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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Aug 1

A lot of young men and Infact, young women really need to be in this community.

Because I'm afraid of what they don't know, & how their ignorance can ruin them.

This DM is from a young man who was asked by his friend to come meet me for advice.

He's not just doubting his

friend, but doubting his own sanity.

Something inherent in his masculinity is telling him that he has made the wrong decision, but love doesn't want him to accept it.

To him, he feels his friend cannot advise him, but he knows that something is not right.

For the umpteenth

time, I'll re-iterate.

When you have broken up with a woman, and she has gone ahead to date other men, please forget her, & keep moving.

Even if you miss her, or even if you still think that you love her.

It's a golden rule.

And no matter what anyone says, this rule will

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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Jul 21

Alright, let's move on.

Please read this DM from a married man.

He did not have sex with his non-virgin wife until marriage.

Now, they're not sexually compatible, & his wife is addicted to porn.

He'll always have to finger his wife before she cums.

And according to him,

he's not enjoying sex with her.

Can you imagine how frustrating this can be for a man?

Sexual compatibility is a very big deal.

If both of you have been sexually active, you must check for it, & be convinced that both of you are in sync.

Let me explain why I said he'll be

frustrated.

He knows that he didn't meet his wife as a virgin.

He didn't have sex with her until marriage.

All his excitement and imaginations became dashed when he discovered that what he ordered, is not what he got.

As a man, he's imagining that because he's unable to

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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Jul 19

You see... Sometimes, I don't want to blame those that hate me.

Because some of the things I say here, feels like reopening old wounds.

Please read this DM from a married man.

And read what I said last year, & I have repeated same several times.

If you read carefully, you'll

see where he said that he now realizes what I've been saying all these while.

Because a lot of us like to see our mothers as "saints" and our fathers as demons.

I also have a mother, but I'll never let my emotions, & the fact that I have a mother, then avoid saying what needs

to be said.

If you all have been paying attention, each time I share similar or related DMs, I always admonish you young men to keep your mothers at bay when you get married.

And that your wife doesn't have to be close to her.

So, I'll repeat it.

If you caught your mother in

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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Jul 16

I have been reading comments.

It's a very complex topic, & a lot of factors have to be considered.

1) the age of the lady
2) the man's financial strength
3) the risk of cheating & getting caught
4) possible increase in BCs
5) the man's age

Let me break down each of the 5

points.

1) a lady that is above 25, & wishes to be married before she's 30, will most likely be opened to giving other men a chance, if the man she's presently dating is not giving her enough hope or reasons to wait for him.

And typically, she'll be facing pressure from both

her family, the society and even her friends.

She doesn't want to put all her eggs in a basket. So she may consider giving other men a chance.

2) A man is supposed to be the provider. If she's above 25, and it's not looking like he's financially ready to be a husband & father,

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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Jul 12

A relationship well intended & healthy, is not a distraction for young men and women.

When I met my wife in school, we were very young.

It was in my 2nd semester of 100 level.

Because I was young and in love, it affected my 2nd semester GPA.

That GPA happened to be the

lowest that I ever had all through my university days.

And it was still not below 3.5.

I still finished my 100 level with over 4 point CGPA.

When we moved into our small apartment from 200 level, both of us had stabilized emotionally, & focusing on our studies.

We went on to

do better in our exams, & graduated well.

Why am I sharing this?

You young women that are presently avoiding relationship and mainly focusing on your career or academics, may become a victim of your successful achievement in life, if you are not careful.

You just read the

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Àgbà John Doe

@jon_d_doe

Jul 7

Last night, we all read a DM from a 33 year old married man whose recalcitrant wife wanted to get him fired from his work place.

This is a marriage that is just a year old.

She also hid the fact that her parents are no longer together from him.

Meaning, she knew that it was

a deal breaker for him.

A few years ago, I wrote a thread, telling us that when you marry your spouse, you're married to your best "enemy".

And I've also said many times, that when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.

Let's talk about the best enemy part.

As married couples, your spouse will be privy to so many of your secrets.

Even secrets that can nail you or get you into trouble.

Your spouse has the capacity to hurt you, but he or she would not do that.

When that young man married his wicked wife, it may have been possible

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