America *was* the Frontier and as such, American thought since 1890 has largely been a response to the dislocating loss of a visible, physical frontier.
On one hand you have enthusiasm for Space, for foreign military and imperial adventures.
New Frontiers.
Or you have the rather extraordinary development of a neo-shamanistic drug culture since 1960.
Use of psychedelics in an effort to explore inner frontiers.
Or religious practices that promise the mysterious.
On the other hand you have Wendell Berry and his disciples, or even things like woke demands to "de-colonize" this and that.
Express rejections of the frontier ethos.
A new ethos of rootedness, permanency, domesticity.
If you have restrictive or "shaming" type expectations for how your kids will live their adult lives, you need to be prepared to write the check.
If they need to be dentists or have a farm next door you need to be ready to sacrifice your own lifestyle ($) to make it happen.
Big difference between a father who expects or hopes for some care in old age vs. someone who expects kids to live their adult lives according to the Father's dream.
If you want to be the Boss you need to be materially at that level. Need to fund.
Heavily paternalistic, filial-duty-based extended family systems are certainly a thing that exists.
But the Patriarch has real material responsibilities that are entirely unlike what we are accustomed to.
He does things like buy homes for adult children, etc.