The researchers looked back at the lives of the 80-year-old participants to determine what factors were predictive of healthy aging.
What did they find?
Relationship satisfaction at age 50 was predictive of health at age 80.
Study director Robert Waldinger:
"It wasn’t their cholesterol levels that predicted how they were going to grow old. It was how satisfied they were in their relationships. The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80."
Finding: Loneliness kills.
Humans are social creatures. We thrive through connection to those around us.
Study participants who felt isolated were observably less happy and experienced notably earlier declines in health than those who felt connected.
The study observed the negative impacts of alcohol and smoking on the long-term health of the participants, but found that loneliness was just as negatively impactful.
Study director Robert Waldinger:
"Loneliness kills. It’s as powerful as smoking or alcoholism."
This finding on loneliness is interesting in the context of the chart I shared last week on the amount of time we spend alone over the course of our lives.
While we need to learn to embrace solitude, the quality and depth of our social connections is critical to our well-being.
Finding: Quality over quantity.
The researchers found that the quality of relationships was more impactful on health and happiness than the quantity of relationships.
A few deep bonds are worth far more than hundreds of weak or unhealthy ones.
Those are 3 powerful findings from the study that everyone should know.
For more on the study, check out this wonderful 2016 Ted Talk from study director Robert Waldinger.
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The research was also covered in a recent episode of @hubermanlab podcast.
I can’t believe Roman is 6 months old today. The days are long but the years are short. Embrace every single moment!
I was out on a walk with Roman recently when an older man approached me.
He said:
“I remember walking here with my newborn daughter. An old man came up to me and said ‘It goes by fast, cherish it.’ Well, my daughter is 45 now. It goes by fast, cherish it.”
Don’t blink.
As a side note, I take real issue with the cynicism that exists around becoming a parent.
• “Hope you got your fun in!”
• “Enjoy never sleeping again!”
The good outweighs the bad by 10000x. It’s not even close.
This is part of why I share so much positive “Dad” content.
My first appearance on My First Million just went live.
• How private equity guys make so much money
• 3 ideas for cash flowing businesses
• My businesses and numbers
• How @ShaanVP changed my life
• @thesamparr’s love of Mean Girls
Here’s the funny but true story of how I pitched Stitch Fix as a long at $46 in a job interview and mercifully got rejected on the spot (rather than being fired 9 months later when it was trading at $3).