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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

Jul 9

Ok let’s tell this story for the last time. I won’t be repeating it.

This is why you don’t see me at TERF events & why to avoid KJK & S4W.

So it’s the end of 2021 & I’m seeking out women only events. Reason in comments. Enter Standing For Women. They had a private, ticketed event planned. Weirdly it was right by my parents place & on a weekend I was there so I booked a ticket. I was charged £536 for the ticket. That was a lot, but I couldn’t get any response from emails which meant I definitely had to go.

The day comes & I straighted up for the occasion, not sure if lesbians were welcome. I arrive around 8.30pm, late. Immediately, I go to the bar & order a “decoy drink” as I don’t drink but Brits find that weird, so I was thrilled to find the barman was French. I asked, in French, for an elderflower in a wine glass, & hit my first obstacle of the evening when the barman asked me for my number. Awkward.

It struck me that a women’s event should probably have female staff, or at least the men should be prepped not to hit on attendees. Never mind - I wrote down a fake number as the rest of the women at the bar stared daggers at me. If I could have left there & then, I would have.

Next I go to the smoking area to avoid French Barman. So far, all guests were female. I made a friend & got chatting. So far, a 5/10.

Back inside, I get prickly when I notice the DJ Guy leering at me. I have to make damn sure I’m not making that up so I ask the women I’m chatting to check. I wonder why a feminist event would hire a male DJ but my question is quickly answered when a woman tells me that the DJ is KJKs husband. Awkward.

I’d have left there & then if I’d had an answer on the £500 membership charge, so set about getting that answer. I go outside to smoke to avoid Leery DJ Guy & French Barman, but that’s not an option for long as the bouncers tell everyone in the smoking area to go inside as it was speech time.

I said I was fine outside, thanks, I can miss speeches. No, they were mandatory, so I paused at the door before going in to text my partner about Leery DJ Guy/French Barman & she said to get my phone out & film. Clever. Surely, she said, a man will know better at a S4W event than to openly leer at a woman with a camera in her hand? Nope, he kept doing it, only now he was panning me up & down. Awkward.

Quick pause - yes I’m used to male attention but I had specifically sought out a women’s only event, as I was not at ease in male company at the time. I still feel that if men are to attend these events, they should keep their eyes in their damn heads & not hit on attendees. Anyway:

I filmed the speeches, took some pics of the DJ Guy, & sent them to my partner. She said gtfo after you’ve asked about this £500 charge. Urgh, that! I asked around & the first woman I spoke to (Mel?) said she was part of the org, so I explained the membership mix up & she said that was definitely a mistake, ofc KJK isn’t out here scamming people, & to email again. OK?

My mother raised me right so I had to introduce myself to the host & say “thank you for having me” before I left. I found KJK. She’s a busy woman so I “elevator pitch” why I’m there & start with “I’m a lesbian &…”.
She stops me, interrupts, & replies: “Well I’m not one” with a look. Rude.

I go to leave but my jacket is gone. Huh. Only an hour left so I sit down chatting, my back to DJ Guy. When the lights go up I spot my jacket in his possession. An old trick - he’s trying to force an interaction. I approach, ask for my jacket, & he tries to start a convo. I shut him down with:

“One day, I hope someone looks at me the way you look at YOUR WIFE.” & turn & leave.

I get straight in the car & go, vowing never to return.

I’m still £500 down, have sent 15+ emails, but no reply. I do not wish to be a member of S4W not attend any more TERF events. Her husband is a creep & she can’t organise an event for women that doesn’t leave us vulnerable to unwanted male attention.

The music was good.

*** I was seeking out female only events as I’d recently reported rape/SA to the police. A friend pinned me down in my sleep & forced himself on me.

You’re not allowed to discuss a case during investigation & he & I have mostly mutual friends, so I was seeking out new female only events.

This was not that.

While I don’t begrudge KJK her living, there is no reason for anyone to pay £500 for a lifetime membership to a private events company that has only been running 4 years. That’s ludicrous.

