When I talked about a woman investing in you, and you investing in the future of both of you, this is not what I meant.

At 23, you're feeding and acting like a mother for a 26 year old man.

It has not occurred to you yet, that you're enabling him & that he's using you?


How can you pay almost a million naira in rent for a jobless man?

And additional 500k for a non-existent business?

You're talking about cohabiting with him, has it not occurred to you that, by virtue of paying his rent for him, he's the one that will have to be living with you?

Hmmm.

Please read this DM.

And I hope you young ladies learn from it.

Dear young man,

It's unfortunate that what you thought you had, may soon come to an end.

Not because your girlfriend has not tried, but because she has used her unchecked tongue and lack of wisdom to

ruin her relationship of almost two years.

And she opened her mouth to tell you that the reason she cheated on her ex, was because he cheated on her.

I am a man, and I know how such words make you feel.

What she told you indirectly is that if you cheat on her, she too will

You cannot be above 25 years of age, and be doing long distance relationship with a man.

You're wasting your time, & taking unnecessary risks.

Yes, close distance relationships can eventually lead to a long distance relationship.

But you have both been with each other for a while before that.

And even when your relationship is about to become long distance, both of you must have a plan to reunite within a short time frame.

Long distance relationship is unhealthy.

It breeds lack of trust, unnecessary emotional roller coaster, & denies you the

Your husband is right.

You know what you're doing, & this is typical of almost every woman.

What you're doing is testing the waters and looking for ways to make some of your bad behaviors a norm.

But your husband understands that a woman should be treated how they ought to
be treated, and not how they wish to be treated.

He corrects or admonishes you in one thing, then you go ahead to do another albeit, almost similar.

Meaning you want to find a way to make your husband accept that behavior of yours, & stop complaining.

It cannot work for you.

Whenever I tell you young men that, before you choose your wife, choose her mother.

This DM is another typical example.

And unfortunately for this young man, he's surrounded by women and not close to his father.

But I want to believe that God is trying to save him from


destruction, & has directed him to my DM.

If only he will listen to me.

To start with, that 5m idea that you're planning to invest in her business, you better cancel it from your head.

And just because you met her a virgin, doesn't make her immune from any proper vetting.

Let me say a few things.

A man that approaches a lady for the first time, saying that he wants to date you for marriage, may be a potential red flag.

Especially if the lady is in her late 20s and 30s.

When a lady is at this stage in her life, she becomes an easy prey for Men.

So don't get easily carried away.

The irony of it is that even the man doesn't understand that, the "pick up line" could be to his own detriment.

He thinks he is trying to play smart.

Should he not realise this, that lady will take undue advantage of his foolishness.

Unserious men.

Tomorrow, "Àgbà I am looking for a wife".

Do not respond to any man that chats like them.

And for the one that was flaunting money to you, he must be a yahoo boy.

Yes, men want sex most of the time, but he must first show that he can have good conversations
that would spark your interest.

There are men in this community that have done it, and some have even found their wives from the community.

At 25, your plan should be to target men that are showing signs of being ready for marriage.

Not fuck boys.

How do you identify such

I told you people that despite dating my wife for 9 years, I proposed to her when both of us were on the same salary.

She accepted, but asked that we defer any wedding until she was sure that I could take care of myself, her and our unborn children.

It took over a year for that to heppen.

I was even living in an apartment that I shared with my friends.

And she was getting close to 30 too.

Despite all I had experienced, I still come here to tell you that women don't love men.

And they shouldn't.

A man must be able to give a woman hope, and

Please read from a married man.

We had conversations few days ago, but I decided not to share his DM.

He sent me this yesterday, & wants my advice.

A little back story.

He met his wife and married her under 5 months.

He was always taking advice from his wife, & doing what

she wants.

He invested millions into her business, but she doesn't have much to show for it.

He opened another shop for her.

Now, he too is having issues with his business and his finances are now limited.

Please note all he said that his wife said and is saying.

At no

"A blind husband is a good husband".

Some of you keep asking me what I mean by this.

I did not say that you should be deliberately blind to what is obviously visible.

What it means is that a woman will continue to treat you as a king until you discover her secrets.

