ohhh such a good question. for a particular type of transness: bear by marian engel. the seaplane on final approach. solaris. anything by melissa broder, susanna clarke, or the brontë sisters.
i’ve been obsessed w greta and valdin and love me tender lately. also just started wild geese which i’m rly enjoying
some of you have so little imagination 🙄
tbh i sort of do what i want and deal w the aftermath after lol. i have various forms of insulation being a guy + being as well loved as i am, and it’s hard, but it helps that i used to be so miserable w how i was perceived and now i’m much closer to what i want to be
thx for asking! it’s not too deep tbh, if you’re not arguing w terfs and rt’ing transphobia you’re probs doing good. also ig it’s good to see cis people not only engaging w transphobia and trans crisis, being in community w us and our work, yknow
i took all souls in 2021 and i wrote abt the inherent transfemininity of robots so probably that
only you can rly make that call - if i were you i’d probably talk to him just bc there’s a pretty high chance Someone will see it and tell your parents, but you can be selective abt what you tell
i found reading novels & memoirs & self help books can go a certain way but honestly nothing touched taking t. idk your sitch but if you’re not on hrt i would very much consider trying it. you can easily stop taking it if it’s not for you and it was so clarifying
like honestly i don’t even rly care abt being nonbinary or ‘binary’ trans anymore, i felt a pull towards wanting to materially change my body and i did so and it’s ruled. if you are on hrt, then it’s all a more philosophical exercise imo lol
anything involving using ‘female socialised’ like a catchall
she’s nice and fun. pretty much like tv
thank youu that’s rly lovely to hear as i sniffle in my bed lmfao
tbh everything kinda fell into place w me in may last year! in like jan 2022 i was overworked and underpaid, felt academically useless, wasn’t dating, commissions were slow, hrt hadn’t kicked in yet
then i got a phd scholarship a girlfriend and a big commission within like 3 weeks of each other. a lot of groundwork all came together at once. in general i’m doing well bc i’m loved and fulfilled and receiving gender affirming care!!
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i feel a little suspicious of the messaging around schools that says that kids don't care about school/grades/punishments/college, don't want to learn, don't care about attending, only care about their internet life, and that this is a massive break with prior school culture
like i agree that ipads from birth are clearly destructive to kids' ability to learn and pay attention in classroom settings. i just wonder whether the 'uncaring' child is being contrasted with a previous 'caring' child who was actually a successfully disciplined one
i feel really conflicted as someone who is simultaneously very concerned about the destruction of formal education / the iPad crisis, & concerned with the characterisation of the current era as underdisciplined and as needing to further more serious punishments (Michaela, etc)
there's a part of the cass report that i want to highlight because it's even more ominous than much of its other content: how the report approaches pre-pubertal trans children who are 'stealth' (i.e. their friends don't know they're trans). (1/
the 'consistent, insistent, persistent' presentation of gender incongruence is the gold standard within medical establishments for determining which trans children get access to medical interventions / are unlikely to desist before adulthood. (2/
regardless of the flaws of said model, children who have lived as their chosen gender almost their whole lives, to the point that they have had no real reason to disclose transness to their friends, are fulfilling it to the letter. (3/
alright yeah sure i’m gonna tweet through reading more by molly roden winter. why not take a break from writing conference paper to see what the straight married poly people are up to
this is so fascinating to me - i just wrote about this; straight women are encouraged to settle into having their sexuality essentially project managed by their husbands, and polyamory’s opportunities to break out of that can be heady and terrifying
oh god. this is the first new guy she has sex with. a dog??
this is partly accurate but misses a) the massive popularity of books by women about men, especially gay men, and b) the fact that while men historically have a problem reading women, women haven’t had the same issue reading men
there is a really interesting matrix around class and race and age, and about what narratives are endorsed by the publishing company, and the reasons that bears fruit or doesn’t. there’s a whole different prestige economy around established male authors vs the debut craze
i’m inclined to believe that some marginalised people get an initial chunk of money and attention in publishing and then get chewed up and spit out, while rich white guys are finding quieter but more lucrative and stable routes into the writing world
alright, it's bad decision thread time: i'm gonna tell you what's in this book
(for the uninitiated, it's the first somewhat widely available TERF satire)
so a) this guy appears to believe that columbus thought the world was round and his peers didn't, a claim that most eight year olds could dispel, and b) we are on page 2 and this is already giving me huge Amazing Atheist vibes.
i think this is orgasm denial erotica for men who have tim minchin's 'storm' bookmarked