If anyone can assist me in getting a refund sorted that would be lovely. I have been blocked by both KJK & S4W and take that as a clear boundary that I am not to attend any events, anyway, & I respect women’s boundaries.

But £536 for a 2 1/2 hour event where two separate men behaved inappropriately is too much. My limit for that is around £15.

Thanks.

Oh - @StandingforXX @ThePosieParker

Oh stay tuned for the videos & pics of above events.

I’m afraid I have to blur out the background to protect the other women from being exposed as S4W members (& her adult kids were there, so are in my “Leery Husband” pics & in the video) but that’s the only change I’ll make.

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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

May 11

Wish me luck today as I appeal my @Tinder ban. Again.

I was banned for asking for an option to “opt out” of being shown (& shown to) all these lovely *lesbian women who are definitely not just crossdressing men chancing it online.

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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

Apr 21

Here’s a list of trans people who DID stick up for women’s rights & spaces this past decade. Please follow.

They could have sat back & raked in sponsorship-this & award-that but didn’t. They turned to their trans peers & said No, which is very difficult.

They are:🧵
@BuckAngel

@BuckAngel is a transsexual man who was one of the first people to become known over a decade ago for speaking about being trans.

From the start, Buck supported women & our spaces over trans inclusion, to his own detriment.

He objected to being used as a pawn for TRAs. Hero!

@MsBlaireWhite is a transgender woman who was the first to go viral as a trans woman opposing trans ideology, especially in schools.

Speaking up first is hard. Changing your stance publicly is hard. Blaire did both.

Thank you, Blaire.

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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

Mar 2

Here are the loopholes I’ve found that are created by Trans Inclusion that harm women & children.

I’ll update this thread as I find more.

Let’s me start by saying I remain a trans ally & agree trans people deserve to live openly, without discrimination.

However: 🧵

Trans Inclusion harms lesbians.

Lesbian bars & events must currently admit *males. This attracts men who crossdress & infiltrate our spaces to loom over, leer at, harass & abuse lesbians.

There are more lesbians “out” than ever but zero lesbian bars in the UK & only 5 in the USA. This has disbanded the lesbian community & endangers young sapphic women as we try to meet.

Ask any lesbian - she’ll likely have had an ordeal with a man in a sapphic space who has come in specifically to be creepy little perverts.

Essentially, trans inclusion has meant lesbian bars are now no more than Lesbian Aquariums for men with a fetish for lesbians to use to target us. Organisers face accusations of transphobia if they won’t allow *males in to lesbian/bi women’s events.

Of course men are using the loophole created to include trans women to harass lesbians. We’re scared & these men seek out confrontation. It’s a kink, a fetish, an abuse of the law & an insult to both the trans community & lesbians/bi women to ignore this happens. It does.

Trans women remain male so are not lesbians anyway. Most trans women respect that & wouldn’t come to lesbian only events. Only fetishist, crossdressing men do that. It’s an uncomfortable truth & very easy to look away but I beg of you - don’t. Please listen to lesbians as we fight to retain our right to meet without men.

It has become a given that to attend a lesbian/bi event means we will likely have to deal with crossdressing men who have come specifically to target us. They will film us, try to start confrontations, expose their genitals to us, leer at & loom over us & generally make it impossible for us to “just ignore them”. This is our punishment for daring to not being attracted to men.

It’s OK to oppose these men & we must be able to say No to any *male in sapphic spaces. The next generation of lesbians deserve to feel safe & supported & have access to their community. Us elders are fighting not only for us but for all sapphic women. Please help?

No, it is not transphobic for us to not “date” biological males. That’s just lesbianism. Any consequences faced by women for simply being homosexual is homophobia.

The loophole which allows any male to enter lesbian bars or events must be closed. Lesbians are human female homosexuals. We never have nor want penises. Stop supporting a movement which destroys our ability to meet without *males or accused us of hate because of our unchangeable sexuality.

Trans women & lesbians are cool. We’re allies. It’s men causing the problem, here. We must retain sapphic spaces for biological women only.
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Trans Inclusion harms domestic violence victims & abuse/SA survivors.

