Our transformative moments of growth often stem directly from our toughest moments of failure.
Don't fear failure—learn to fail smart and fast. Never fail the same way twice.
2. The Growth Paradox
Growth takes a longer time coming than you think, but then happens much faster than you ever thought possible.
Growth happens gradually, then suddenly.
The best things in life come from allowing compounding to work its magic.
Slowly, then all at once.
3. The Persuasion Paradox
Have you ever noticed that the most argumentative people rarely persuade anyone of anything?
Persuasive people don't argue—they observe, listen, and ask questions.
Argue less, persuade more.
Persuasion requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.
4. The Productivity Paradox
Work longer, get less done.
Parkinson's Law says that work expands to fill the time allotted for its completion. When you establish fixed hours to your work, you find unproductive ways to fill it.
Work like a lion instead—sprint, rest, repeat.
5. The Fear Paradox
The thing you fear the most is often the thing you most need to do.
Fears, when avoided, become limiters on our progress.
Make a habit of getting closer to your fears—treat them as magnets for your energy and you'll find growth on the other side.
6. The Intelligence Paradox
Intelligence can lead to stupidity.
Intelligent people are more likely to fall victim to stupidity by convincing themselves they are smarter than the system.
They create complexity vs. doing the boring thing that works.
Never outsmart yourself.
7. The Advice Paradox
Taking more advice can leave you less well-prepared.
Most advice sucks. It's well-intentioned, but it's dangerous to use someone else's map of reality to navigate yours.
Winners develop filters and selectively implement advice—take signal, skip noise.
8. The Effort Paradox
Effortless, elegant performances are simply the result of a large volume of effortful, gritty practice.
You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.
Small things become big things, simple is not simple.
9. The Wisdom Paradox
"The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don't know." - Albert Einstein
The more you learn, the more you are exposed to the immense unknown. This should be empowering, not frightening.
Embrace your own ignorance. Embrace lifelong learning.
10. The Opportunity Paradox
Take on less to accomplish more.
Success doesn't come from taking on everything that comes. It comes from focus—deep focus on the projects that really matter.
Say yes to what matters, say no to everything else. Your time is an asset to be cherished.
11. The Boredom Paradox
The most creative, captivating ideas stem directly from periods of intense boredom.
You're bored, your mind wanders, your thoughts mingle—creative insight strikes.
Boredom sparks creativity. Schedule more of it into your weeks.
12. The Social Media Paradox
More connectedness, less connected.
Social media has created more connectedness than ever before, but we feel less connected to those around us.
Schedule time to disconnect and you will feel more connection.
13. The Talking Paradox
"We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." - Epictetus
Talk less to say more.
If you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You'll find more power in your words.
14. The Speed Paradox
You have to slow down to speed up.
Slowing down allows you to restore your energy, notice things you previously missed, be more deliberate with your actions, and focus on the highest leverage opportunities.
Move slow to move fast.
15. The Looking Paradox
Stop looking in order to find what you're looking for.
Ever notice that when you're looking for something, you rarely find it? Stop looking—what you're looking for may find you.
Applies equally to love, business, happiness, and life.
16. The Icarus Paradox
Icarus crafted wings. Emboldened by success, he flew too close to the sun, which melted the wings and sent him to his death.
Overconfidence blinds the incumbent to coming disruption.
What makes you successful can sow the seeds of your downfall.
17. The Shrinking Paradox
You may need to shrink before you can grow.
Subtraction may feel like a step back, but it's a necessity for long-term growth.
We all need to embrace the mantra of "less, but better."
One step back, two steps forward is a recipe for long-term success.
18. The Money Paradox
You have to lose money to make money.
Every successful investor and builder has stories of the invaluable lessons learned from a terrible loss in their career.
Sometimes you have to pay to learn. Always put skin in the game.
19. The News Paradox
The more news you consume, the less well-informed you become.
Nassim Taleb's "noise bottleneck" says more data leads to a higher ratio of noise-to-signal.
Want to know more about the world? Turn off the news and go spend time in it.
20. The Death Paradox
You have to know your death to truly live your life.
Memento Mori is a reminder of the inescapability of death. It's not intended to be morbid—but to illuminate and inspire.
By accepting our time as finite, we are able to appreciate its precious nature.
Those are 20 of the most powerful paradoxes of life.
Life is never black and white. Fall in love with the beauty in the dynamic complexity all around us. Study the contradictions, know the pitfalls, and embrace the little bits of chaos.
This is the recipe for a life well lived.
The Fear Paradox is one that has really changed my life.
Run towards those things that scare you.
Embrace that feeling of being an embarrassing beginner.
Embrace the imposter syndrome.
Oh, and yes, Happy Turtleneck Season, to all those who celebrate.
21. The Choice Paradox
More choices, less satisfaction.
You might assume that more choice would be a good thing, but research has shown that more options lead to less happiness with whatever option is selected.
In a world of abundance, what we truly crave is scarcity.
22. The Desire Paradox
Desire leads to more achievement and more suffering.
Desire is a powerful force for growth, but the quest for more often distracts from the beauty of enough.
Pursue growth, but never forget the beauty in simplicity.
