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Does your WIFE often feel like your biggest CRITIC?
You deal with PROBLEMS all day at work & then come home & deal with her nagging at you?
I used to be like this.
I used to blame her for everything.
Then, a few mindset shifts CHANGED our entire marriage & home!
You deal with PROBLEMS all day at work & then come home & deal with her nagging at you?
I used to be like this.
I used to blame her for everything.
Then, a few mindset shifts CHANGED our entire marriage & home!
1) Take OWNERSHIP of everything
But Ty my wife doesn’t understand as a guy my need to feel respected & built up.
She doesn’t get my need to see friends & have some guy time.
I get it BUT…..
IT IS YOUR FAULT YOU HAVN’T communicated to her how critical these things are to you.
But Ty my wife doesn’t understand as a guy my need to feel respected & built up.
She doesn’t get my need to see friends & have some guy time.
I get it BUT…..
IT IS YOUR FAULT YOU HAVN’T communicated to her how critical these things are to you.
You must sit her down & have a hard talk on WHY you need things, how she can best help you & HOW it’s going to make you a better husband.
Then, ask her how you can do the same for her.
Boys complain & whine.
Men LEAD & take ownership.
This is how she’ll start to respect you.
Then, ask her how you can do the same for her.
Boys complain & whine.
Men LEAD & take ownership.
This is how she’ll start to respect you.
2) Women amplify OUR ENERGY
But Ty my wife nags at me.
She always talks about problems.
I used to say this.
One day my wife showed me my texts to her.
“I hate my job.”
“My boss sucks.”
“This client sucks.”
Women have an amazing gift to AMPLIFY & MAGNIFY the energy WE BRING!
But Ty my wife nags at me.
She always talks about problems.
I used to say this.
One day my wife showed me my texts to her.
“I hate my job.”
“My boss sucks.”
“This client sucks.”
Women have an amazing gift to AMPLIFY & MAGNIFY the energy WE BRING!
I decided that day NO MORE LOW ENERGY TYLER.
I would build her up.
I would speak life into her & our family.
If I had nothing positive to text about work, I would text I got a walk in at lunch & I’m grateful for that.
It changed everything!
I got it right back from her!! ❤️
I would build her up.
I would speak life into her & our family.
If I had nothing positive to text about work, I would text I got a walk in at lunch & I’m grateful for that.
It changed everything!
I got it right back from her!! ❤️
3) Different styles of communication.
A real gift I’ve been given the last couple years being a work from home/stay at home dad is seeing in real time how women communicate.
It’s TOTALLY DIFFERENT THAN MOST MEN.
If I have a problem & ask my buddy for help I WANT A SOLUTION!
A real gift I’ve been given the last couple years being a work from home/stay at home dad is seeing in real time how women communicate.
It’s TOTALLY DIFFERENT THAN MOST MEN.
If I have a problem & ask my buddy for help I WANT A SOLUTION!
Women often don’t.
Here’s a huge takeaway:💡
A group of men are talking & one says,
“I want to improve my bench press.”
One guy instantly says:
•keep your feet planted
•another sends a video to watch
The guy is heard, the other guys FIXED IT & we are all good!
Here’s a huge takeaway:💡
A group of men are talking & one says,
“I want to improve my bench press.”
One guy instantly says:
•keep your feet planted
•another sends a video to watch
The guy is heard, the other guys FIXED IT & we are all good!
Women on the other hand aren’t like this.
I hear a group of moms at the park:
“Ted is so hard he’s potty training & it’s not going well.”
3 other moms,
“Your such a great mom.
You’re doing amazing.”
The next mom,
“My husbands traveling.
I feel frazzled & the house is a mess.”
I hear a group of moms at the park:
“Ted is so hard he’s potty training & it’s not going well.”
3 other moms,
“Your such a great mom.
You’re doing amazing.”
The next mom,
“My husbands traveling.
I feel frazzled & the house is a mess.”
The other 3 moms,
“You’re the best mom & it’s a hard season, we are proud of you.”
Around the circle they go sharing problems & struggles and……
NO FREAKING PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED!!!
Not 1 solution is offered!
I want to scream HIRE A CLEANER, WATCH THIS VIDEO on potty training!
“You’re the best mom & it’s a hard season, we are proud of you.”
Around the circle they go sharing problems & struggles and……
NO FREAKING PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED!!!
Not 1 solution is offered!
I want to scream HIRE A CLEANER, WATCH THIS VIDEO on potty training!
But all the moms leave feeling better.
