Thread by @alpharivelino

Museum Cold Approach 101

SCRIPT

“You look nice. At first I thought you were from X but now I think you’re from Y”

DO

• Approach her from side, turn to her

• Strong eye contact

• Playful cheeky vibe

DON’T

• Speak too softly

• Speak too quickly

• Lean in to talk

X is your initial cold read

Y is your revised cold read

EXAMPLE

I just talked to a tall blonde girl at this museum I’m at. I said to her:

“Excuse me. You look nice. At first I thought you were Swedish but now I think you’re German because of your punk rock vibe”

SCRIPT

“Excuse me. You look nice. At first I thought you were X now I think you’re Y bc of Z”

You don’t have to be completely logical. Be creative, observant, whimsical. The words are not as important as the vibe you put out — fun, playful, curious, genuinely interested in her

SCRIPT

“Excuse me. You look nice. At first I thought you were X now I think you’re Y bc of Z”

KEY TIP

You say “excuse me” to get her attention. Don’t continue talking until you have her full attention. Once you have strong direct eye contact, continue with “You look nice…”

Saying “you look nice” is important because it establishes the man-woman vibe but it doesn’t over invest

Saying “you look beautiful” would be over investing — coming on too strong — and would probably make her feel uncomfortable

I learned this from Yad