Women outperform men because they are adopting traditional masculine strengths and adding them to their own faster than men are adopting traditional feminine strengths and adding them to theirs. We can all be fully empowered by claiming our full range of human capabilities. /1 Men hesitate to display universal human capacities like empathy, emotional expression, care giving and curiosity because in our generations old dominance-based Man Box culture of masculinity, we’ve been taught these capabilities are feminine and therefore weak. They’re neither /2

Ya’ll see where this is going, yeah?—Republican Chair Says Only Christians Should Be Elected to Government - Newsweek newsweek.com/kandiss-taylor… Getting the knack of spotting extremist MAGA language trial balloons. They’re testing the limits of what is acceptable; saying the quiet parts out loud out on the fringe. Next up, some GOP State Rep in Montana repeats it.

THE NEXT BIG CALL: WHITE DUDES FOR HARRIS. This group of men is stepping up. Inspired by, and following in the footsteps of Black women, it's time for white men to get 100% engaged and make sure Kamala Harris is elected as our next President. Join here: /1 bit.ly/whitedudesforh…
The reasons why white men like myself must show up in support of Kamala Harris for President were on full display at the Republican National Convention. Trump/Vance’s Project 2025 MAGA movement is a war on women, especially Black women. /2

@Meta is now actively defending Project 2025 across all its platforms. Instagram/Facebook are tagging posts raising the alarm about Project 2025 with this statement. "Partly false information. The same information was reviewed by independent fact-checkers in another post.” /1

The "independent fact checkers" they are citing? The Dispatch.
Who is The Dispatch? The “neutral fact checker” that Meta is relying on? Of course The Dispatch is a self defined conservative source. Of, course it is. /2en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Dispa…

The reason men in the manosphere are so angry at women? Because empowerment for women requires accountability from men. For men, being held accountable, and moreso, *holding ourselves accountable* in relationships where women have equal power requires self-reflection. /1 For men raised in our bullying dominance-based culture of masculinity, self reflection is forbidden, punished. Who we authentically are doesn’t matter in Man Box culture, We are trained instead to model our identity on a narrow set of rules for how to be a man. /2

“Protect women from other women” Bro, this is absolutely comical.
Men create the predatory capitalism that starves women, the culture of violence that assaults women, the systems of power that exclude women, and the tedious bullying caricatures of manhood that bore women. The sad reality is that our Man Box culture of masculinity provides protection to no one. Bullying hyper-competitive dominance-based masculinity leaves boys and men deeply disconnected and isolated resulting in health impacts equal to smoking. We literally die earlier.

These. Sick. Monsters. @IAmPoliticsGirl @MeidasTouch

‘Too Many Women Are Going to College!’-There’s a narrative out there that more women are going to college than men because of educational bias, unfair advantages, and so on. It’s based on a male victimhood narrative, cuz that’s how male supremacy works. /1medium.com/equality-inclu… These narratives always have a grain of truth. Yes, boys are struggling in many educational contexts. Yes, a lot of programs have been implemented to encourage women in STEM and other areas. Fine. We get that. We need to address what’s going on for boys. Thanks for that grain. /2

THREAD: has been posting about "femme phobia", men's fear of the feminine. Really important framing in that term. /1MamaMuse.nyc I explore the harmful masculine cultural influences by which universal human capacities for connection, caregiving, empathy, are falsely gendered by our dominance-based culture of masculinity as female, and then bullied and shamed out of boys. /2

I have spent years in the trenches of social media, battling all manner of MRA, inches, extremists. It is an art form to respond in ways that are effective. I'm here to tell you that @barbiethemovie is the most powerful act of gender aikido that I have EVER seen on film. /1 The @barbiethemovie movie flips gender privilege over and over as a driver for men, (women and non binary folks') self reflection. -->Male viewers feeling like men are second class citizens in Barbieland? Felt it myself "Gee imagine life being like that every day... Oh, wait." /2

Countless men have directly benefited from abortion. Few say so. My partner chose to get an abortion when I was a young man. I supported her in making that decision and I benefited from that choice. Other men who are willing to share how they benefited from abortion, please do. Many of us clearly see in retrospect the inflection point suddenly raising a child in our early 20s would have had on our educations, careers, so on. We saw it at the time it was happening. We would not have the children, relationships, paths in life we have now.

We’ve been so brainwashed into thinking we’re in some kind of fictional danger that we are now the very real danger. The problem we’re facing is that older white men are afraid, not of unarmed people in their driveways but something that frightens them much more. In our dominance-based culture of masculinity boys and men are trained to validate their masculinity by dominating those around them.

It’s always helpful to have a man drop in to my thread and display textbook examples of how men seek to bully and control other men in our dominance-based culture of masculinity. This is the Man Box.

https://twitter.com/remakingmanhood/status/1653444780318236672

This generation of young women aren't internalizing patriarchy. The attempt to condition them to accept a dominance-based culture of masculinity isn't working.

Which is why so many men can't get a date.
Him: *Signaling old school masculinity*
Her: Hell no! Are you nuts? The result is many men are resorting to hate speech and violence against women in a last ditch attempt to reassert control over them. This includes political violence designed to force women to give birth even to their rapists’ babies.

THREAD: Cultures of Conformity Create "Vulnerability"
So, here's something I've been thinking about this AM. /1 I'm just going to put this together on the fly. So, men are often encouraged to be more "vulnerable." To be more emotionally expressive, to show our more human sides, to share our feelings. It's no accident we refer to this as being vulnerable. /2

THREAD: Avoiding the Grief of Male Allyship
--This is a message to myself as much as to any other man.
remakingmanhood.medium.com/avoiding-the-g… /1 If you are a man who is working to be an ally because you pay attention to and speak out against harmful male behaviors towards women and non-binary people in the workplace, thank you. Take a minute with that thank you. It’s real. /2

THREAD: When Women Say “No, Thank You” to Our Request for a Date
-"Men can learn to see the lifetime of inflection points that inform women’s choices about our requests for intimacy." It just requires empathy.
From Remaking Manhood 2.0 a.co/d/1uuM9SS /1 Recently, a woman friend told me about being asked out on a date. It is a story from more than twenty years ago. It’s not a dramatic story. It isn’t a story that was difficult to tell. Which makes it all the more instructive because it is so innocuous. /2

My Son, Coronavirus and the Man at the Hot Dog Cart
Originally published: March 13, 2020
My son approaches a hotdog cart in New York City today. He tells the older-aged man operating the cart, “I only have a dollar, can I get a hotdog?” /1 The man says “No, it’s not enough.” My son starts to walk away. The man says, “Wait, come back.”
The man says to my son, “A lot of old people will die soon. Remember me.” Then he gives my son a hotdog. My son is 14 years old when he calls me today to tell me this happened. /2

THREAD: I have never pulled my punches when deconstructing the harm done by our dominance-based culture of masculinity. My articles, many of which have gone viral as threads here on Twitter, are now available in a new edition of Remaking Manhood. amazon.com/dp/B0BZF9QYSX /1 In this book, I take deep dives into the worlds of MRA's, Incels and other masculinity extremists, mapping the ways in which our bullying Man Box culture fuels male disconnection, extremism, illness, and early mortality. /2

THREAD: An Open Letter to Incels
"We’ve all felt the anger you are feeling." remakingmanhood.medium.com/an-open-letter… /1 A self identified Incel tweeted that not getting sex creates anger, and since women generally control access to sex, it creates general anger toward women. Given the wide proliferation of this challenging narrative, I want to respond. /2

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