Thread by @SourPatches2077

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I’m tired of being angry. I’m tired of beating my head against a wall.

I originally spoke up about my experiences because I wanted to help other butch lesbians like myself. I didn’t do it for the kids or for any other reason other then a love for my butch sisters

I believe we are being fed lies from all sides and have been for years. We transition in large part because of our self hate and shame around being butch. And for some of us age doesn’t matter. Self hate and shame can last a life time.

And yes, most of us do have gender/sex Dysphoria, but honestly who the hell wouldn’t when you’ve lived the lives we have. It’s completely reasonable response to our experiences.

It was probably ignorant of me to begin with to think any substantial number of people

would care about butch lesbians. And I’m not that angry about it anymore because I’ve come to understand we gotta do for ourselves. Not the government, not media not doctors not Hollywood, no one. We must help ourselves and our own.

So I’m going back to my original goal.

Im here for the butches. Of all ages. And also, I’ve come to believe that the middle ground is always best so you will likely see and hear me being more nuanced about things going forward. Because life is complicated and so our people.

It’s been a wonderful learning experience to be in so many different beliefs systems over the last few years. It’s really informed me that yea, most people still are pretty uncomfortable with butch/masc/stud lesbians.

I have also been allowing myself to explore my own identity as a butch lesbian. Something I haven’t felt comfortable doing for many reasons but mostly because of shame around being a masculine woman. I’ve accepted the label because It seemed to fit but I’ve never explored it

Or embraced it. I think identity is important to people. Just because the trans rights advocates have gone of the rails with it doesn’t mean it’s not important or a real and healthy thing for people to engage with. So I’ve started exploring what it means to be butch.

And I’ve found it refreshing. And of course because of this I’ve come around full circle back to my beginnings where my goal is to help butch lesbians. So that’s what I’m going to do.

So don’t ask me about how to help your kid unless she is a butch lesbian, because everyone

else is helping enough. I’m here for the butches the studs or the masc folks.

And final thought, I’m going to try my hardest to stick to just my experience and leave the rest alone. Because it does seem like this transition thing will have to be a choice for us butches

For some time to come if not for ever and we need to have all the information before we make these decisions. The medical community don’t care, the therapist don’t care and most of our community doesn’t care. That’s just the facts. And as sad as it makes me feel that there will

Always be butches transitioning at least I can give out some information about this process in hopes of making these decisions more informed.

Sometimes you just have to set down that heavy bag and go feed the ducks. #butchlesbians