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Sometimes, my wife reminds me of some of the awful things I said to her, in the early years of our marriage.

She must have said some awful things too, but truth be told, I really can't recall any.

She's a woman, so I can understand why words mean a lot to her.

This is even
after 9 years of dating.

Infact, just yesterday, she looked at me and said...

"Sweetie, you've really changed. I remember when I just had our baby, you said so so and so, to me, in the presence of your former colleague that came to visit us".

When she said it, it struck me bad
because I had to cast my mind years back, and what she said I said, I said it.

I even remembered where my colleague sat that day.

To further buttress what she said.

Few years ago, I met that same colleague.

Colleague: how is your wife and children doing?

I went on,
talking about them, appreciating my wife and gisting her about marriage life.

For over 20 minutes, this former colleague was just staring at me.

"Is this really you?"

"this is not you, that I used to know"

"remember when I told you, that you married a good wife?"

I was just
smiling as she was saying those words.

It took me 9 years and almost 5 years into marriage, before I realized that God blessed me with a good wife.

If I reveal myself to the world today, many people who used to know me, will be shocked.

I have still not dropped some old
habits, but I have significantly improved.

So when a small boy that just got married yesterday, thinks he can come here to throw shades at me, or my teachings, I'll teach him that I did not pick my wisdom fron the streets of social media.

Or from books.

They're real life
experiences, which cost me a lot.

But God is always merciful.

He's just starting, & I wish him the best.

To the rest of you...

Always take your time, to read what I tweet.

You may not understand them at first reading, but with time, you will.

If married people really want
to dedicate their time, like I do, to teach you people in honesty, you'll see that their messages will not be far different from mine.

And many of you will not make grave mistakes, if you listen.

Always remember, the truth will hurt you, but it will eventually heal you.

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May 28
Young man,

First, let me commend the way you write.

And in truth, your story is quite similar to mine.

From your story, I don't think you're doing anything wrong.

So you're not the one that truly needs advise, but your girlfriend.

I know how you feel, seeing that the woman ImageImageImage
you've built with, right from 200level, is slipping away.

It's quite painful.

So let me give you a brief story.

After service, I got a job. The first job I got was not even up to 30k.

My wife's first job paid her about 75k.

I got another job of about 75k, and then later got
a better one, that finally made her see that we could get married.

The only difference between mine and yours, is that she never for one day, pressured me to marry her, because suitors were coming.

But if she had said she wanted to marry, and I wasn't ready, I could have been
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May 24
Your wife, by just being a woman, is more useful to you, than her money.

If you decide to marry a woman, because of the size of money she makes, you're building on a faulty foundation.

Equal responsibilities, means equal privileges.

Remove your eyes from her money, & earn your
respect & submission.

There are no independent women out there.

They just have not found a man yet.

Women love money, but they don't like spending it on men.

Even the ones they spend on themselves, pinch them on their skin.

If they find a man that will shoulder that burden,
they'll be happy.

Every woman will not have equal opportunities to work in a place that will pay them high amount.

As long as she's working, and making something for herself, she's not lazy.

One woman may be earning 50k monthly, and another may be earning 200k monthly.
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May 24
Started on his own.

Never attacked anyone.

Never roamed twitter.

Never scammed anyone.

Shows love & humanity.

Saved homes & destroyed toxic & transactional relationships.

Believes in the traditional roles of men & women.

God is involved.

#agbainfluencer

Cheers to 200k🙏.
Please feel free to use any of these flyers to celebrate with me. Thank you to everyone that created the amazing flyers. ImageImageImageImage
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May 23
A man and a woman can be colleagues.

A man and a woman can be coursemates.

A man and a woman can be good neighbors.

A man and woman can be acquaintances.

A man and a woman can never be friends.

If you need a woman as a friend, please let her be your girlfriend or fiancée.
And this is why, some of us like to say "I married my best friend".

I like to see it as "I married my best enemy".

But that's not what I wish to discuss in this thread.

If you know women, you'll agree with me that they like attention.

Something in them, makes them feel good
when they "conquer" a man's desires for her.

She also likes to take advantage of the fact that you've let your guards down for her.

Let us start with a little example...

You remember that young girl that used to call you "bro Tunde?"

You asked her out, and she rejected you.
Read 12 tweets
May 22
So let's move on.

At times, I read some DMs and I feel a bit sad & concerned.

Some of you still do not understand what I do here, & why I do them.

What do I do here?

I tell you the truth as much as my conscience can give. And I don't know how to sugar coat it, no matter how
painful.

Why do I them?

It's because there are consequences for everything we do.

Depending on the gravity of what we do, & to also help you live with those consequences, & still keep your heads up.

The DM story from the 23 year old single mother is a sad one.

But I noted
that she said "Agba has made me realize that there is no hope to find a single man (without kids), to marry"

Is that correct?

I'll leave you to answer that question.

If you read correctly, she also said that her father told her, that he will support her & stand with her, but
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May 21
Today, I wish to mention a name.

And I apologize if the person I'll mention, may feel offended or doesn't wish to be mentioned in my thread.

When Daddy Freeze started his teachings, he was amongst the most hated personalities on social media.

He stood his grounds because
he believed in his teachings.

Whether you agree with him or not, he has made his mark.

I didn't mention him, because I want to bring religion into this discussion.

I did mention him, because he started out as controversial, daring and unperturbed.

I am not Daddy Freeze.
But I can never go to him, to attack him.

I'd rather, read from him to understand his perspective about life and his teachings.

The ones I agree with, I'll take.

The ones I don't agree with, I'll respect his opinions and knowledge.

He's not even anonymous like I am.
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