It's anti-feminine to tell women that they MUST be financially independent before they get married.

But teaching women to be self sufficient, less greedy & more patient is feminine.

Women who encourage this have ulterior motives.

Major of it, is that they can disrespect men & ask for a divorce whenever they like.

The more women become financially independent, without allowing a man play that vital role in their lives, the more masculine they'll become.

And when a woman starts exhibiting masculine traits, she starts to feel the need to compete with

Before I married my wife, she withdrew her first salary which was about 75k & came straight to my house with all of it to show me.

I took out about 1k or 2k from it, & we ate something.

The rest, she took home to show her people & she did whatever she did with her salary. When we got married, there was no agreement of what she would be using her salary for.

I just knew she was doing some bits and pieces with it in the house.

She still brought a monthly budget to me & I was fulfilling my roles.

She lost that job in less than 3 years of our

I feel you.

This is sad coming from you.

And it's the reason I keep hammering on no pregnancy before bride price.

And if a lady says she wants to keep your pregnancy, it's not for you to then say you must marry her if you do not see her as someone you want to spend the rest

of your life with.

One would ask...

If you knew that she's not the type you wished to marry, why were you sleeping with her unprotected?

It's a good question.

But at the same time, when a lady knows that you're not who she needs, she'll not even let you that she's pregnant.

Thanks for your comments.

A man at a 25-35, is mostly not mentally prepared for marriage unlike the woman.

It doesn't matter if he has the resources to fulfill his responsibilities.

Put simply, a man learns in his marriage & a woman has been groomed from childhood for it. If a man gets married at say 28.

He'll struggle more to fit into his new status as a married man.

Most of his friends at that age may still be single and still trying to find their footing.

Unlike his wife.

It'll take more years to realise his status when compared to her.

Your case is a complicated one but I'll advise you.

Please read carefully & when you're done, you can then decide for yourself, on what to do.

In my many years of experience with women, when a woman is guilty, she becomes defensive.

The first time she told you that she was





going to visit Mr. A, she lied to you about who he is to her.

Then you caught her & she told you that she thought at the time, that tribal differences may be an issue between you.

And the relationship was barely few months old.

In 2021, your fiancée was 29.

You and I would

Yes I have a property but I live in a rented apartment.

And even though I can afford to live in a more expensive apartment for now, I decided not to do that.

I'm a salary earner & a man's job is not always guaranteed.

Anything can happen.

And when it does, you must find look for a way out.

As a man, you'll have to fall back to your savings while you go through that phase of life.

I can afford to send my kids to more expensive schools, but they're where they are because I know I can afford it for a period of time, if the unfortunate happens.

In the journey of searching for a wife, you as a man must take it as a serious task.

God commands us to love and care for our wives.

In the absence of "love", you must be willing to commit to her & be responsible for her.

It's why we are created to be physically stronger than women.

And in truth, you have to make legitimate money to be able to effectively succeed in that.

However, you must not use that money to attract a woman you plan to marry.

What should attract that woman is your motivation, your drive & your ability to see her as someone

Please read this DM from a married man.

And please read carefully, my advise to him.

I often remind men of a few things.

And I also remind couples why it's important that the 3 pillars of marriage should be applied for it to be successful.

I'll start from the first error



you made.

You got her pregnant and decided to marry her because of that.

Men don't do that unless you're convinced that she is truly the one that you want to marry.

I'm not sure your wife earned her place & I'm not sure she invested or sacrificed much for you.

The second

A woman & her twin boys were abandoned by her husband & father for almost a year, over false allegations.

She didn't tell her father, she didn't come on social media to shame her husband.

She didn't run to another man for "comfort".

She didn't leave her matrimonial home for one day.

She went through pains & decided to be a "man" and prove to her husband that even if you abandon us, I'll never abandon our kids.

One year without her husband.

One year of threats of divorce.

One year of living with the disappointment of her husband's lack of

Please make sure you read to the last screenshot.

I've asked him if his wife is a follower.

I hope she is because I really need to have a conversation with her.

This is quite a sad one and it was avoidable.

But I understand the man and I also understand his wife.

Young man,





you have created a mess.

But if you follow my advise, it can be fixed.

You have a wife that decided to pause her medical career for your twin boys.

Yes you appreciated her for that but the devil crept into your home.

I feel for you no doubt but there will always be

I see you're also a husband and a father like myself.

Thank you for your kind words.

Yes you can grow your account talking about marriage and relationship.

I'll give you some tips you may wish to adhere to.

