Thread by @CartoonsHateHer

If you’ve ever wasted 2+ years of a woman’s 20s only to say “alas, you just weren’t The One” you lose all right to make fun of women for being 30 and unmarried lol

“Oh so you think it’s ok to make fun of people who are 30 and unmarried if you haven’t wasted anyone’s 20s?!?” Yes that’s obviously the main takeaway here you win!!

The reason I'm not putting the onus on women here is because it's socially acceptable to dick around and waste someone's 20s, but it's not socially acceptable to set boundaries around marriage/timelines after 6-12 months of dating unless you're extremely religious.

I have met men in their 30s who said they would be "scared off" if a woman asked them if they wanted kids or not until they were serious. That's a perfectly normal thing to ask so you don't waste someone's time! Every time women try to have agency on this, guys get "scared."

You hear about people who get divorced after 10 years because they couldn't agree on having kids, or people breaking up after 10 years because "I want to get married but he doesn't believe in marriage" like...literally you should discuss all of this in the first 3 dates.

I'm lucky that my husband isn't a big baby, because on our second time hanging out (at 19 and 21, and no we're not super trad or religious) we both established we wanted to have at least 2 kids, and have them on the younger side. Casual convo over beer. Not that hard!

There's a mom in my mom group who is thinking of divorcing her husband because they disagree about religion and pets...HOW WAS THIS NOT PART OF THE FIRST MONTH OF DATING!

not men in my QTs getting upset about this as if I don't also call out problematic female behavior all the time and get yelled at by women lmao

Like I said "divorce is often traumatic for kids" a few days ago (indisputable imo) and got called a right wing misogynist so make up your minds!