I am a 26 year old trauma survivor. I transitioned with testosterone at 19, a double mastectomy at 20, and de-transitioned at 22 when I was diagnosed with CPTSD from childhood abuse, abandonment, and the medicalization and identity crisis. #IAmDetrans#DetransAwarenessDay… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
I was diagnosed on the autism spectrum and with an endocrine disorder called PCOS, both of which affected my mental and physical health severely. I experienced chronic psychological, emotional, and verbal abuse throughout my development, and had an attachment disorder.
I experienced suicidal ideation, severe depression, anxiety, and social isolation from age 12 until 22, resulting in complex PTSD and subsequent traumas from coping poorly with the initial childhood trauma (substance abuse, abusive relationships, love addiction, self-harm.)
De-transitioning and understanding how gender dysphoria was created from complex variables of hormonal conditions, autism, insecurity, shame, and magical thinking was crucial to the start of my healing process. I cured my gender dysphoria with psychotherapy, DBT, and mindfulness.
Since age 23 I have been ordering the chaos of my life in numerous forms, including finding spirituality in a blend of Taoist and philosophical belief structures, doing weekly depth therapy, recovering from love addiction behaviors, ceasing substance use, and practicing… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
I’ve found genuine community, safe relationships, and mutual support with other trauma survivors in the de-transition spaces. I am now a freelance artist, graphic designer, writer, musician, and mental health advocate sharing my experiences and reflections.
You can find in-depth analysis of gender related issues and resources on my
YouTube Channel: @ Funk God
Substack: @ Funky Psyche
Website: funkgod.com
De-Trans Awareness Merch: @ Funk God on Etsy
The Affirmation Generation Film: @2022affirmation
This is my short-answer stance on this question. You are free to disagree, but this is my perspective.
Here is my extensive answer. 🧵
I don't believe there are a category of people know as "true trans "--as in, people are born with such differences that they are destined to be the opposite sex or were born in the wrong in the body, and that they experience gender dysphoria due to that immutable characteristic.
I do believe there are individuals who experience gender dysphoria-a perception of incongruence with biological sex and desired biological sex and subsequent role in society in relationship to gender norms, which causes psychological distress and can be classified as a condition.
This documentary is dear to my heart for several reasons, and not only because I am featured as 1 of 6 public de-transitioners speaking out about medical harm. This film features beautiful and amazing men and women vulnerably sharing their darkest life experiences, leading… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
In full disclosure, this film is hard for me to watch. It features self-portraits taken during some of my most confused and suicidal times before and after the medical process of testosterone and having a double mastectomy, when I was only 20 years old. Although I speak often on… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
You know how weird it is to be used for an emotional affair then the person admits to it, manipulates you, says he wishes he could love you but doesn’t, and literally plays the song Addicted to Love off his phone to act like “this happens to everybody” to cover up his fault?… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
And literally saying “you’re welcome for sticking around and teaching you a lesson from the universe about not being attached to people.” I wish I was making this up. He played Addicted to Love off his phone to manipulate me that it was my fault and not that he knowingly lied to… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
You know how you do lsd with a girl on her birthday, flirt with her, then admit your domestic partner was in the room listening to your couples counseling session over zoom a month ago, and tell her you don’t love her, and how the universe is cruel that you came into her life but… twitter.com/i/web/status/1…
It’s the 2 year anniversary of being discarded by the sociopath. From which I still have ptsd symptoms every day. Evil is getting me down, especially remembering how I lost that battle with evil and still have a war to a fight. I survived it, but it really damaged me. ❤️🩹
That was my rock bottom, also. It was the culmination of everything previously traumatic and actually I’ve had the 2 best years of my life since then, due to getting my shit together. But it broke my heart, mind, and spirit as well, and I haven’t recovered.
I broke the cycle, took personal responsibility, and all I can say is that it’s a heavy burden to carry. It’s a weird thing, the anniversary of the trauma that shocked you into radical awakening. It’s like returning from war at long last only to fight the inner battle.
I don’t think I’ve talked about this recently, but it’s really moving to me to have new friends who care about me, who I have mostly met on here. I was severely depressed and anxious in adolescence, and the ASD just went crazy in combo with the PCOS…
And I didn’t have friends for 4 years from 11-14. Like eating lunch in the bathroom type of loneliness. Throwing up before school. Not talking all day in school, only writing. My dog was my best friend type loneliness. This is also when I started experiencing abuse from family.
I wrote 2 novels about wolves that filled the void, along with began my parasocial infatuations for celebrities that I’d get obsessed with as my attachment figures. 90% of the trauma groundwork was laid during this time, and I had nobody, just my own imagination.
I am capable of love cherishing the soul in all synchronicity. If you aren’t bringing that energy to me in a romantic capacity, we have no business together. Anything less than what I can offer is unattractive to me. I am no longer available for the scraps I once tolerated. ❤️🔥
I love being in my own power knowing that I don’t need anyone’s bullshit in my life. I don’t play games, I don’t read rule books to people trying to play with me, to teach them. I just decline them and continue aligning with beautiful true loving energy in all forms.
I know the love letters I’ve written. Manifestos of the timeless spirit of a lover. I’ve never received anything in return but abuse and neglect. There are people out there who would write those letters too. I need those people, they need me. Looking to find them soon. 🙏