this is still one of the wildest graphs I've seen in recent times
why women and men go to college and what they expect to get out of college may have very little overlap, which explains (to the first order) a lot of differences in attendance, use, etc
just why they have such different expectations of college's purpose is harder to pin down
HAMMURABI'S ERA: Men pay Bride Price to the father
TODAY: Men pay Bride Price to college administrators, who laugh all the way to the bank
it's kind of impressive to invent something worse than the historic practice. At least the old way kept money in the family.
perhaps the median thinking is:
Men: if I go to college I will get a better job
Women: if I go to college I will become a better person
These are not terrible reasoning for a 17yo. They're equally unsophisticated. But they are quite distinct.
We just have the one couch. I'm not crazy about it either. We need a lot more comfy seating but all the armchairs I like are pretty expensive. We're probably going to buy our first this December. And if we really like it get another.
you can see part of Simi's sewing setup (because the studio room is now mostly my home office) and the beam that's where a wall would be there if we did not decide at the last minute to make the downstairs an open L shape so the wood stove could heat everything
Step 1 you have to learn to love women. Not *a* woman, all women. You have to have affection for the entire sex. You should cherish the very thought of women, have a fondness and a sympathy overflowing for them. This is table stakes.
All kinds of people will try to get you to hate men or women these days and you must reject these people as imbeciles that want you to be unhappy.
I'm not saying you can't complain. But the faults of the other sex should be approached with a tender solicitude, and some humility.
if a country wanted to increase the birth rate there's plenty of things they could try:
1. Ban full-time education after 18. Part time is fine. This stops ppl delaying their lives via the worse-than-unpaid internship. The sooner people make money the sooner they can have babies.
2. gov pensions (eg social security) are very small and only substantial if you've had children. People complain that social pensions require a growth pyramid of population, so just formalize that.
No children? Nearly no gov pension.
obviously #2 has a serious flaw...
one would think the people who might need a gov pension the most are the people with no children (to help them in old age).
But if childless people proclaim that being childless affords them so much money over child-having people, maybe... we take their word for it.
The secret to good sleep is to only use 5-15 watt incandescent bulbs on dimmers in the upstairs of your house, in sconces and table lamps. It should feel darker than downstairs.
The secret to waking up is to wake up way earlier than you have to. When you have 1-2 hours where you can just sit there calmly, drinking coffee, and not be rushed, you feel ten times better.
Later on, you can work on being ~productive~ in the a.m. too if you please.
There's something I find deeply disturbing in the modern world about the concept of jobs.
When people say "no one wants to work [hard] anymore" I actually do think they're on to something.
The problem is that a lot of (mostly liberal?) people seem to treat jobs *not* as an instrumental thing - a position for getting serious work done - but instead as a kind of reward or perk.
Jobs are things to be handed out. And if you don't like someone they should lose it, etc.
So many people I know don't *really* take their job seriously. In municipal gov especially.
I think to people in the civil service jobs in the early 1900s, something like the show Parks and Rec would be more horror than comedy.