There is a disturbing “coaching bias” that I see rampant on LinkedIn re workplace wellness
This bias says “the experience and insight I’ve had that helps me will help you”
It’s not necessarily wrong
the certainty of the coach w their personalized, generalized advice #NoGood
The delivery of this advice is always storytelling about their experience, their pain, their learning, their resolution
The stories are well written and compelling
The advice seems reasonable
But their advice, generalized for all as “better ways” is laced w #distortion
Apr 2 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
"A felt sense is an embodied experience of a whole situation (or other attended-to “object” such as a work of art, a theory, a relationship) that exists before words or other symbols."
- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin
"A felt sense is a fresh, immediate, here-and-now experience that is actually the organism forming its next step in a person’s lived situation. A felt sense is experiencing forming itself, and it can be sensed."
quick 🧵👇🏼 1/ “on 100 senior leaders are telling us”
I’m sure these 100 senior leaders believe what they say about team effectiveness and their own personality
Mar 24 • 8 tweets • 3 min read
world famous experts can totally miss the point & unintentionally use their status to proliferate pseudo-correct info as they assume their frameworks are 💯 correct
“The value of writing things down we hear or read CAN BE overstated”
example and 🧵👇🏼
As I understand their point:
The motor aspects of writing, when coupled with the real-time granular activity of listening and while “trying to understand” alchemizes learning in powerful ways
Yes absolutely true
Mar 3 • 9 tweets • 4 min read
I’ve become very adverse to “charge” & “discharge” in #somatic language b/c of the misappropriation by the #trauma workshops merchants
But this is what it means 👇🏼
“If we speak of charge and discharge in Body Psychotherapy we refer to changing the arousal dimension of the core affect. Working with charge and discharge is independent of the emotional category that we awaken or calm by provoking or soothing arousal.” - Ulfried Geuter and… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
like having an inescapable gravity of "status quo" & "performing relationships" that dehumanizes
so "good people" & "good organizations" can "get infected by the system"
Feb 18 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
One interesting thing about me that different from many scientists and logical thinkers:
I don’t care if the terms are fuzzy or yield different definitions
b/c I’m guided by what I feel & know
Not (primarily) ideas or concepts, though they are part of the discovery
The advantage for this way of “researching” is that one can recognize how others are rising their language, from their framework, to describe the same things
This resonance w difference is joyful!
Like discovering a sibling or a cousin, and feeling the similarities instantly
Feb 18 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
"How To Become A Trauma-Informed Employer: Trauma-informed employers will be well-equipped to recognize the underlying cause of these difficulties and to provide support and guidance for that underlying trauma." from bit.ly/3lPfxXe worries me 🧵 👇
1/ I do wish more organization were "trauma informed"
we all recognize how organizations (and society) can generate the experience of trauma
and understanding this, organizations (and society) can take action to reduce these impacts
most conceive of this as a self-other experience (it is)
executing this “skill” with another, requires use of this “skill” within oneself
“raw” experience is enactive, impulsive
… or soupy, slow, simmering
… or thick, fuzzy, numb, diffuse
and millions of other variations
Feb 11 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
“We tend to think of #burnout as an individual problem, solvable by “learning to say no,” more yoga, better breathing techniques, practicing resilience — the self-help list goes on.
“But evidence is mounting that applying personal, band-aid solutions to an epic and rapidly evolving workplace phenomenon may be harming, not helping, the battle.
Feb 5 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
It's a maze (It's a maze) of mirrors (Of mirrors)
It's a hologram of a ghost
And you can't quite touch it
Which is how it hurts us the most
So we keep it all inside (Inside, inside)
And hide it deep in a drawer
Say your prayers tonight
Someone finds it after the war
And when I look at you, I see what you want me to
See what you want me to
When you look at me, you see what I want you to see
See what I want you to see is me
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Feb 5 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
How understanding humans by focusing on their “psyche” or “mind” can be problematic 🧵👇🏼
1/ takes a stance of separation
To reflect or be reflective is to step (partially) outside of experience, to observe apart
This distance from affective experience can be useful, but it is not all of “what makes us human”
Feb 5 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
"Happiness is a state of mind … But fun is something you can do. It doesn't require education, money or power. All it requires is intentionality. If happiness is a mirage, fun is your backyard oasis."
Author advises 🧵👇🏼
🥳 Stop worrying about how happy you are
“Happiness is really an evaluation …
In contrast, fun is relatively easy to achieve yet many adults are conditioned to believe that it isn't important, and experience very little of it.”
May 21, 2022 • 17 tweets • 2 min read
We’re not talking about pathology, we’re talking about everyone.
@JonathanShedler on personality
1/ Appreciating his detailed history of how “personality” *became* pathology by insitutionalists, not by “psychology”