actuallyautistic#Dyslexic is like a living jenga puzzle. At any second a learning or physical #disability is moving those pieces on me and one wrong move and it all comes down.
Thank goodness I live in a time with so many various
A lot of people reach out to me asking about autism because they suspect they might be on the spectrum too. No autistic person is the same, but below is a thread of different expressions and common co-occuring conditions
Autism can be described as differences in excutative functioning, motor skills, and sensory skills, as well as differences in communication and social skills (but the last two are emphasized too much, and the 1st 3 are not brought up enough)
What does this look like? I'm messy, clumsy, can't switch between tasks, have terrible hearing, and occasionally go mute or mix up my words
It’s mental health awareness week-and as 1 in 4 of us will suffer from a mental illness I’d like to share with you my story.I have nothing to hide and no qualms about delving into my very candid story about my mental health. Trigger warning: suicide idealisation and a long read..
began feeling ‘strange’ around August time 2017. I can’t put my finger on what triggered it or what led me to decline so quickly but I just didn’t feel ‘right’.It all came to a head at Christmas time when I drove home on the motorway drunk after a fall out during a night out
I didn’t fear for my life, I already had it in my head that I was ok if I didn’t survive. Things got worse after that. I made it into work the first day back after Christmas and honestly didn’t know how I hadn’t crashed my car because that’s all I was thinking about doing
So I've been thinking about this for a while now and I'd like to share my thoughts on the language we use, and how we think about, "challenging behaviour" (CB). I'd like to replace the term with Distressed Behaviour (DB)
For me the change from CB to 'behaviour that challenges', while welcome, doesn't go far enough. It also requires some clunky linguistic gymnastics to say. I think we can do better.
CB is usually defined as "Culturally abnormal behaviour(s) of such an intensity, frequency or duration that the physical safety of the person or others is likely to be placed in serious jeopardy, or behaviour which is likely to seriously limit use of, or result in the person...
The paper makes a fairly compelling case that Hans Asperger was complicit in the Nazi eugenics project, using a wealth of documentary evidence that the author is to be commended for compiling. (1)
The paper has some flaws - for example, it criticizes @stevesilberman's NeuroTribes for not including this info on Asperger, when the author is very aware that the reason for this is that he declined to make his research available to Silberman. But overall, it's very solid. (2)
This thread is in reaction to @brookewinters33 's thread earlier today on functional labels (please check it out) and some of the antagonistic responses it gathered.
I will try to explain why "functional labels" are harmful in our lives as an #ActuallyAutistic family.
Useful context: I am an immigrant in the US. When my child was first diagnosed at 18 months (I was still with my ex at that time) we were insistently told by multiple professionals that we MUST use functional labels. #ActuallyAutistic
"a child's precocious ability to read." Except it does affect us as adults. and it is a learning disability.
As a child, i picked up reading very fast. I was reading novels in Grade 2, and by grade 7, I was reading at a 3rd-4th year University level and had a vocabulary somewhere around most masters students.
Even now, I read quickly, and when it hits special interest time, I won't be able to stop. Like when I discovered the Dresden Files novels in ~2007.
I watched The Brainwashing of My Dad last night and it explained so much for me but was so exhausting. In 2015 it didn’t even touch on the way the rightwing extremists would use fb or reddit and YouTube to radicalize and warp my previously open minded family and friends
I keep telling people in my life the scariest thing about fb is the way it drives wedges between neighbors and families, radicalizing social bubbles until we don’t recognize each other. People are only just now criticizing fb “cause it stole our data”. Not cause of the wedges.
The Brainwashing of My Dad didn’t have to mention online media or 2016 at all, you can easily extrapolate from what’s been going on in talk radio and Fox and right wing emails how decades of focused, intentional work on the right got us here.