How understanding humans by focusing on their “psyche” or “mind” can be problematic 🧵👇🏼
1/ takes a stance of separation
To reflect or be reflective is to step (partially) outside of experience, to observe apart
This distance from affective experience can be useful, but it is not all of “what makes us human”
2/ places meaning in concepts
As opposed to felt experience, of course not in all ways. But as we know avoidances are relentless and deceptive, so many can “fall asleep” in a kind of “dissociative field” of conceptual meaning to avoid the chaos of experiential uncertainty
3/ defensively identifies w concept
b/c the ideas of meaning, that generate the comfort and predictability, take priority (aka “work better”) … the person identifies themselves through their preferred concepts
b/c they are divorced from their “primary experience” of meaning
… said another way
the meaning experience comes from “watching the video” over and over of “the concept”
this generates the desired experience
so that video watching is merged with, and defined as “the experience”
4/ how to move into experience
differentiate sensation, mobilizing kinetic action in your body as an ongoing (joyful) attention
Notice how & when “thinking” happens, and what happens to that attention to your embodied experience
useful imo: enjoying this, even when “difficult”
5/ cultivating “dynamic” meaning
Instead of pushing the button that dispenses a “conceptual meaning” treat
Habits of thought or behavior that we “use” b/c they work, but also can limit
Consider instead how the ongoing movement of experience itself is alive & meaningful
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6/ ideas and experiences are pals
for me, real “aliveness” comes in groups, with similar but different others, sharing affect and information, ideas and feelings
kinetic and alive, with enough structure for helpful forms; not in any way “rigid” to preconception
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It's a maze (It's a maze) of mirrors (Of mirrors)
It's a hologram of a ghost
And you can't quite touch it
Which is how it hurts us the most
So we keep it all inside (Inside, inside)
And hide it deep in a drawer
Say your prayers tonight
Someone finds it after the war
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And when I look at you, I see what you want me to
See what you want me to
When you look at me, you see what I want you to see
See what I want you to see is me
In the age of, living in the age of, living in the age of
In the age of, living in the age of, living in the age of ..
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Gotta get the spirit out of me
This anxiety that's inside of me
Gotta get the spirit out of me
This anxiety that's inside of me
Gotta get the spirit out of me (Gotta get the spirit out of me)
"Happiness is a state of mind … But fun is something you can do. It doesn't require education, money or power. All it requires is intentionality. If happiness is a mirage, fun is your backyard oasis."
Author advises 🧵👇🏼
🥳 Stop worrying about how happy you are
“Happiness is really an evaluation …
In contrast, fun is relatively easy to achieve yet many adults are conditioned to believe that it isn't important, and experience very little of it.”
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🥳 Find your 'fun magnets'
“Look for common threads, like which people are involved, what kinds of activities you enjoy, where do they take place. Are there activities that would be fun that you'd like to try?”