1/ Little boy scared of making friends at his birthday party hides under a table. Mom gives him company there. Then helps him see the funny feelings in his tummy as as a sign of exciting things to come & names them as butterflies...
2/ ... which intrigues the kid. She points out that they can't sit under the table forever & suggests little steps. He comes out & starts taking little steps!
3/ this reminded me of @LFeldmanBarrett explaining how interoceptive sensations have to be associated with concepts to form emotions.... I understood her point better, watching this sequence...and what a powerful and empowering way to alter the emotion here!
The transcript...
4/ You know what…
I don't think
the world's going anywhere, is it?
I think it's staying out there
longer than we can stay in here.
You still feeling funny?
- How?
- In my tummy.
5/ Okay, well. The thing about sicky tummy feelings,
You only normally get them before something exciting's gonna happen.
It's not a bad thing- it means something good is coming.
It's called butterflies.
-Really?
6/ The key is to do one little thing at a time ok?
Little Steps
Little Steps
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If we want to be good parents & teachers, we really need to understand emotions better... and how to help children reframe them..
From 'The Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment' by Thaddeus Golas
1/ The basic function of each being is expanding and contracting. Expanded beings are permeative;
contracted beings are dense and impermeative.
2/ Therefore each of us, alone or in combination, may
appear as space, energy, or mass, depending on the ratio of expansion to contraction chosen, & what
kind of vibrations each of us expresses by alternating expansion and contraction. Each being controls
his own vibrations.
3/ A completely expanded being is space. Since expansion is permeative, we can be in the "same space"
with one or more other expanded beings. In fact, it is possible for all the entities in the universe to be
one space.
1/ I know quite a few women (age 24-45) in marriages where their needs are not met. Most do not have the courage to voice their needs & put down non-negotiables. Are parents largely responsible for not modelling/ equipping the ability to handle conflict? @docbhooshan
2/ Consideration for others' needs to be balanced with the Courage to express one's own needs. Women (in India especially) are conditioned to be more considerate than courageous on this front.
Even when courage is present, awareness of one's emotions & needs requires skill.
3/ And even when courage is there, and one is clearly aware of one's needs, there is a question of strategy and skill in articulating one's requirements, influencing the other, knowing what cards you can play (soft and hard).... negotiation is not a bad word- we should teach this
1/ I have been thinking about this comment of @docbhooshan in a @Genwise_ adda on developing socio-emotional maturity in children. It made sense intuitively but I did not fully understand why not being able to give a specific word for an emotion would ‘freeze’ someone.
2/ Some things are becoming clearer as I read about the topic. A child who clubs irritated, frustrated & annoyed- as ‘angry’, can’t acknowledge what they are going through and their emotions may escalate to ‘enraged’ and they may end up beating another child or cry hysterically
3/ A granular emotional vocabulary also helps us to perceive others’ emotions more accurately. Looking at this image though I realized how poor my current vocabulary is. In fact I recently confused indigestion (a sensation) for feeling stressed about work.
1/ Generalists are obsolete in a fast-changing world.
Once upon a time, they probably helped to ‘see problems & opportunities’ because they could ‘connect the dots’ unlike specialists.
But then the pace of change was slow enough for them to have enough context.
2/ Knowledge of 1 area can be made relevant to another e.g. Babbage-from silk weaving cards to computers
Without enough knowledge of 1-2 areas, the generalist’s understanding is too superficial to connect the dots.
Specialists too cannot connect the dots outside of their areas
3/ Who will connect the dots then? We badly need the connectors.
“If we spend our whole life in a silo of a single discipline, we will not gain the imaginative skills to connect the dots where the next invention will come from.”- Andreas Schleicher, OECD
1/ We may constantly complain about our harried schedules, but the real joy-killer seemed to be the absence of any schedule at all. Considerably less happy than the just-rushed-enough, are those with lots of excess time. theatlantic.com/magazine/archi…
2/ Why is that we cannot really enjoy 'leisure mode' for long? Why does it cede power to 'productivity mode'? The productivity mode deserves credit for scientific progress and technological ingenuity. But it has also brought a “malady of infinite aspiration".
3/ A hunter-gatherer tribe in Africa has consciously created customs and rituals to counter this "malady of infinite aspiration"
1/ Tweeting live to give a peek into the 'Connecting the Dots' course from @GenWise_ A math assignment 'Journey to Lilliput' is being discussed. The 1st question is easy- it asks what is that single number factor which can be used to scale Gulliver's world down to Lilliput...
2/ Most children answer this correctly, but some use a factor of 3 to convert sq.ft to sq. m instead of using 3 x 3
3/ A discussion is happening on how wide national highways in India are...building on width of a single lane. A cute but perceptive discussion that ' We don't think Lilliput would have 6 lane highways'...so making a comparison to our smaller roads done