Here's the thing, though, & it should be 🚩🚨. Rez & presumably other churches w/in UMD *do* require members agree to obey clergy in their extraordinarily unconventional "New Member Covenant."
It opens with a commitment to obey and support those in spiritual authority, particularly the bishop and clergy.
Nowhere in this document does it discuss informed methods of issuing a complaint about clergy, only a members responsibility to comply.
Concerns with leaders are to be kept private, not even to be discussed with friends or other leaders in the church.
Instead, the concerned layperson is to attempt to privately confront the leader, something that disregards power dynamics & safeguarding best practices.
Note this entire subsection about honoring leaders including:
-obedience & submission to their authority
-idea that obedience prevents conflicts (!!!)
-preemptive dismissal of *common & dangerous* allegations against leaders.
This is highly irregular & controlling.
Again, people who have concerns or issues are directed to privately go to someone in leadership, presumably so they can persuade them to stay.
I don't know what kind of church discipline was going on at the parish level, but the way it is addressed here is foreboding.
The signature page includes agreeing to the extensive rules on conflict (the focus itself a 🚩) and again a reminder to honor leaders.
I don't know if all UMD churches sign this membership covenant but to my knowledge they are required to include the Unity Pledge.
If you are wondering why people in UMD/Rez are not speaking about these matters directly, well, this is why.
Members have been taught this from when they joined the church, and the church culture supports it.
This is wrong & weirdly controlling.
It's also unbiblical, despite the fact that the entire document is prooftexted with Scriptures to bolster these points.
There are many NT examples of Christians confronting problematic teaching & much of it involves public discussion.
If you are in @MidwestAnglican or another @The_ACNA diocese that attempts to muffle your concerns or funnels all information through the clergy, please know this is a mark of unhealth.
If deconstruction is a necessary stage of faith formation 🔗⬇️, why is it that Christian parents (& pastors in faith families) speak so negatively about it?
Probably many reasons, but b/c I've been reading so many Christian parenting resources, I want to talk about one 🧵
Many frameworks give little space for questions/differentiation. Parents cultivate & expect right-away-all-the-way-compliance. This may “work” when children are small but leaves parents uniquely ill-equipped to navigate relationships w/teens & adults. 2/
As young adults who were raised in the church question, reclaim spiritual autonomy, & speak honestly about their experiences, this can be unnerving for parents or pastors who expected children/congregants to simply do as they were told. 3/
As I analyze various Christian resources, I often think about the ppl who lived them. What was it like to parent according to the suggested principles? To be a child “trained up” by them? A family spiritually formed by them?
Recently finished chpt-by-chpt examination of Don’t Make Me Count to Three, a practical application of Shepherding A Child’s Heart. Both offer a nouthetic/ACBC approach to parenting—spiritual micromanagement of thoughts, behaviors, & hearts. 2/youtube.com/playlist?list=…
I've written elsewhere how a laser focus on a child’s heart trains sincere, devout parents to cultivate Christian scaffolding in every layer of family life. An understandable desire, but what if starting presuppositions are askew? What if the scaffolding is flawed? 3/
I am finishing my reread of Martha Peace’s “The Excellent Wife” today, and as I was describing it to a friend she sent me the song that could’ve been written for it.
Try hard. And then harder. This book is peppered with “should” and “responsibility” and “sinfulness.” 1/5
If it works, your efforts were by grace alone. If it doesn’t work, be satisfied that you were righteous while you suffer needlessly. If you don’t like it, you have a sin issue.
On pg. 150 describes churches teaching “older women how & what to teach the younger women…” 2/5
“Part of this instruction involves the older woman instructing the younger woman in what she is doing wrong biblically.”
That encapsulates it: nouthetic pastors in authority over new converMartha told her how & what other women were doing wrong & she passed on the message. 3/5
If @The_ACNA leaders don't want ppl to assume an ACNA bishop is silencing survivors & muffling a clergyperson...they should not take actions that silence survivors & muffle clergy. 2/6
If @The_ACNA leaders would like people to not go public when they have concerns or see troubling behavior from leaders, they could prioritize a functional system of reporting concerns. 3/6https://x.com/MBurtwrites/status/1582459185286983680
@GroyperFriend Imagine expecting ppl who have been waiting for responses re: #acnatoo for 3+yrs to give ACNA leaders the benefit of the doubt at this point.
Walls of silence cut both ways. Not issuing public statements leave ppl filling in the blanks. 1/2
@GroyperFriend If ACNA leaders don’t want ppl to assume an @The_ACNA bishop is silencing survivors & muffling clergy ppl, they should not take actions that silence survivors & muffle clergy.+
@GroyperFriend @The_ACNA Provincial leaders have offered unsatisfactory communication to lay presentment authors for over a year, Cherin & Joanna & others for 3+ yrs, among a myriad of other complaints. +
My feed: "women can't be at seminaries" + megachurch knew a pastor molested a girl & "restored" him to ministry.
Christians telling women their femaleness forever disqualifies them while we cannot find the will to tell a man his behavior has permanently disqualified him.
🤔🧐🧵
Among other things, both of these stances are *unbiblical*. First: excluding women.
Guess who didn't have a problem w/women learning & fully participating in the church?
Early church as seen in the New Testament.
Perhaps these Christians had watched the example of Jesus. 2/
Jesus commends Mary for joining the disciples at the feet of their Rabbi.
"She has chosen what is better," he tells her critic-sister.
He also tells watching religious men to "leave her alone" when they criticize her for lavishly anointing Jesus' feet... 3/