You know where I and thousands of other kids were groomed, abused, sexually assaulted, manipulated, controlled, brainwashed, beaten, & silenced? Yeah it wasn't Pride parades or drag story hours.
It was in your fucking churches.
You know where I learned consent & that my body belonged to me, that I could say no to my spouse, that men didn't own my body, that they could control themselves, that I could be who I was without shame?
Queer spaces.
And that's it, isn't it? If you wree actually afraid of people grooming your kids, you'd never step foot in a church or church camp again.
But that's not what your afraid of.
You're afraid of them learning you're full of bullshit.
You're afraid they'll learn that being gay is normal. That gender is a spectrum not a binary, suffocating box they have to fit in.
You're afraid that you'll lose control over them. That they'll become someone you've been taught is an aberration, an abomination, unworthy.
Your fears have nothing to do with your kids falling prey to predators because you still take them 3 x a week to the 1 place they're most likely to be preyed on.
Stop lying to yourself. Stop letting your own fears hurt your kids.
And fucking stop making me & people like me the scapegoat for your fears and failures and small-minded worldview that's dying the death it deserves.
Your kids will be who they are, either because of you or in spite of you.
Your choice.
YOUR CHURCHES taught me that my 8yo legs were tempting to grown ass men so y'all can take ALL the seats.
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I didn't know who Andrew Tate was but my 12yo son did.
Parents, they're coming for your boys. They market misogyny and racism to cishet white boys, in a package that seems appealing. Talk to your kids, have hard conversations. It's important.
Thankfully my son said he didn't watch Tate's stuff, it "sounded dumb" to him. Said his friends talk about Tate a lot though. Friends who are also 12 and 13yo boys. Listening to a dude equate dominating women with manliness. Pay attention.
You know what has become more & more alarming to me as the day goes on & more people comment on this? How many KIDS know who Tate is & how many of us adults did not. Adults who, presumably, consume way more social media than we probably should. We aren't novices.
As someone who lived in generational poverty almost my entire life & now works with low income folks, I have some thoughts on the popularity of "financial literacy" programs.
First, everyone who runs these programs means well. They are passionate, empathetic, inspirational, caring people who don't get paid enough for the good they do for our communities. Financial literacy is likely 1 of a dozen services they provide for any number of organizations.
My observation is that very few people who actually experienced poverty run these programs. They have the flavor of well meaning ppl trying to help with very little real world experience. And that can be a problem and a barrier for customers.
Our billionaire governor is citing a supposed worker shortage as the reason to pull the right out from under people & get rid of extra UI benefits & he is SO FULL of bullshit. #mtpol
The unemployment rate here is 3.8%, close to half of the US unemployment rate.
We. Are. Working. Some of us more than 1 job.
We DO have a worker shortage but it has NOTHING to do with the GOP narrative that says no one wants to work.
There's no housing. The median House price in various MT cities (ie, where jobs are):
Bozeman: $615k
Missoula: $419k+
Kalispell: $390k+
Billings: $359k
Vaccine hesitancy is highest in church people. I heard a pastor in NPR talk about how his Stagg has been fighting that. They organized all their health care workers & church leadership to conduct education & help the other members see that people they know & trust are provax.
Which I thought was really brilliant. This pastor recognized that his members needed to get their heads out of the propaganda & connect with folks in their church they trust to see how important vaccines are. He led by example too.
Any church leadership who cares about their community needs to step up & do the same. Rock that boat, address people's fears, point them to facts, lead by example. Recognize that church folks are susceptible & leaders have influence & can use it to overcome antivax propaganda.
I know now why thinking, science-minded people have been so frustrated with & even hostile to antivaxxers. And I'm so sorry for being the one who didn't listen to their frustration in my lack of community-mindedness. But being angry at them won't change their minds.
Telling the truth needs to keep happening. Don't sugar-coat the fact that they are to blame for pandemics not easing, for the rest of us to keep suffering. But being hostile will not help. It might help you feel better about what you can't control, but it won't change them.
Instill doubt. Drive a wedge of cognitive dissonance between them & their comfort in their beliefs. Speak the truth, calmly give facts when distortions are presented. For every batshit lost soul you argue with 3 more are listening from the sidelines. We're the ones you'll turn.