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“I wish I had a mother like yours.”
Fourth grade was one of the years my daughter attended school. Everyday, when I dropped her off, I’d kiss her forehead, hug her, say I love you, then leave with a smile & salam. Her classmate, who had observed this, said the above to her.
“I wish I had a mother like yours.”
Fourth grade was one of the years my daughter attended school. Everyday, when I dropped her off, I’d kiss her forehead, hug her, say I love you, then leave with a smile & salam. Her classmate, who had observed this, said the above to her.
My daughter was reminded of the great blessing she has, but it was sad to hear this from another child. On another occasion, after receiving a low grade, the girl asked her if I’d get angry at it. My daughter, who thought the question strange, asked why. The girl said that her…
…parents get angry with her when she doesn’t get an A. This is unknown in our family. Healthy children want to do well. I’ve taughy my children that there are only two possibilities, either she did your best and needs to work on her weakness (which I always offer to help with)
or she didn’t do her best and needs to increase self-discipline and do better next time. No anger. No censure. Just advice and assistance. Can someone tell me what motive is justification to disparage, frighten, threaten, or withhold affection from a child?
Answer is — none.
Answer is — none.
We wonder why our society is so sick? So much anxiety? Perhaps because parents keep sending children the message that their worth or right to love & affection is based on performance, not inherent? Grades, looks, degrees, jobs, material possessions, marriage prospects…
Instead of teaching our children that THEY create worth in such things through their divine purpose and prophetic character, we implicitly teach them that they’re worthless unless they can acquire or achieve them. A terribly effective way to kill the moral instinct of a child…
One day, that “good” child will grow to be a “good” adult, one that has no sense of self, finds security in material things, derives self-worth from worldly stores, and struggles with ‘minnionships’
By then even a parent won’t be able to heal a wound that was disguised as love.
By then even a parent won’t be able to heal a wound that was disguised as love.
Today, to celebrate their great efforts this semester, I took my kids out for
dinner, at a restaurant we’ve wanted to try for a while
an activity, space museum & planetarium
and treat, boba tea for these connoisseurs.
They did so well this semester.
It wasn’t about grades.
dinner, at a restaurant we’ve wanted to try for a while
an activity, space museum & planetarium
and treat, boba tea for these connoisseurs.
They did so well this semester.
It wasn’t about grades.
#Parents, please,
LOVE YOUR KIDS — not their grades, not their alma matter, not the company they work for, not the $ they earn.
J us t l o v e t h e m.
Healthy children want to succeed, even when they don’t.
Unhealthy children feel like a failure, even when they succeed.
LOVE YOUR KIDS — not their grades, not their alma matter, not the company they work for, not the $ they earn.
J us t l o v e t h e m.
Healthy children want to succeed, even when they don’t.
Unhealthy children feel like a failure, even when they succeed.
May Allah’s infinite peace & blessings be upon Rasūlullāh, his pure progeny & folk, along with his gleaming companions, illuminated inheritors and all loyal followers until the Last Day.
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