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somatic psychotherapist, consultant 20k+ hrs w #healthcare #leaders #teams #providers emotional #firstresponder 300+ critical incidents 👋 opinions=mine≠advice
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Jun 10 5 tweets 2 min read
#embodied projections and identifications are “how animals speak”

similar to #EmotionalContagion dynamics

these are adaptive, high speed signals that travel “faster” than thoughts

remember: cortex slows They are really “embodied action patterns”

- hominid mammals in groups
- alive biology on Earth

Bring a legacy of “ancient wisdom” re:

- how to stay alive
- how to live in groups

Add modern context, social media
… but no “animal” has been removed from us b/c we “think”
Jun 10 10 tweets 4 min read
For the “transference” to “work” that means

- affective, non-conscious
- primitive, relational
- chaotic, unsafe
- distressing, unsettling


Are “integrated” aka

- felt
- experienced
- mentalized
- embodied
- made conscious
- slowed down

Not with “thoughts” For this to occur in a therapeutic dyad

some combination of all these instruments, in dynamic symphony

- differentiating
- joining
- asserting
- listening
- waiting
- speaking

all #embodied
Jun 8 4 tweets 2 min read
There is a disturbing “coaching bias” that I see rampant on LinkedIn re workplace wellness

This bias says “the experience and insight I’ve had that helps me will help you”

It’s not necessarily wrong

the certainty of the coach w their personalized, generalized advice #NoGood The delivery of this advice is always storytelling about their experience, their pain, their learning, their resolution

The stories are well written and compelling

The advice seems reasonable

But their advice, generalized for all as “better ways” is laced w #distortion

Apr 2 5 tweets 1 min read
"A felt sense is an embodied experience of a whole situation (or other attended-to “object” such as a work of art, a theory, a relationship) that exists before words or other symbols."

- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin "A felt sense is a fresh, immediate, here-and-now experience that is actually the organism forming its next step in a person’s lived situation. A felt sense is experiencing forming itself, and it can be sensed."

- Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin
Mar 27 8 tweets 3 min read
a little more about an important distinction imo

re the "purpose" of emotion

quick 🧵👇 2/ emotion activates

and what it activates depends on

- you
- your environment

with that "you" & "environment"
being very very complex

... so the PROBLEM here is
Mar 26 4 tweets 2 min read
This is an example of “echo chamber” #distortion that is pervasive in #OD and #leadership

quick 🧵👇🏼 1/ “on 100 senior leaders are telling us”

I’m sure these 100 senior leaders believe what they say about team effectiveness and their own personality
Mar 24 8 tweets 3 min read

world famous experts can totally miss the point & unintentionally use their status to proliferate pseudo-correct info as they assume their frameworks are 💯 correct


“The value of writing things down we hear or read CAN BE overstated”

example and 🧵👇🏼 Image As I understand their point:

The motor aspects of writing, when coupled with the real-time granular activity of listening and while “trying to understand” alchemizes learning in powerful ways


Yes absolutely true

Mar 3 9 tweets 4 min read
I’ve become very adverse to “charge” & “discharge” in #somatic language b/c of the misappropriation by the #trauma workshops merchants

But this is what it means 👇🏼 “If we speak of charge and discharge in Body Psychotherapy we refer to changing the arousal dimension of the core affect. Working with charge and discharge is independent of the emotional category that we awaken or calm by provoking or soothing arousal.” - Ulfried Geuter and……
Mar 2 8 tweets 5 min read
Another point on #differentiation esp as it relates to #collaboration

quick 🧵👇🏼 2/ when a person identifies themselves through #concepts they prize, hoard & claim them “as theirs”

and will sometimes “die for them”

b/c of the mechanism of identification is #conceptual
Mar 1 6 tweets 2 min read
my #somatic mentors insisted on two things that I am still engaged with & refining (forever) …

