Social media and influencers, and now particularly with TikTok
We have this very widespread behavior of watching yourself, talk to yourself
Social Media categorically requires a fair bit of ego, but this front camera day in the life of shit is a different monster
First and foremost, you're no longer living or experiencing anything, because everything is content
Everything is curated, everything is for an audience
Everything must be perfect within the definition of whatever "brand" you have established
But the bigger issue here feels like one of self-obsession, this is the parasocial relationship
It's most likely entirely unavoidable because you are literally spending large portions of basically every day looking at yourself that's looking at yourself
I would almost bet money that the issue with this guy was that he wanted to spend time with her, he wanted her to be filming herself less
He intruded upon the relationship she has with her other self, the self inside the phone screen
It's really sad, because she effectively found a soulmate
She decided at a young age she wants to live the luxury vagabond life and be a van hippie
And then she found a guy that she really likes, who's about the same age, who's good looking, who wants the same life
But because parasocial relationships are inherently bad, inherently toxic, it's always going to end up this way
I'm betting this is far more widespread than most people realize, as a lot of young women seek to become influencers
This is probably responsible for a lot of very questionable dating behavior among young women as well
Because you're inherently pre-selecting for men that aren't interested in you
A guy genuinely interested in you is going to require you to take time away from your other self
On the other hand, some scummy player who's only there to get his dick wet and eat your food doesn't care that you don't have time for him
Because he literally doesn't want that, he wants to get his dick wet and leave
I'm immediately reminded of the many videos I've seen of young women complaining about how many guys spend too long in the "Talking phase"
That's the part of the relationship that takes time, that takes time away from your parasocial relationship with yourself
Just imagine how frustrated guys have to be
You're a guy that found the perfect girl, the complete perfect match, who's also incredibly attractive AND she told you you're the love of her life
And it still isn't enough
I genuinely don't think so
The more I observe this younger generation the more I think the sexual behavior is downstream from this self parasocial behavior
It's a side effect of wanting to be your own spouse
No it's a thread about the ever increasing parasocial issue that's growing among young people in western society using this particular video as a jumping off point
I wouldn't say faux because to them I believe the relationship *feels real* but the relationship can't be real because again your reflection cannot reciprocate
I would call it true narcissism, but I think that makes this sound like a personal issue where I think this is more a cultural one which is why I avoided it entirely
A big part of why this thread is so long and why I care is because I'm starting to believe this is "just what the kids do" in the same way in the 50s/60s kids suddenly went to burger joints and listened to rock & roll
I avoided these kinds of tropes because of her age
Hypergamy is a learned behavior but my theory is that much of it modernly is downstream of something bigger, an overarching cultural quality something I'm gonna clean up and call Narcissus Syndrome
People ask why do I care, why put so much effort (lol) into this?
Because I want to do what nobody did for millennials, which is to actually take the time to understand what the internet is doing to young people, culturally and sociologically
20 years ago nobody asked what the internet was doing to young people, how it was going to influence them and how they would grow up differently because of it
Many of the issues we deal with as a people stem from this simple fact
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Something I think millennials missed, as an act of rebellion and/or to differentiate from the boomers, is that becoming "boring" as you mature is partly about removing temptation from life and that's a good thing
Millennials struggle with the concept of temptation, there's this silly idea that if temptation is a problem for you you're in the wrong
"Oh you have to avoid it, why because you want it?! That means you want it no matter what!!"
The psyop on millennial women was basically perfect
They got conned into doing everything that would make it difficult to find a husband or even a LTR while simultaneously being told anything a man has to say about it is wrong by default, making it so they can never correct
It's actually quite sad but also completely unfixable because at this point they cannot and will not learn, it's impossible, like asking a fish to do algebra
The worst part is that many of these women had great potential that's why they're successful in their own independent life.
There's a reason colleges were used to create this monster, it filtered out the highest potential women
There's a reason soyjacking marvel fanboy redditor's still manage to get married
Being cringe about whatever it is you feel strongly about is putting yourself out there. Having zero strong emotions about ANYTHING gives off the message you're afraid of the world and/or lying
I remember years back driving with my wife, stuck in the hell that is DC metro traffic on 495
I was getting pissed and finally snapped, started cussing and driving like it was Tokyo Drift
After we cleared it my wife put her hand on my arm and said "that was really hot"
It went from a kind of "girls rule, boys drool" thing to women genuinely trying to convince everyone that a 600lbs walking wood chipper with butcher knives for fingers is earnestly safer
This is when it became clear this wasn't a bit, but a genuine interpretation
It showed us that women do not value facts or reality, that they'll do everything, including being objectively, publicly, voluntarily, wrong about something, and will double down over and over and rely on manipulative emotional language in attempts to obfuscate reality
This is expected convergence of internet social theory and the reality of meatspace colliding
A lot of it fueled by women (and anon bad actors) purposefully misconstruing the idea of "the wall" and how to navigate the reality it represents
This discussion has been had to death but for the sake of clarity we'll define the wall as:
The point at which the tangible benefits of youth and attractiveness peak and begin trending downward
Simpler: when you can no longer cash in on being young and cute
That definition is purposefully gender neutral because men absolutely hit the wall too, it just impacts us a lot less because we universally benefit from "youth and attractiveness" a lot less
Men build value, women MAINTAIN value, different rulesets