The Women of the Wall showing up in tallis and tefillin is (1) the 1980’s called, they want their women’s liberation movement back. (2) women in ritual objects intended solely for men is either (1) displaying a deep sense of inadequacy as a woman or (2) indulging in a profane,
at best, fetish. The masculinization of women has hurt women, hurt men, and likely hurt children the most.
As much as the modern mind finds it difficult to comprehend, there are forces that zero in on the tiny bits of culture and morality today that are still pure and holy. The aspects of culture and law that are miraculously safe from the pervasive and thorough defilement of the
past hundred years, are an irresistible target from various angles. It’s a force to recognize.
An urge to defile the holy.
Reverse Maccabees. #chochmatnashim#WOtW
The term Hellenists is not really strong enough. Because we live in a post-Hellenist world where most of the oil has already been defiled. Hellenism isn’t new or exciting anymore; it’s a fait accompli. Those frantically searching for a tiny cask of still sealed oil to
uncover and adulterate are not really Hellenists; they’re Reverse Maccabees. Those who invite secular governments into schools that teach holiness, that worship the dreidel over the Chumash, are not Hellenists in a world where Enlightenment values are status quo;
@chayykay The frum world is in denial about how much secular culture regarding women and motherhood has already been absorbed into the furthest right enclaves of our society. Chochmat Nashim thinks it hasn’t gone far enough, but the average frum person does not realize how far
we are from normative frum culture of the 1990’s, when a woman who worked was supposed to add in, “But I wish I was home.”
The Instagram movement to normalize abortion among frum women, like Blimi Marcus on Twitter, is another example. Specific situations require a response, always did. Those are fact-specific and private. Endorsing abortion as an idea is anti-Torah and is already a strong force in
I was an angry adolescent. I felt stifled. I felt the corridor of appropriate behavior was too narrow. I chafed under the millions of rules, the inability to disagree, I burned angry at the perceived hypocrisy.
But then I grew up, and now I’m a step older than that. (45 if you don’t follow me 😂) and I see a real wisdom in it. I am grateful that I was brought up like this.
I know that I am worthy. I am not a commodity. I am not for sale. I was not created for someone else; I was created to serve G-d directly.
@chayykay All my rules are flexible. I make a fuss but it’s not really important.
My real rules are:
Don’t hurt anyone.
Don’t break anything.
Go to school.
Do homework, hopefully.
Get up when it’s morning.
Go to sleep when it’s night.
If we break a rule, we do better next time.
@chayykay Apologize if necessary. Or I will apologize for them. It’s not about teaching a kid to apologize; it’s that someone deserves an apology.
Children need to know they are loved.
Parents need 100% clarity on their own values, and to try to live them to pass them down.
@chayykay My goal, entirely unrealistic, is parenting with zero harshness. There are no’s. You can’t let a child run in the street. They can’t ruin their sibling’s brand new toy and on and on. There are so many unavoidable no’s. But no extras.
My favorite Sichos Mussar is “Schor, Schor” where a nazir is advised to stay out of a vineyard because a person doesn’t sin unless a “ruach shtuss” roughly a mood of nonsense, overcomes him. If he is not near what is forbidden, he won’t be tempted into sin.
It’s solid advice.
As I get older I think that “ruach shtuss” is not a sensual temptation, a moment of weakness in that sense; it’s a wave of despair, a feeling of already completely failing, a notion of there being nothing left to save, that more frequently and more disastrously leads to sin.
We connect to G-d through happiness. Joy was a prerequisite to prophecy. Jacob couldn’t tell what happened to Joseph because G-d’s sharing with him was blocked by his grief.
Yesterday, our daughter got her first Chumash (Bible). It made me think about Judaism, women, and textual learning. I love textual learning. It speaks to my soul. I don’t open sacred texts very often at this point, but even as a young mother, I really enjoyed doing the weekly
Parsha inside a Chumash with Rashi. I much prefer a sourced speech with text to a more abstract philosophical talk. Textual learning for women can concentrate on a thorough knowledge of the basic texts and be illuminating, edifying and inspirational.
In my personal experience it need not include intense Talmudic study to have both spiritual and intellectual merit.