1/ I speak from my own direct experience, not through concepts

2/ I express my own words, and not use theirs or “pretend through their form”

to me this invites #differentiation in other words … understanding words, even having mastery of the concepts that words describe

amounts to “very little value” from the standpoint of one’s own emergence

this is a provocative concept

esp to thinking minds (as I have)
Mar 1 15 tweets 10 min read
a bit more about #somatic #internalization
... particularly my "housed in the body" phrasing 👇 I know there is concern with "stored emotions in the body" language

I share that concern

but let's unpack what this means ...
Feb 18 8 tweets 3 min read
what I’m calling #thesystem is a serious risk to #wellness and #organizationaleffectiveness 🧵👇 Theory: in large human endeavors "the system" resists or rejects the dialogic learning; real relating

like having an inescapable gravity of "status quo" & "performing relationships" that dehumanizes

so "good people" & "good organizations" can "get infected by the system"

Feb 18 4 tweets 1 min read
One interesting thing about me that different from many scientists and logical thinkers:

I don’t care if the terms are fuzzy or yield different definitions

b/c I’m guided by what I feel & know

Not (primarily) ideas or concepts, though they are part of the discovery The advantage for this way of “researching” is that one can recognize how others are rising their language, from their framework, to describe the same things

This resonance w difference is joyful!

Like discovering a sibling or a cousin, and feeling the similarities instantly

Feb 18 5 tweets 1 min read
"How To Become A Trauma-Informed Employer: Trauma-informed employers will be well-equipped to recognize the underlying cause of these difficulties and to provide support and guidance for that underlying trauma." from worries me 🧵 👇 1/ I do wish more organization were "trauma informed"

we all recognize how organizations (and society) can generate the experience of trauma

and understanding this, organizations (and society) can take action to reduce these impacts

we can all agree that will be better, no?
Feb 16 7 tweets 2 min read
More on #differentiation

most conceive of this as a self-other experience (it is)

executing this “skill” with another, requires use of this “skill” within oneself

👇🏼 experientially, phenomenologically

“raw” experience is enactive, impulsive

… or soupy, slow, simmering
… or thick, fuzzy, numb, diffuse

and millions of other variations

Feb 11 6 tweets 2 min read
“We tend to think of #burnout as an individual problem, solvable by “learning to say no,” more yoga, better breathing techniques, practicing resilience — the self-help list goes on.

… “But evidence is mounting that applying personal, band-aid solutions to an epic and rapidly evolving workplace phenomenon may be harming, not helping, the battle.

Feb 5 4 tweets 1 min read
It's a maze (It's a maze) of mirrors (Of mirrors)
It's a hologram of a ghost
And you can't quite touch it
Which is how it hurts us the most
So we keep it all inside (Inside, inside)
And hide it deep in a drawer
Say your prayers tonight
Someone finds it after the war 🎶
And when I look at you, I see what you want me to
See what you want me to
When you look at me, you see what I want you to see
See what I want you to see is me
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Feb 5 8 tweets 2 min read
How understanding humans by focusing on their “psyche” or “mind” can be problematic 🧵👇🏼 1/ takes a stance of separation

To reflect or be reflective is to step (partially) outside of experience, to observe apart

This distance from affective experience can be useful, but it is not all of “what makes us human”
Feb 5 7 tweets 2 min read
"Happiness is a state of mind … But fun is something you can do. It doesn't require education, money or power. All it requires is intentionality. If happiness is a mirage, fun is your backyard oasis."

Author advises 🧵👇🏼 🥳 Stop worrying about how happy you are

“Happiness is really an evaluation …
In contrast, fun is relatively easy to achieve yet many adults are conditioned to believe that it isn't important, and experience very little of it.”

May 21, 2022 17 tweets 2 min read
We’re not talking about pathology, we’re talking about everyone.

@JonathanShedler on personality 1/ Appreciating his detailed history of how “personality” *became* pathology by insitutionalists, not by “psychology”