I'll respond to you.

The rest of you can respond as well.

No, it's not possible for any man to know, if the lady he wants to marry, has done hookup before, or has slept with a married man or men before.

Unless he stumbles on it by stroke of fate, like you did.

Perhaps,

this may be why some young men are clamoring for virgins to marry.

However, how can most men marry virgins, when most men cannot wait until marriage, before they start having sex?

You see that it's not a realistic "prayer?"

Even at that, looking for wife, goes way beyond

Please ensure that you read to the last screenshot.

It's a conversation between me and a 34 year old man, who is a minister of Christ.

Do not comment, until you're done reading.

End.

Thread on Bolt/Uber drivers and their experiences with cheating women.

Driver 1.


Driver 2.

A 48 year old man is in deep pains because he realized that he chose the wrong destiny after almost 10 years of marriage.

The 8 year old boy that he thought was his only child & son, turned out not to be his.

His disrespectful & recalcitrant wife has been openly cheating on him without any iota of shame.

Now, he's on the verge of divorce.

Tell me...

What do you think that he did that you young single men think you're not doing?

He read him say that he loved his wife, invested heavily in her financially.

But did that stop her from cheating &

I don't know if it's lack of sincerity of purpose, or that you think your parents or siblings are not expecting you to have a boyfriend or girlfriend at your adult age, that's why some of you date in the shadows.

If you cannot introduce your man or woman to your one sibling at least, within few months of dating, then you're not helping yourself.

Especially if you're above 23.

Your parents will not tell you to go and have sex, or date someone.

But they would be asking you why are you not bringing anyone to them, wheh they begin to sense that

So, as single men.

Please know that the ball is in your court.

Shame is really an important feature you must look out for in both the woman you're dating, & her mother.

Do not choose your wife without first choosing her mother.

This is a life hack you must never joke with. If her mother is late, there are people who knew her.

All it will take is for you to ask questions.

Do this directly or by proxy.

Even if both of you met abroad.

For her father, you don't need to ask much questions.

If she regards her father, you'll know through her.

You see...

There are lots of things to unpack in relationship dynamics.

Which is why I am a strong advocate of building and bonding.

You see this mentality of women waiting for men at the finish line?

It mostly doesn't always go well.

A man has been single for a long time. And during those periods, he devoted his time to work & achieving financial stability.

It's good for men to work hard and achieve financial stability.

But the downside to this is that if he meets a young lady that hasn't achieved as much, he would be looking down on her.

My lovely wife and I were at par in terms of social status, academic background.

When we graduated, we were earning about the same amount of salary.

She could buy herself basic things, & never begged me for money.

But she asked that we defer our wedding because she didn't feel I was there yet, to take up the responsibility of a husband and by extension, a father.

So I had to step up, and started earning far more than she was earning.

Then we got married.

But she lost her job few years into our marriage, and has never worked since then.

He's not married yet, but please read.

I understand him to a very large extent.

But in other not to mislead some ignorant or inexperienced minds, I'll explain in brief.

Especially because of what he said in the last screenshot.

When I was young and dating my wife, sex was

very frequent and it was done multiple times in a day.

But after some months, I started struggling to keep up, and sometimes, maintain erection.

It got so bad that I started becoming afraid of myself.

I met an uncle, and told him what I was experiencing.

His response?

A young lady of 22 was in my DM this morning.

The image below depicts what her boyfriend is doing.

Relationship of almost 2 years.

He doesn't like her coming to see him, whenever she's on her period.

I recall that last year, I made a post where I asked women to target when they're in their period, to go visit their men.

And that they should study how he treats them, compared to when they visit & not on their period.

This is very important if you have been in a long term relationship.

Many of you will discover that your boyfriends are mostly

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This DM is from the married woman who was worried because she was having video sex with her husband.

He's back now, but he's angry because she didn't shave her toto well in a way that it'll turn her husband on.

Let me tell you something.

I don't disagree with your husband on this.

There are men who do not like clean shaved toto.

The presence of pubic hairs turn them on.

And your husband happens to be one.

There is nothing you can do to pacify him ooo.

His brain is wired that way.

Since you have apologized,

A lot of young men and Infact, young women really need to be in this community.

