Thread by @alpharivelino

HOW TO TALK TO GIRLS
Talking to a girl you don't know is NOT easy, but we can break it down into 5 concrete steps

I will describe the steps & then give examples

1-Break the ice in an honest way, say that you saw her, she caught your eye, tell her something you noticed about her

2-Keep on talking to her about her, your impressions of her, in a playful fun non-needy way. This is how you display your humor and social courage. Also, as you talk she can start to warm up to you & your vibe, and catch her bearings since this was completely unexpected for her

3-Ideally, she starts to warm up to you and begins to share more about herself & the conversation turns fun. You can start sharing a bit more about yourself too, but keeping the ratio 80/20

If she seems very not interested in talking to you, this is where you bow out gracefully

4-As she opens up, you start becoming more of an inquisitive listener, asking her deeper, more open-ended questions. Sprinkle in "glimpses" about you, your identity, your lifestyle to keep her intrigued, but again the focus is 80/20 on her. Get her "investing" in the conversation

4b-As she is investing in the conversation, you gotta start figuring out things about her: her current situation, timing/schedule, lifestyle, interests. Also, you need to be verbally *rewarding* her when she shares something interesting about herself. She is not your average girl

5-After having a fun enjoyable conversation of about 5-10 minutes, that's when you take the lead and end the conversation in a polite way. You tell her it was cool meeting her, she seems interesting and maybe you can invite her for a coffee sometime

5b-If the conversation was fun and you got her to invest/share things about herself, the idea of exchanging contact info should flow & be a logical continuation of the conversation. You don't want to see it as "picking her up", see it as simply meeting someone new and interesting

Those are the five concrete steps of how to talk to and meet a girl you don't know

Again, this is NOT easy by any means. In fact, it's very difficult and requires a lot practice for it to start to feel natural

The four stages of competence definitely applies here

I didn't invent any of this, btw

What I just explained to you is the London Daygame Model (LDM). It was created by a group of men much smarter & more dedicated than me, and to them I am grateful

I met my girlfriend this way, by talking to her when she was walking in the park

The London Daygame Model is the improved version of Mystery's M3 attraction model

It's the Mystery Method 2.0

If you've never studied pick-up/game, you may not know what I'm talking about and that's probably better

Game is an incredible invention but has become a real mess

Before I start giving scripts/examples of the five steps, let's write them down with their official London Daygame Model names

1-OPEN
2-STACK
3-VIBE
4-INVEST
5-CLOSE

By far, the hardest steps are 1 and 2. Approaching and talking to a pretty girl you don't know is not easy

Memorize this line:

"Excuse me, can I just tell you one thing really quickly? I just saw you walking by and you looked really nice so I just *had* to say hello. I will tell you what I noticed about you...."

That's your standard opener

Here is your standard opener broken down into its four components

• You get her attention/give her time to notice you and process what is going on

• You give her context to the situation

• You compliment her in a polite, playful & honest way

• You transition into step 2

Without overcomplicating things, it's important to make a key distinction

You need two openers

The first opener is for a girl walking on the street. If the girl is doing something more substantial, you want to show extra social awareness to help her feel comfortable

Like this

If you look at the street opener and cafe opener side by side, the difference between them isn't much

Either way, you want to show social awareness, calling out the "elephant in the room" as Tom Torero would say

Social awareness comes off as polite & respectful and that's huge

This is more advanced, but here's a third opener that works well in a subway train:

"Excuse me, can I just say one thing really quickly? I gotta get off in three stops, at X station, but I just saw you and I just had to say hello. Let me tell you what I noticed about you"

This is a good comment. It reveals two things

1-This guy has low self esteem. He can't imagine any woman paying attention to him for 10 seconds

2- Some girls will listen and some girls won't. Maybe she's in a rush, has a BF or just doesn't find you intriguing. It will happen

Also, notice how he says no woman will listen to you "if you do this"

He's speaking completely in the hypothetical. He has never tried this and just wants to sound cool

In contrast, I've actually used this script many times to talk to girls. I met my GF in the park using cold approach using this opener

The inventors of the London Daygame Model have talked to THOUSANDS of women using similar opening lines

This stuff is proven, not hypothetical

This is my intepretation of the London Daygame Model. I will write more on each of the 5 steps, because they're all crucial

If you want to learn more from the guys who developed & perfected the LDM, look up these men on YouTube

• Tom Torero
• Nick Krauser
• Jon Matrix
• Yad