@lukasdhont's Close, born out of @niobe_way's research on boys' crisis of connection summed up in Deep Secrets, is now an #Oscars2023 nominee for best foreign film. Way and others have been telling us what's going wrong for boys *for years.* Will Close finally make us listen? 
At the heart of the harm done to boys is our culture of masculinity which attacks our heartfelt need for friendship and connection. It teaches us that wanting close friendship means we're "little kids, girly, or gay." Desperate to prove our manhood we give up close friendships.
Giving up our close friendships and connection puts men on a path to lifelong loneliness. We instead are slotted into a dominance-based masculine hierarchy, where we have only one way to validate our masculinity; to dominate those around us. And women. And any not like us.
Dominance-based masculinity is enforced in the generational cycle of bullying/eventual disconnection inflicted on boys by the men (and women) who come before. Andrew Tates of the world are born out of this. The loss of boys friendships is the first wound of male dysfunction/rage.
Dhont's close will spark a conversation about the cultural systems and structures that break boys' close friendships. Will. We. Listen?
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