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Oct 30, 2023 12 tweets 2 min read Read on X
We were shocked by published responses to the Law Commission Consultation, revealing the dark heart of the surrogacy industry.
This response from a NHS OBG deserves a thread of its own. Image
NHSOBG hasn’t time to read the full 500 page consultation but they think its “a very good thing”.

They refer to the Surrogate Mother as “The Host”.
When NHSOBG says “it’s difficult to imagine a situation where invasive tests could not be anything other than the choice of the host” one senses they wish this wasn’t so, reserving sympathy for the Commissioning Parents (referred to as Intended Parents or IPs).
“it was difficult for the intended parents as they had no say in the decision whether to have it performed”

Those poor CP’s , with no say in the decision to perform an invasive test on the pregnant woman carrying the baby.
When the relationship between the Surrogate Mother and the CPs breaks down, all sympathy is reserved for those CPs who had no legal rights over a still born baby delivered by a woman who NHSOBG fails to understand may have been somewhat distressed by the situation
When problems arise in a pregnancy, and CPs possibly demonstrate more concern for “their baby/ies than for the woman hired to gestate them, and maybe attempt to dictate medical treatment, it should be no surprise that the relationship between parties should become strained.
These complex cases are all picked up by the NHS, investing the best of fetal medicine and NICU facilities for premature babies. But CPs expect sick babies to be transferred free of charge to a nearby NICU to suit their convenience.#Surrogacy
A long ambulance journey, with attendant paediatrician and paediatric nurse. Presumably as the Surrogate Mother was the legal mother, this lead to argument over funding the transfer to a hospital that wasn’t the local hospital of the SM. Assuming the availability of a NICU cot.
NHSOBG also seems to think the act of surrogacy removes a Surrogate Mother’s right to privacy and control over the sharing of her own medical history.
NHSOBG doesn’t seem to realise that the pregnant woman is the patient to which they owe a duty of care. The one person who should be at the centre of all decision making. A woman who will grieve a still born baby. And a woman whose informed consent and privacy are a human right.
It is truly shocking and chilling to think NHSOBGs have attitudes like this.
Surrogate Mothers deserve better.
Aagh. I hate a grammar fail! “To whom”!

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More from @WombsNotForRent

Apr 30
We were recently asked by a journalist for examples of UK #surrogacy cases where the child was born or became ill and where the commissioning parents were older or in any way unfit.

We were also asked to share cases where there was deception.

Here are just 8 examples 🧵
1. Single man with autism and mental health issues is accused of raping his ex wife. He buys a baby from a Kyrgyz woman who gives birth in Northern Cyprus.

bailii.org/cgi-bin/format…
2. A convicted pa*dophile comes to the UK to secure parental rights and the baby is made a ward of court when entering from Colombia.

He and his partner live in Thailand but the case is heard by a UK judge who grants parental rights as the convictions were a long time ago.
Read 13 tweets
Feb 14
As COTS, the UK’s first #surrogacy agency is set to close this year and founder Kim Cotton launches a consultancy, she reveals she is “desperate to find” her daughter who she gave away to strangers at birth.

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Cotton has spoken of her #surrogacy regret before.

“Kim, a grandmother to seven children (that she knows of) clings to the idea that her biological daughter…has had a happy-ever-after life, even though she knows that the opposite could be true.”
The article refers to Kim as being self aware and she refers to her first #surrogacy to be like a divorce or “living death”, but there is a rejection of reality & a need to perpetuate the narrative of surrogacy as this kind and altruistic act. Kim was paid £6,500 for Baby Cotton.
Read 8 tweets
Jan 14, 2024
The dark heart of surrogacy - a thread 🧵

Nowhere is the callous nature more apparent than in the Law Commission discussions around still birth.

We apologise in advance for the upsetting nature of this thread and advise caution if you are grieving baby loss.

#surrogacy
In the Law Commission consultation paper it was proposed that commissioning parents would be the legal parents of any stillborn baby. Image
Researching the responses to the consultation paper has shown differing views relating to such a sad event.
Whilst the majority of respondents opposed the suggestion, most commissioning (intended) parents were in agreement.

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Read 11 tweets
Feb 12, 2023
1. 1.We attended court last November to support this Surrogate Mother (SM) in the case to ‘set aside’ the Parental Order. We understand this case to be a one of a kind which was won on the basis of consent which we will explore in an upcoming blog but first some background…
2. The SM’s relationship with newly-introduced Commissioning Parents (CPs) progressed quickly and the first donor egg conceived embryo was transferred within 6 months. There was no long history of friendship and this all took place without guidance of an agency. #surrogacy
Read 17 tweets
Sep 2, 2022
Thread: The gift of life. Is there any appropriate repayment for such a gift? In USA whilst commercial surrogacy is awash with tropes of surrogate mothers as “angels” giving the “gift of life” payment in the region of $30-50 K is the norm. Why be generous with a post birth gift?
In the UK the “altruistic” concept is carefully nurtured, with payment limited to “reasonable” expenses only, so post birth “gifts” are expected to be more generous.
A recuperative holiday is the norm, approved by a judge.
It’s funny how those “reasonable expenses” so often add up to a going rate of around £15,000.
Read 10 tweets
Jun 22, 2022
Norwegian Minister for Children and Families Kjersti Toppe says that as it illegal to use a surrogate mother in Norway it should not be permitted to use a surrogate mother abroad. worldakkam.com/norwegian-fami…
Toppe said that she wanted to criminalize the use of surrogate mothers abroad: “... the disciplinary provisions form *an attitude* and support the seriousness of the legal provisions. The important thing is to clarify that *this is prohibited*."
This follows the statement on surrogacy from Ukraine's Children Ombudsman, Mykola Kuleba, calling #surrogacy the “exploitation and slavery of women who decide to become a surrogate mother" and “making money on the sale of children”. #babybuying
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