I opened this page in April of 2020.

When I started, I was a regular commenter on a blog (postsubman).

I focused on only relationship and marriage posts on the blogs.

Each time, I would make my comment and engage with those that replied me.

I will also make posts directly on my page.

In late 2020, I decided that I was going to grow my

Let me send a message to young men doing fraud.

You spent years in school, graduated and you decide that instead of you to learn a skill, run a business or get employed, you dedicated your time for fraud.

I'll put you side by side with your peers that decided to go the legit way.

Both of you graduated at 25.

He started a career in a corporate world and you started your career in fraud.

As he's growing and making gradual money, he's building his cv and acquiring more skills and writing different certifications.

You, you have decided to forget

No woman is a 10/10.

So when a man says his woman is a 10/10, he's looking at the wrong things.

Before you can convincingly say that you have found your woman, you must have seen some character flaws that you'll have to ask yourself..

"Am I going to be okay with these in the long run?"

You and your woman must fight & find a way to settle it without any third party.

She will hit you at least once in your relationship and you must show restraint as a man.

She will insult you occasionally and you must use it as teaching opportunity moment.

This is the first time I would be getting a DM of this nature & it's a sad one.

Young lady, in life, we make mistakes.

It could be deliberate or not.

In your case, it was deliberate and it was never done out of ignorance but lack of proper mentorship.

I've also made my

mistakes.

And some of them were deliberate too.

But life is designed in a way that we all will face the consequences of our mistakes.

Some consequences are severe and some are mild.

And there is nothing we can do to turn back the hands of time.

What we will do is to learn

Poverty, greed & lack of patience have made many of our women lose their value.

A 28 year old married woman is coming to seek for approbation from another married man to leave her hardworking husband, for another divorced man that lives abroad.

I'm not shocked though. When things are going smoothly for women, they will live in denial that they do not have the capacity to love men.

They also will deny the universal truth that they're more loyal to their feelings than men's sacrifices.

Here is a young woman that probably didn't even wish to

With regards to my post of last night about women living modestly, let me make a few things clearer.

Last year, I said if you drive a Toyota, do not date a woman that drives a benz.

I also said that if you earn 500k, do not date a woman that is earning 1m.

Lastly, I said if you have never traveled out of your country before, do not date a woman that has traveled to world.

All these are figure of speech geared towards guiding you in making your choices.

On the flip side, I then told women to live a modest life.

Let me tell you.

If a man doesn't

Men,

If you allow the fact that women love money and are attracted to successful men as a basis to be with them, you're making a great mistake.

This is why I keep telling us that you should never attract women with money.

You must earn your wife and not buy your wife. And like I always say, the best time to start earning her is when you're just starting life.

As long as you believe in marriage, you must never lose sight of relationship while chasing your dreams.

I saw a thread of "before and after" of some couples here on X.

The pictures

Dear @LVazzie1829,

There are mainly 3 pillars that sustains a marriage.

1) Kindness
2) Selflessness
3) Deliberate commitment

Your wife is failing in the first two.

And I dare say, that she'll soon fail in the 3rd.

It's not wrong for you to have revealed what you earn to



your wife.

But it's wrong for your wife to take undue advantage of it.

Most men who do not reveal their earnings to thier wives once did it.

But when they noticed that their wives started misbehaving because of that, they stopped further reveal.

If they get a pay rise of

Telling you that you should have already had a stabilized relationship at 28 is not putting unnecessary pressure on you.

I saw that lots of young men and women were being misled by disgruntled and bitter people who wish to project their miseries to others, using the internet. So I decided to create this prestigious community to call you all to order.

If you have noticed, bloggers hardly post my teachings these days.

It's not because I have dropped the ball, but because my teachings will make them lose monies & possibly followers and expose their

She's 27.

Please read to the last screenshot.

It's actually 39 screenshots & not 50.

I'll suspend posting anything for another hour or so to give you guys ample time to read and digest her story.

I circled the update she sent this morning.

Happy reading 👇

1) A man who sleeps in a house that the rent is paid for by his wife is sleeping in
a "coffin".

2) A man who feeds from the pot of food cooked with his wife's money is eating a slow "poison".

A man who goes to pass the night in his girlfriend's house, is putting his life in danger, even if he's the one paying for the rent.

3) A man who opens up to his woman that she was the one that deflowered him, is setting himself up for mockery in the future.

4) A man who fails to sexually satisfy his wife will mostly be eating meals that are not so sweet & he