Because I'm afraid of what they don't know, & how their ignorance can ruin them.

This DM is from a young man who was asked by his friend to come meet me for advice.

He's not just doubting his

friend, but doubting his own sanity.

Something inherent in his masculinity is telling him that he has made the wrong decision, but love doesn't want him to accept it.

To him, he feels his friend cannot advise him, but he knows that something is not right.

For the umpteenth

Alright, let's move on.

Please read this DM from a married man.

He did not have sex with his non-virgin wife until marriage.

Now, they're not sexually compatible, & his wife is addicted to porn.

He'll always have to finger his wife before she cums.

And according to him,
he's not enjoying sex with her.

Can you imagine how frustrating this can be for a man?

Sexual compatibility is a very big deal.

If both of you have been sexually active, you must check for it, & be convinced that both of you are in sync.

Let me explain why I said he'll be

You see... Sometimes, I don't want to blame those that hate me.

Because some of the things I say here, feels like reopening old wounds.

Please read this DM from a married man.

And read what I said last year, & I have repeated same several times.

If you read carefully, you'll

see where he said that he now realizes what I've been saying all these while.

Because a lot of us like to see our mothers as "saints" and our fathers as demons.

I also have a mother, but I'll never let my emotions, & the fact that I have a mother, then avoid saying what needs

I have been reading comments.

It's a very complex topic, & a lot of factors have to be considered.

1) the age of the lady
2) the man's financial strength
3) the risk of cheating & getting caught
4) possible increase in BCs
5) the man's age

Let me break down each of the 5 points.

1) a lady that is above 25, & wishes to be married before she's 30, will most likely be opened to giving other men a chance, if the man she's presently dating is not giving her enough hope or reasons to wait for him.

And typically, she'll be facing pressure from both

A relationship well intended & healthy, is not a distraction for young men and women.

When I met my wife in school, we were very young.

It was in my 2nd semester of 100 level.

Because I was young and in love, it affected my 2nd semester GPA.

That GPA happened to be the lowest that I ever had all through my university days.

And it was still not below 3.5.

I still finished my 100 level with over 4 point CGPA.

When we moved into our small apartment from 200 level, both of us had stabilized emotionally, & focusing on our studies.

We went on to

Last night, we all read a DM from a 33 year old married man whose recalcitrant wife wanted to get him fired from his work place.

This is a marriage that is just a year old.

She also hid the fact that her parents are no longer together from him.

Meaning, she knew that it was a deal breaker for him.

A few years ago, I wrote a thread, telling us that when you marry your spouse, you're married to your best "enemy".

And I've also said many times, that when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.

Let's talk about the best enemy part.

A painful read.

Here is a DM from a 28 year old man.

I have told us many times, that your mother is not the same person as your father's wife, and that your father's wife is your real mother.

I have also said many times, that a wicked woman or a cheating wife will prefer to


be a widow than a divorcee or a single mother.

If you read the entire DM, and with an open and indent mind, you'll understand these quotes of mine.

It's hard to convince this young man to trust a woman, because his own mother, who should have been a good example of a woman to

This morning, I shared a DM from lady who had a conversation with her mother.

The mother told her that a woman should sometimes act like a "dunce" when she's in a relationship or marriage.

Over the years, and in my experience dealing with women, I have observed that most women in their 20s appear more exposed, knowledgeable and confident that their male peers of the same age bracket.

If you take a random survey of women in their 20s, most will tell you that they prefer to date much older men.

In particular, men in their 30s.

They tend to

I'll answer you in two phases:

Phase 1:

If you're cohabiting with your girlfriend as students, both of you should jointly take care of your bills.

She brings, & you bring too.

This was what my lovely wife and I did when we were cohabiting in school.

Sometimes, if we ran ran out of cash, she would either call her elder ones living abroad or she would go to her village to meet her parents.

Then she would return with foodstuff & some money.

Whenever she returned, this was what she did.

"Sweetie, I came back with these foodstuff. My mother gave

I'll be dropping the DMs in series.

And I'll pin this post, so many would read and judge the winner.

Toaster no 1.

https://twitter.com/jon_d_doe/status/1935717171113660788

Toaster no 2.