Rez shuns survivors and sics cops on its own members for being advocates, yet welcomes in a child molester and protects his anonymity.

@ChurchRez, was John Hays allowed to attend your “family meeting”?

Is he “safer” than @LuhmannAudrey and @Bookof_kell?

This isn’t a rhetorical question. I don’t know if John Hays was at the “family meeting.” I just know about people @ChurchRez kicked out or tried to kick out, and why.

And I’m curious if a registered sex offender was welcome where survivor advocates and a victim’s mother weren’t.
And when I ask if John Hays is “safer” in @ChurchRez’s opinion than Audrey and Kelley, that isn’t random or rhetorical either.

Rez leaders specifically told Audrey and Kelley that they were unsafe, disruptive, and “not part of the family.”

kelleygoewey.wordpress.com/2022/11/23/thi… Image
Which reminds me of how in 2019 @cherinmarie2 and her family were asked to attend a different @ChurchRez service because their presence made someone uncomfortable.

How do abuse survivors and advocates make Rez unsafe, but sexual predators like John Hays and Chris Lapeyre don’t?
Men who sexually violated children and teenagers are quietly assigned chaperones.

No chaperones for victims, victims’ parents, or the abuse survivor with incurable cancer who publicly lamented @ChurchRez failing other survivors.

They just have to leave.

acnatoo.org/acnatoo-blog/l…
It’s very on-brand, then, that Bp. Stewart called public advocacy a “vicious spiritual attack of the enemy.”

By @ChurchRez logic church leaders are the real victims, sexual predators are part of the “family,” and abuse survivors are Satan’s instruments.

religionnews.com/2022/04/29/acn…
While I’m busy linking articles I think everyone should read, let me end on this one by @RobSturdy.

Rob wrote that a “theology of glory” is “endlessly destructive.”

That is the theology at work in all of this.

And the destruction is ongoing.

#ACNAtoo

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More from @ladyjessicahaze

Dec 4
In light of @ACNAtoo revealing that a convicted child molester has been attending @ChurchRez for three years, people are asking hard questions about church restoration plans for abusers.

The best plan I’ve seen so far, written by @DianeLangberg, is linked in the tweet below.
Spoiler: Dr. Langberg says the answer is not to have the abuser attend church, but to bring church to the abuser. As she illustrates in the article, this is hard work. But if @ChurchRez is serious about ministering to people like John Hays, then they need to put in the work.
I’m not an expert in the rehabilitation of sexual abusers. I *am* an expert in being abused and gaslit by a man who weaponizes fake repentance to manipulate people. And there are a lot more like him. I’ve talked to many of their survivors. Abuse patterns are highly repetitive.
Read 13 tweets
Oct 15
Hi Sean Luke, I hope you don’t mind me responding to your comments in a quote-tweet. Long replies done as individual tweets get messy.

First off, I am fine with you praying for Mark’s repentance. I would love it if Mark would repent. I just believe the chances are minuscule.
I say this because I’ve spoken with countless survivors, and with mental health professionals and other abuse experts, and not only does Mark check a whole lot of boxes for sociopathic behavior, but people who serially abuse multiple victims the way Mark did rarely change.
Worse than that, they often make a show of repentance and deceive people into thinking they’ve changed. So I will never trust Mark again, and I am terrified to think of a community ever trusting him. He is a liar, a serial rapist, and a thoroughly evil, calculating abuser.
Read 30 tweets
Sep 22
.@The_ACNA and @ChurchRez:

Yes, I am an “outsider.”

But my Christian friends who are in/supporting/corroborating @ACNAtoo?

They love the Church. Deeply. Even though you have wrought destruction on them and, in many cases, their families.

See all comments on this thread:
A number of my dear friends have been in @The_ACNA for years or decades.

They are devastated. They still love Jesus. They cannot reconcile their love of Jesus with what you are doing to “the least of these.”

They are crying out, and you’ve rebuffed them by scapegoating me.
You can tell yourselves that I am evil, a tool of Satan, out to burn down the Church.

But unless I’m a truly brilliant mastermind who’s single-handedly bewitched all these intelligent, sincere, highly ethical Christian people…

…their devastation is on you.
Read 11 tweets
Sep 8
There are so many ways to deceive without technically lying.

Facts are not the same as the truth.

My abuser lied, but much more frequently he wielded facts and omissions to gaslight me.

@The_ACNA comms team reminds me much more of Mark Rivera than they remind me of Jesus.
[collective gasp]

“How can you compare ACNA leadership to a serial sexual predator?!”

Because it was not the sexual assaults, per se, that nearly destroyed my soul.

It was the pervasive co-optation of my reality.

The theft of my lived experience.

The erasure of my humanity.
These are the parts of the abuse that institutions replicate when they tell survivors that we don’t know what we need, they know better, stay quiet, play nice.

When they say we consented, we’re equal partners with them, they love us and just want what’s best for us.
Read 7 tweets
Aug 27
I couldn’t agree more. My abuser only “had sex with me” (raped me while I was blacked out) twice in 2.5+ years of abuse.

The abuse consisted mostly of harassing, gaslighting, and manipulating me, electronically and in person.

It was about the power, not about the sex. 🧵
I still don’t know of a single person Mark had consensual extramarital sex with. Just victims where he had or created a power differential. In my case, by raping me then spinning lies while I was frozen in shock. He used my shock, outsider status, past trauma, etc. to control me.
Mark’s friend and (as Mark portrayed it to me) “accountability partner” Chris also expended massive amounts of time and energy grooming his victims proportionate to his physicalized sexual abuse of them.

See Ursa’s story:

acnatoo.org/diocese-of-the…
Read 23 tweets
Aug 24
CW: sexual abuse details

I’ve been sexually objectified and coerced by men in relationships throughout my life. These men were all over the religious and political spectrums.

Each one helped condition me for eventually being sexually abused by a conservative church leader. 🧵
The boyfriend who called me frigid and suggested that I owed him sexual favors considering all the nice things he did for me in the day-to-day.

The boyfriend who unilaterally decided to play out his porn fantasies in bed and laughed after doing something humiliating to me.
The close male friends who pressured me for more than friendship, who projected their sexual desire onto me and refused to believe I didn’t reciprocate, until I doubted my own reality and gave in.

The ones who used drugs and alcohol to wear down my resistance.
Read 28 tweets

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