They feel HEARD & VALIDATED.
And this men, if you can understand this one thing, will make you a 10x better husband.
She shares life (her daily struggles) NOT FOR YOU TO FIX HER, but for you TO VALIDATE HER!
For you to hear her.
They feel HEARD & VALIDATED.
And this men, if you can understand this one thing, will make you a 10x better husband.
She shares life (her daily struggles) NOT FOR YOU TO FIX HER, but for you TO VALIDATE HER!
For you to hear her.
When I’m at my best my wife will say the kids were hard today.
*My masculine fix it instincts are screaming inside DID YOU TRY THE PARK or DID YOU WATCH THAT YOUTUBE VIDEO I SENT!
But instead, I’ll say,
“You’re such a great mom, two 2 year olds are tough some days, but I’m proud of you & grateful you’re such a hands on mom.”
*My masculine fix it instincts are screaming inside DID YOU TRY THE PARK or DID YOU WATCH THAT YOUTUBE VIDEO I SENT!
But instead, I’ll say,
“You’re such a great mom, two 2 year olds are tough some days, but I’m proud of you & grateful you’re such a hands on mom.”
Wallah!!!!
She’s validated.
She feels heard.
I’ll even ask sometimes after she shares,
“Hey do you want a solution & to solve problems together or just want a talk/vent session.”
90% of the time it’s just thanks I wanted to get it off my chest & now feel better.
She’s validated.
She feels heard.
I’ll even ask sometimes after she shares,
“Hey do you want a solution & to solve problems together or just want a talk/vent session.”
90% of the time it’s just thanks I wanted to get it off my chest & now feel better.
3) Nonnegotiable date nights
But Ty we can’t leave our kids.
Our kids are the TOP PRIORITY.
And guess what?
Your kids will see that mom & dad aren’t madly in love.
That they are roommates & that’s the kind of relationships they’ll model later in life.
Stings huh?
But Ty we can’t leave our kids.
Our kids are the TOP PRIORITY.
And guess what?
Your kids will see that mom & dad aren’t madly in love.
That they are roommates & that’s the kind of relationships they’ll model later in life.
Stings huh?
My wife & I love our kids so much we completely IGNORE them 6-8 hours a week & continue to date, grow closer & pursue one another!
Your kids are perceptive.
Our daughter is 8 & recently said to one of her friends,
“It’s date night for mom & dad. They really love each other.”
Your kids are perceptive.
Our daughter is 8 & recently said to one of her friends,
“It’s date night for mom & dad. They really love each other.”
We see this as an intricate part of us teaching our kids.
My sons will see how I treat their mom & think that’s normal.
My daughter will see how I treat their mom & expect similar one day.
We are modeling to our kids what an on fire marriage & home should look like!
My sons will see how I treat their mom & think that’s normal.
My daughter will see how I treat their mom & expect similar one day.
We are modeling to our kids what an on fire marriage & home should look like!
It’s up to us as men to lead on this front.
•Plan the dates.
•Pay money for sitters.
•Do what needs to be done.
Pursue her & let her know she’s your NUMBER ONE ahead of the kids, work & friends.
Go have fun together like you used to!
Laugh. Goof around. Enjoy life!
•Plan the dates.
•Pay money for sitters.
•Do what needs to be done.
Pursue her & let her know she’s your NUMBER ONE ahead of the kids, work & friends.
Go have fun together like you used to!
Laugh. Goof around. Enjoy life!
I’ve coached & helped COUNTLESS MEN save their marriages over the last couple years.
I’ve had guys in 17 year dry spells saying they hate each other REKINDLE that passion after 5-6 weeks!
A crappy marriage & a WAR ZONE for a home is no place to be.
I’ve had guys in 17 year dry spells saying they hate each other REKINDLE that passion after 5-6 weeks!
A crappy marriage & a WAR ZONE for a home is no place to be.
If you would like to work with me & go from ROOMMATES to PASSIONATE LOVERS then DM me today & I’ll send you details.
Every husband should know the feeling of his wife initiating intimacy with him.
It’s possible.
DM ME MARRIAGE & I’ll send you more info!
I run a 10 week cohort normally $1,500 but taking on TWO more guys at $1,000.
Have the best day. ❤️🙏
Every husband should know the feeling of his wife initiating intimacy with him.
It’s possible.
DM ME MARRIAGE & I’ll send you more info!
I run a 10 week cohort normally $1,500 but taking on TWO more guys at $1,000.
Have the best day. ❤️🙏
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