Thread by @hollowearthterf

He told me I was going to give our baby inferior genes because his family was wealthier than mine and whined incessantly whenever he had to take me to an appointment, at one point he pinned me to the bed and choked me. The pregnancy was planned.

https://twitter.com/ladymysticalwmn/status/1735371763435884955

His parents didn’t even grow up wealthy and his mom grew up dirt poor, the whole thing was just insane. Dude deluded himself into believing he was an heir to some great name and not borderer new money trash that will have spent away that money within 3 generations

The kids don’t even have trusts, the parents spend all of their money on home remodels, designer clothing, and vacations. I will end up inheriting more money from my Normie poor upper middle class family than they will!

Pregnancy is a common “trigger” for abusive behavior. Unfortunately you don’t really know who a man is until you’ve had children with him. Men who were once helpful around the home may suddenly decide that’s your job now, men who were excited to have children end up being very uninterested in raising them, men who seemed normal and non-violent can start putting their hands on you and calling you names when you’re at your most vulnerable. Becoming a dad is a make or break moment for men, they either rise to the occasion or the newfound stress and responsibilities make them resentful of a situation they chose

Many men want to have children but they expect their lives to go unchanged, and anytime it does change they will blame the person who brought “the problem” into the world even if it’s what they wanted. Your body is not supposed to change, your priorities are not supposed to change, their responsibilities are not supposed to change, their freedom is not supposed to change. They were entitled to a genetic legacy without any change, and if there’s change it’s because you the woman allowed that to happen and failed your duty to him to give him a legacy without any change

Fatherhood is a social construct and new to our history as people of earth, the majority of men are not cut out for it on a genetic level yet

Men want a genetic legacy but they don’t want to be dads, and they certainly don’t want fatherhood to look anything like motherhood. The more civilization expects fatherhood to look like motherhood, the angrier men get and the more they hate women for demanding investment in order to procure a genetic legacy. They see women as holding this legacy over their heads and essentially forcing them into the role of involved father which they don’t want to do. Men feel as if they are imprisoned by women because they have increasingly lost their right to abandon their children. Every expectation given to them in the household is akin to abuse in their minds which is why despite the fact that women are the ones who are socially disadvantaged, men feel they are the ones being victimized by society.

At the same time though men become very upset when they see women not have high demands for giving a genetic legacy because they know this leads to problems and they know that they wish their own father had been more involved even though themselves don’t want to be. They want to be the lone lone wolf.

There are some great dads of course, I grew up in an area with a lot of them, but most men would call these men soft, effeminate, cucks, etc. I know because I see it on here every day, but these “soft” highly invested dads are almost never the ones getting divorced and their kids are always the most well adjusted. The right calls such families sterile, overly domesticated, longhoused, but they have always been the most stable households I’ve ever known. I went through a phase of rejecting these families because I saw them as “unmasculine” but perhaps the fact that these are the happiest and most successful homes should make us reject our ideas of masculinity rather than reject a system that works

I’m sure Polarity or whatever invites a lot of excitement but it also invites a lot of strife and instability. A stable household is a longhoused household.