Domestic Violence shelters & services for women are no longer safe. Male abusers can currently follow their victims in to the shelter she has escaped to & access her again, so long as they claim to be a trans woman also escaping an abusive relationship. Yes, of course an abusive man will do this.

It is already hugely difficult for abused women to leave an abusive relationship. Any reason a woman may think twice about seeking help or shelter is to be shut down. Women deserve support surviving abuse & the men doing the abusing will go to any lengths to prevent their victim breaking free. The fact that the man could present as a trans woman & he admitted in to a women’s shelter or access the same services is preventing women from seeking help.

There are even men who will use the loophole that says trans women may use women’s shelters & services to crossdress & try to befriend or get close to vulnerable women. Vulnerable women are exactly what these men wish to find & when we allow any male to access DV/Rape services or shelters, we invalidate them.

Domestic Violence shelters & services which provide help to abused women must remain female only. Women deserve to have a completely male-free environment in which to recover. The early stages of these victims recovery is no time to forcibly include trans women(who remain male) in our few shelters & support groups.

Trans women remain male & it is not transphobic to acknowledge that. When a woman has been abused or is a victim of sexual violence, they should be able to be in a female only environment.

There is a shelter in Scotland who employed a trans woman as the manager of a DV Shelter. That is not appropriate. No one should be forced to lie & say they believe a male can be a woman just because he says so. That is forced speech.

Women’s services should be run by & accesses by biological women only. The loopholes trans inclusion creates are being used by dangerous men & that must stop. Just the possibility of a shelter or service not being female only is enough to stop women in great danger & great need from accessing these safe spaces.

Of course trans women are also victims of abuse & also deserve support but they should have their own shelters. It should not be women’s job to fix the problems caused by violent men.

Keep Domestic Violence & Rape shelters & services female only. To remain silent on this is to leave women unable to leave abusive relationships & this is often a life threatening situation. There is no time to be occupied with trans inclusion while abused women pay the price.

Trans women surely do not wish for women to be robbed of this lifeline for their benefit? There is so much support for trans services, so open your own. Why force already existing women’s services to include males?

As with lesbian bars, men abuse the loophole created by forced trans inclusion & Self ID to enter DV shelters & prey on vulnerable women. No. Of course predatory men will wish to find & target women already worn down by the horrors of domestic abuse & sexual violence. We cannot support any loophole which makes it easier for these men to acces their victims or find new ones.

No males in women’s emergency shelters & services.
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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

Nov 11, 2024

I keep being told off & declared “offensive” for saying I don’t care about trans people.

Not what I meant. I mean I don’t care, nor do I care to learn, what makes someone trans. You do you, I won’t to stop or attack you.

What I will fight is the destruction of women’s spaces🧵

Example: Men (the male kind🙄) are pretending to be trans & using women’s spaces/services as a playground for their various fetishes.

It started with lesbian bars, so those all closed bc: BREAKING: lesbians don’t like being perved on & harassed by men.

Then prisons. Men are…🧵

Men saying “I’d love to go to a womens prison!” used to be a joke.

Now, it’s a reality. You need only check Reddit etc to see that many men are “bookmarking” false feelings of Gender Dysphoria with their Doctors so that they may go to a women’s prison if caught for a crime.😒
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EJ Rosetta 💚🖤💜

@ejrosetta

Jul 23, 2024

I’ve just been banned from @Tinder for privately reporting this clearly-a-man, asking for an option for lesbians to opt out of trans women. As they are male.

I made the request privately, I didn’t contact this individual, I have not been hateful.

But I’m banned for life.

Thanks, @Tinder , for reminding us lesbians where we stand.

Which is in the dangerous position of being forced to include crossdressing *males in our dating pool or be banned from your platform.

You clearly believe lesbians have no right to deny males access to our community & bodies.

We’ll remember you said that.

@Tinder This was my report. A simple plea to the @Tinder God’s to allow an option which respects all sexualities - in this case, lesbians.

But it seems my sexuality is hateful, bigoted & is literally preventing people from “being themselves” just for wishing to opt out of dating *males.

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