Thread by @imanmbadawi

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This is the reality in most Muslim households. Many fathers are absent due to the prevalent #religious_rhetoric that “men’s work” is outside the home. It has no basis in the Religion and is damaging generations. This is a human virtue that is fully backs by the sacred law…

https://twitter.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/1592592438706642944

By the agreement of reputable scholars (including @habibomar @alhabibabobakr), parenthood is a divine trust bestowed on both mother and father.

In fact, based on the sacred law, the primary responsibility for the tarbiya of the family is UPON THE FATHER. This requires presence.

That is what family leadership is about and the core of guardianship is to undertake the care of another through the dictates of divine mercy and prophetic teaching.

It is truly sickening to see so much of the “masculinity” discourse on MT focused on a delusional sense…

of the ego’s satisfaction in ‘lording over’ others (women or otherwise) when God, Himself, does not arbitrarily exert Dominion over His Own creation, but rather upon Mercy.

God says, “The All-Merciful has ascended the Thrown” (Quran 20:5)

الرَّحْمَنُ عَلَى العَرْشِ اسْتَوَى

The most honored in God’s Sight are those who are most conscious of their religious responsibilities, none of which are more important than those that directly affect another human being, let alone the most vulnerable of them, children.

اللهم صلّ وسلّم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وآله

The *tarbiya trickle down* of ‘absent mercy’ in families is like toxic rain on a field of fruits.

Seeping into the soil of their child soul, it begins with an irreparable wound in the parental relationship and transfers to the marital relationship, harvesting destruction…

A man’s job is NOT just to make money,

abuse isn’t just through loudly inflicting harm,

and the passive harm of not treating (even) children like human beings with emotional needs is SILENT ABUSE.

Mercy isn’t a privilege, it’s a right. That is the way of our Prophet ﷺ and

if Muslims can’t actualize that with those closest to them - their families - by what proof do they claim to follow this Religion?

Scholarly teachings that enable #religious_rhetoric propagate this silent abuse.

This is among the reasons why female scholarship is so critical.

The human reality of mercy is reached through the religious reality of mercy & that can only be known through true scholarship.

Allah’s infinite peace & blessings be upon Rasūlullāh, his pure progeny & folk, gleaming companions, illuminated inheritors and all loyal followers

“The HUMAN reality of mercy is reached through the RELIGIOUS reality of mercy & that can only be known through true scholarship.”

This shaykh said *exactly* as the above and this is the core of our message @FitraFoundation, that religious MEANINGS impart HUMAN meanings…

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