Social media and influencers, and now particularly with TikTok
We have this very widespread behavior of watching yourself, talk to yourself
Social Media categorically requires a fair bit of ego, but this front camera day in the life of shit is a different monster
First and foremost, you're no longer living or experiencing anything, because everything is content
Everything is curated, everything is for an audience
Everything must be perfect within the definition of whatever "brand" you have established
But the bigger issue here feels like one of self-obsession, this is the parasocial relationship
It's most likely entirely unavoidable because you are literally spending large portions of basically every day looking at yourself that's looking at yourself
I would almost bet money that the issue with this guy was that he wanted to spend time with her, he wanted her to be filming herself less
He intruded upon the relationship she has with her other self, the self inside the phone screen
It's really sad, because she effectively found a soulmate
She decided at a young age she wants to live the luxury vagabond life and be a van hippie
And then she found a guy that she really likes, who's about the same age, who's good looking, who wants the same life
But because parasocial relationships are inherently bad, inherently toxic, it's always going to end up this way
I'm betting this is far more widespread than most people realize, as a lot of young women seek to become influencers
This is probably responsible for a lot of very questionable dating behavior among young women as well
Because you're inherently pre-selecting for men that aren't interested in you
A guy genuinely interested in you is going to require you to take time away from your other self
On the other hand, some scummy player who's only there to get his dick wet and eat your food doesn't care that you don't have time for him
Because he literally doesn't want that, he wants to get his dick wet and leave
I'm immediately reminded of the many videos I've seen of young women complaining about how many guys spend too long in the "Talking phase"
That's the part of the relationship that takes time, that takes time away from your parasocial relationship with yourself
Just imagine how frustrated guys have to be
You're a guy that found the perfect girl, the complete perfect match, who's also incredibly attractive AND she told you you're the love of her life
And it still isn't enough
I genuinely don't think so
The more I observe this younger generation the more I think the sexual behavior is downstream from this self parasocial behavior
It's a side effect of wanting to be your own spouse
No it's a thread about the ever increasing parasocial issue that's growing among young people in western society using this particular video as a jumping off point
I wouldn't say faux because to them I believe the relationship *feels real* but the relationship can't be real because again your reflection cannot reciprocate
I would call it true narcissism, but I think that makes this sound like a personal issue where I think this is more a cultural one which is why I avoided it entirely
A big part of why this thread is so long and why I care is because I'm starting to believe this is "just what the kids do" in the same way in the 50s/60s kids suddenly went to burger joints and listened to rock & roll
I avoided these kinds of tropes because of her age
Hypergamy is a learned behavior but my theory is that much of it modernly is downstream of something bigger, an overarching cultural quality something I'm gonna clean up and call Narcissus Syndrome
People ask why do I care, why put so much effort (lol) into this?
Because I want to do what nobody did for millennials, which is to actually take the time to understand what the internet is doing to young people, culturally and sociologically
20 years ago nobody asked what the internet was doing to young people, how it was going to influence them and how they would grow up differently because of it
Many of the issues we deal with as a people stem from this simple fact
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Seasoning Girl is proof that all men want is a moderately cute girl with a bit of a sense of humor who can cook
The entire world, mountains moved, for just that
Anything beyond that is unnecessary at best and coping for inability to have those basics at worst
That's officially my relationship advice for young women
Learn to cook, if only recreationally
Learn to take and make a joke
Maintain moderate attractiveness
Oh and don't be a ho, cookies don't undo body count
After that, prioritize looking for a guy that has a car and job and
That last sentence is important
A guy with no car but an apartment is more likely to be a wannabe player than a guy with a car who lives at home or with a friend
Would you support a Chinese style educational caste system that uses standardized testing at various checkpoints to filter out, poor or underperforming students?
Black people absolutely was their chicken by rinsing and spraying, this is a legit cultural phenomenon
But there's a reason you have so many well framed videos of this for seemingly no reason
This is very likely, because the practice of rinsing off and washing off chicken does stem from an real beneficial practice from decades back during Jim Crow