- Seyran defence mechanism;
Her past trauma, trust issues and overwhelming feelings for Ferit triggers her to SUBCONSCIOUSLY push him away to avoid being hurt. #YalıÇapkını
Actions like starting arguments (harsh and provocative words) and avoiding emotional intimacy (refuse to open up) happen unconsciously - and are just an escape. Same as numbing and denying feelings to make them easier to cope with. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
The truth is; Seyran was deeply touched by Ferit love note and that triggered her fears and instinct to protect herself (harsh words & attitude)
She was also very pleased by the gifts and flowers but she denies it in front of Suna and on the phone with Ferit. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
She never intentionally meant to hurt F, just like him his pain affects her deeply. She regretted telling him God is saving me from you, regretted saying I can’t trust him all my life -admitting she exaggerated. Same as she regretted some actions in the past. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
In the mountain house F for the first time confronted S with the truth, her past trauma are the reason of her fear and behaviour.
F is pushing S to break free from her past chains - to heal. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
The same applies to S, who is guiding F and challenging him to become better person, to give up on his self centred behaviour and disproportional freedom. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
Her pointing out that her disgust and shock of what he did -along with his mother- is beyond her insignificant self and it’s actually a matter of morals - she is restoring F values. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
Gulgun nonchalant behaviour the next day is a contrast to F’s who reflected on S words & accepted his mistakes. He chose, to keep G in the dark about his relationship, taking sole responsibility to fix it as grown up, he doesn’t trust in her judgment anymore #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
- she is his mother but she failed him with her wrong guidance and excessive love, almost ruined his life. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
F, later, asked Suna for help. F is not shutting ppl out, he is choosing who to let in. Suna never hesitated to call him out whenever he was wrong, was hard on him several times but she also showed him support, affection & gave him counsel when needed. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
- That’s how a balanced healthy love/care should be.
#SeyFer have different backgrounds, their entourage are different, but they are very similar in their differences and like a puzzle they perfectly match, helping each other grow. ✨ #YalıÇapkını
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Seyran, who always protected herself with her “strong” facade and hid all her feelings from F, her love as for her pain. Now she is not hiding anymore -as a start, she is showing her pain- #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
heartbroken and in tears, standing there in front of Ferit, expressing how hurt she feels, bringing back all their memories, outlining that yes she was forced to marriage but she always took it seriously, that she pinned hopes on everything he did for her. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
She is actually admitting that she was never indifferent towards him and that’s what makes it hurt even more. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
P didn’t want to live in London with her family, she is always afraid of them knowing when she messes up, always saying “you know how my family are” meaning they are strict and severe. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
F despite the fact that he never loved P and was a womaniser, we can’t deny the fact that P succeeded to make him soft for her to be his official girlfriend but that was it. #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
F due to all the chaos inside of him, his troubles and insecurities, relationships are just not his thing, when it comes to women, he likes to operate with no string attached, to avoid being hurt.++ #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
P had to make so much effort to convince him to be with her,he accepted only on his own terms. He is not fully committed-open relationship from his side-and because of his insecurities and trust issues he had to questions and know EVERYTHING. And P AGREED.++ #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer
It was never out of jealousy, it was always because he is distrustful.
(In P mind it was jealousy and caring, but for example F never reacted or was jealous of the way P dresses up “revealing clothes; in the club, her summer dresses etc”,++ #YalıÇapkını#SeyFer