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A #2023thread on grief and grief resources 🧵
“Growing Around Grief,” whatsyourgrief.com/growing-around… references Lois Tonkin, 1996. Growing around grief—another way of looking at grief and recovery, Bereavement Care, 15:1, 10, doi.org/10.1080/026826….
Graphic of "my experience" versus what I thought "stages of grief" would be.
“Death is a date in the calendar, but grief is the calendar.”

John Pavlovitz, 2017. The Grieving You Need Most After the Funeral, johnpavlovitz.com/2017/01/05/the…, 5 January 2017.
The Grief Recovery Handbook from GriefRecoveryMethod.com is the resource I suggest most often for people stalled in their grief after a year or more, widely available used and from libraries.
Surviving Spouse or Partner Suicide Loss is the best recent book on grief I have seen, especially for immediately after. Its of wider applicability than the title might suggest, and there is a companion volume for friends and family.
Most hospices or hospital social workers will know of local "bereavement support" "grief groups," either locally or online, and those are also invaluable.

This is not a journey one need endure alone.
Alexander Hardy @ChrisAlexander_'s #GriefKit is also an excellent, immediate resource at getsomejoy.com/griefkit.
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Feb 14
One cannot talk about "sex" in biology without acknowledging anisogamy, and that is the key error in this (often-referenced) thread.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anisogamy
The definition of sex (across kingdoms) is tied to gametes, whether plant or animal.



Male gametes are small and motile.
Female gamers are large and sessile.

Sex is determined by what gametes a structure, organ or individual can support.
This trait is more fundamental to eukaryotic organisms than things as key as "body plan" or biological symmetry.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_plan Image
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Dec 12, 2022
Lisa Selin Davis @LisaSelinDavis, 2022. Liberal media refuses to tell full truth about transgender kids. New York Post, nypost.com/2022/12/10/lib……, 10 December 2022.

🧵 Links from article unrolled below…
Puberty retardant "blockers" and then cross-sex hormones likely to cause sterility.

PJ Cheng, AW Pastuszak, JB Myers, IA Goodwin & JM Hotaling, 2019. Fertility concerns of the transgender patient. Translational andrology and urology, 8(3), 209–218. doi.org/10.21037/tau.2….
Vast majority of children w gender dysphoria will overcome their angst w puberty.

R Kaltiala-Heino, H Bergman, M Työläjärvi & L Frisén, 2018. Gender dysphoria in adolescence: current perspectives. Adolescent health, medicine and therapeutics, 9, 31–41. doi.org/10.2147/AHMT.S….
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Nov 30, 2022
Good people who essentially trust institutions have trouble understanding the main issues with "pediatric transition" because they don't understand it is a business model.

The pediatric #gendergrift is not medicine so much as an assembly-line toward easy profit.

🧵 A thread…
Naive parents and youth think they are "buying in" to a science-based treatment regimen, but the profit model is not in curing or health but in creating lifelong medical patients, through induced anxiety and a series of systematically replicable, fairly low-skill steps.
"Gender identity" is modern phrenology, asserting that everyone has a special essence that can somehow be "born in the wrong body," separate from sexist stereotypes and homophobia, discernible by only the most subtly enlightened.

#EmperorsNewClothes
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Oct 17, 2022
There is an organization in the US called Braver Angels @BraverAngels, which specializes in teaching people skills to de-escalate tribalisms, particularly political tribalism such as the US red/blue divide. 🧵
I attended an online workshop on "Depolarizing Within" this weekend, which focused on preparing oneself to be more fair-minded and calm in potential conflict or escalation scenarios, and got some good tips.
I tend to be calmer and more analytical than most people, but once I get excited and begin to "adrenalize," I sometimes choose to indulge that pleasure, in ways that are counter-productive.

Some suggestions:
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Oct 17, 2022
"Doctors never simply affirm a patient’s self-diagnosis for a new condition, except for gender dysphoria."

nationalpost.com/opinion/shawn-…

To what extent have patients who present with "transgender identity" elected to remove themselves from all normal medical protocols?

#Abandonment
I know the medical ethics of this, but when licensees have been legislated into a corner, indifference seems the only logical choice.

Some patients are simply less sympathetic than others, and foolish or crazy patients can quickly land on that list.

#LetThemDie #SelfTriage
"This is the minimum standard of care," I can see some thinking: "Take your mechanistic, paint-by-number pills and go die elsewhere, far away from my bother."

"I don't have time for this gender nonsense: Bugger off."

"I get paid either way, and this way is less bother."
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Oct 16, 2022
Chad Terhune, Robin Respaut, and Michelle Online, 2022. Youth in Transition: As more transgender children seek medical care, families confront many unknowns. Reuters Special Report, reuters.com/investigates/s…, 6 October 2022.
"Puberty blockers and sex hormones do not have U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approval for children’s gender care. No clinical trials have established their safety for such off-label use. The drugs’ long-term effects on fertility and sexual function remain unclear."
“The National Institutes of Health, the U.S. government agency responsible for medical and public health research, told Reuters that 'the evidence is limited on whether these treatments pose short- or long-term health risks for transgender and other gender-diverse adolescents.'”
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