A 🧵 on #NewYearResolutions and 10 rules on how to follow through on it.
Purposely writing this on day 8 of the new year so that only those genuinely wanting to work on themselves will read it.
I am only mentioning things that have helped me personally!
Read on. 👇🏼
Research about New Year Resolutions suggests that 23% of people quit/drop out in 1st week.
Only 36% people make it till 2nd month.
Only 8% are able to successfully keep up their resolutions!
So, should you really be keeping the New Year Resolutions despite knowing that the chances are as low as 8%?
As Akshay Kumar's character says in one of his finest movies, Baby, "Mai 1% pe bhi jaata hu!"
Even if the chances of success are 1%, it's better than never trying!
And there is nothing to lose even if you fail! You will at least gain some wisdom.
The key is not to take the failures too personally and too seriously.
New year resolutions give you that one essential thing which people believe is necessary for behavior change- motivation! 4/n
But as you go along, you will discover that motivation alone wouldn't be enough for anything.
What matters is having discipline in place even on days when motivation fails.
Rule 2: Have an accountability partner

It could be your friend/family member/therapist/fitness trainer.

A personal story: I used to post a lot of political tweets, which would generate controversies & my entire energy would be wasted in debating on it.
Made a resolution in Dec 2021 that I won't do that & made sure that whatever I post on Twitter passes through my wife first.
Rule 3: Don't skip more than 2 days in a row

Don't have evidence to prove it. It could be 2 days or 3 days, but what matters is to do anything with consistency.
If you are not able to exercise for 30 mins, then just go do it for 5 mins.
Mark your attendance! Every action you take is a vote for or against the habit you wish to cultivate, as @JamesClear says.
Rule 4: Your self-talk is important

Some people, when they fail to do a task begin a narrative, "I am so lazy. I am a procrastinator. I am good for nothing."
This does not help your cause.
Cognitive behavior therapy & Clinical Hypnosis is of immense help to correct this.

Rule 6: Enjoy the process

If you wish to become fitter but don't like going to the gym, then it's not going to work well.
What else do you like?
Taking a walk along a lake?
Nature trail?
Don't like running?
Like skipping? Cycling?
Explore. Choose for yourself.

Rule 7: Results will take time

People expect that once they start exercising, their muscles 💪 will begin to bulge in a week and get abs in a month.
That's not how it works. Sorry.
Results are going to take time.
So, refer to Rule 6!

Rule 8: Starting a new habit is better than just trying to quite old habit.

When I decided to stop using Twitter for any unnecessary controversy/debates, I asked what else I could use Twitter for?
Let me just stick to what I love - talking about mental health.
Not just that. I deleted FB & used Instagram also for promoting mental health awareness. In the middle of the year 2022, I made 200 reels on mental health every single day on Instagram. Check out my IG handle
14/n instagram.com/psychidiaries?…
Rule 9: Every small change, compounds.

This is one of my favorite amongst the impactful images! Stick it on your walls. Stick it in your mind!
Rule 10:
Remember that people who are neurodivergent & with mental health disorders & addiction could find it extremely difficult to follow through on the above 9 rules.
Don't hesitate to consult a mental health professional in that case.
Also, remember that you don't need to have a mental health disorder to consult a mental health professional. Gaining insight into your habits & patterns & learning some important coping skills can be of great help.
What are some other rules that have helped you? Please mention it here so that it can be of help.
Also, if you think this might be helpful to someone, don't hesitate to share it across.
Consider following me @psychidiaries if you like reading such posts.

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