Please take your minds back to all the DMs from married men that caught their cheating wives.

The narratives are very similar.

Their wives become defensive, then they start to look for ways to manipulate them.

And then they become violent & dangerous.

She knows that you will no

If the wife is a full time housewife.

He does those things that a masculine in nature, around the house.

He is not supposed to cook, clean, do laundry or the dishes.

He can only do them, when his wife is sick or unavailable.

If he wants to cook, he can do it for the sake of creating memories for his kids, or he just feels like being "romantic" to his wife.

If the wife is a career/business wife, that goes out everyday like he does.

She takes out time during the weekends or off days, to do the cooking & cleaning.

Then if he returns before his wife,

Please read the conversation that I had with a 41 year old married man.

Ensure that you read to the last screenshot 👇.

Please read the conversation that I had with a 40 year old married man.

Ensure that you read to the last screenshot 👇.

It's mostly because you young men of this generation drew far away from your fathers, & embraced the woke culture, that's why you're finding it hard to lead the women of your generation.

Your level of stupidity has emboldened them.

Now they're destroying themselves in the process.

Unable to prepare themselves to be good wife materials, & raise a family in the future, under a balanced & functional home.

It's not funny.

Everyday, I share DM stories of how men are dealt with by women in the most embarrassing manner.

Each time I read those DMs,

You have lost your wife.

You cannot get her back, and I do not advice that you do that.

Unfortunately, you lost your child, but that in itself, will make you not to have long ties with her or her family.

Your mother as well, doesn't like her.

If her father and brother

wanted your marriage to work, they would not have come to your place to take her away to go rent her a place to stay.

They would have asked her to come home, & wait for you to make amends.

But that obviously, is not the case.

And I dare say.. That she has stepped out.

Just look at how this young man has been used as a retirement plan for a hoeing girlfriend.

A girl suddenly broke up with you for no reasons, went on to hoe around for 3+ years.

Then came back to you, & you accepted her back.

She even lied to you that she had dated just one

man, but it turned out that it was 4.

The 4 is just the one that you know about, how about the rest?

And then she's begging you not to leave her.

And you're here making excuses for her that she has not cheated since you got back.

You're a very stupid man.

And she knows that

I need you all to read this story to the last screenshot.

And hopefully, it'll open the eyes of young men.

First, let me thank you for the courage to tell this story without emotions or sentiments.

You're a man.

And I hope you would take my sincere advice.

And by extension,


your nephew that you just introduced to my page.

When I keep telling young men to choose the mother of your intended wife, before you choose your wife, this is a typical example.

When I keep telling young men not to believe women's stories until you're convinced, this is a

How women allow pastors to ruin their lives in the name of "I want my spiritual leader to check if the man is good for me".

Now you're 30, & you're now desperate, & at the mercy of men.

You destroyed 3 relationships in the past, because a pastor told you that the men were not


your husbands.

You even stayed out of relationships for 3 years, in the name of waiting for the right man.

Now you just met another man, and a pastor is still telling you that he's not your husband.

Honestly, I would have ignored your DM because I don't want to say that it's

I feel you.

Perhaps, you may have missed another thread that I wrote last week, about husbands not taking undue advantage of the kindness of their wives.

And that they should not feel entitled to their money too.

This is where I think your husband is missing it.

And it's also

what some husbands may be going through too in their matrimony.

So as a husband, please do some self introspection on what this woman said, and you may just see why your wife is being secretive with her money.

To the woman in the DM.

Let me suggest something to you.

Wait for

Let's discuss a little about the married man that I just shared his DM.

I always emphasize on 3 major pillars of marriage.

1) Kindness
2) Selflessness
3) Deliberate committment

I've never said that these 3 were a one-sided thing.

It's expected than the husband and the wife must hold on to these 3 pillars, for their marriage to last.

From the man's story, two things are obviously lacking.

Kindness and selflessness.

And I did tell him in my caption, that it's unfortunate that he married an unkind wife.

When you're selfless in marriage, you'll

Please read the conversation that I had with a 27 year old married woman.

Ensure that you read to the last screenshot 👇.