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1. You'll achieve much more by being consistently reliable than by being occasionally extraordinary.
You can get pretty damn far in life by just being someone that people can count on to show up and do the work.
2. You're one year of focus away from people saying you got lucky.
Most people overestimate what they can do in a day and underestimate what they can do in a year. Your entire life can change in one year. Not ten, not five, not three. One. One year of focused, daily effort. You're always just one year away from a dramatically different life. The transformation won't be easy, but it is possible.
3. The worst prison in the world is having the talent and intelligence to achieve something great but lacking the courage to go out and do it.
There is someone out there living the life you want simply because they took action and you didn’t. They aren't smarter than you. They aren't more skilled than you. They aren't more resourceful than you. They just acted when you didn't. Think about that.
4. There's nothing more dangerous than the person who shows up every single day even when the rewards are uncertain.
The one who can tolerate the most uncertainty is the one who will eventually win.
5. Preparation always beats planning.
Planning is based on the expectation of order. Preparation is based on the expectation of chaos. Plan for order and you'll be destroyed by chaos. Prepare for chaos and you'll thrive in any condition.
6. A lot of problems are solved by waking up early and working out.
Waking up early is as close to a life cheat code as you will find. It requires intense discipline, and it creates evidence of your power and control over your world. That bleeds into every other area of life. Confidence is built, not born.
7. The worst decisions in life are made when you allow your head to talk you into something when your gut already said no.
Rule for life: Never let your head outsmart your gut.
8. The answers you seek are found in the actions you avoid.
Every single thing you want in life is on the other side of something you don't want to do. The body you seek is found in the workouts you skip. The relationships you seek are found in the hard conversations you delay. The success you seek is found in the hours of execution you avoid. The answer is found in the action. Remember that.
9. It's all on you.
No one is coming to save you. No one will fix your problems. No one will change your mindsets. No one will hand you the things you want in life. It's just you. It's all on you. There's a power in that.
10. Later you'll be dead.
Life is filled with laters. I'll spend more time with my kids later. I'll find time for my health later. I'll have more freedom later. The brutal reality: Later is just another word for never. Most of the things you say you'll do later won't be possible by the time you claim you'll do them. Your kids won't be five years old later. Your health won't be there later. Your life won't suddenly be built for freedom and enjoyment later. Either design it into your life now or live with regret later.
11. "Be realistic" is the single worst piece of advice.
It’s impossible to fly with your feet on the ground. It’s not up to anyone else to decide what's possible for you or your life. Sometimes, you need to be unrealistic.
12. Anxiety loves idleness.
Stress and anxiety feed on idleness. When you take action, you starve them of the oxygen they need to survive. When in doubt, act.
13. You are the sum total of the actions you take.
You may have positive thoughts and intentions, but your actions are all that matters in the end. And no matter what anyone tells you, your actions are always within your control. You get to choose your next action. If it isn't one you're proud of, that's on you.
14. Choose your hard.
It's hard to build deep, meaningful relationships. It's also hard to live on the surface with everyone. It's hard to build the body you want. It's also hard to see your body atrophy from lack of use. It's hard to build a life of purpose. It's also hard to live without one. Choose your hard.
15. No one has it all figured out.
No one knows what they're doing. Even the people you admire. Everyone is stumbling along. Some are just willing to stumble enough that they find their way into something magical.
16. You don't plan your future. You plan your actions today, and those actions create your future.
A question to reset your focus: If I repeated this day for 100 straight days, would my life be better or worse? Planning your future can quickly spiral into procrastination in disguise. Focus on the actions in the present and let the future take care of itself.
17. The people you choose to surround yourself with will determine your outcomes.
The Pygmalion Effect says that we rise to the level of other people's expectations for us. If you surround yourself with people who believe you are capable of more, who want you to think bigger, who push you to grow, you will prove them right. Remember: Someone is either holding you back or pushing you forward. There is no in between.
18. Life is more fragile than you think (even when you account for that statement).
You never know when it will be the last time you get to hug that friend, tuck your kid in for bed, kiss your wife, take a walk with your parents, or see that crazy family member. Hug your people with everything you have. Always make them let go first.
19. Inputs may be trendy, but outputs get you paid.
No one cares about your deep work ritual or morning routine if you don’t get sh*t done. Focus on your inputs, but never lose sight of the fact that the world will judge you based on your outputs. If the quality of the outputs doesn't match the quality of the inputs over a long time horizon, you need to adjust the inputs.
20. Stress is a tax on extreme ambition.
When you care deeply about something, you will experience feelings of stress that accompany the non-linearity of your progress. The goal isn't to have no stress, but to stress about things that actually matter to you.
21. The good old days are happening right now.
Every single thing you do today is something that your 90-year-old self will wish they could go back and do. Slow down, look around, embrace the present.
22. Adaptability is the single most important trait for life.
The explorer doesn't set out on his voyage trusting that the seas will remain calm and that he will stay perfectly on course; but rather, in his ability to adapt when the inevitable storms and chaos arrive. You are the explorer and life is your voyage. You don't need to trust in your plan or your intelligence. You need to trust in your ability to adapt.
23. Dopamine from information gathering is a dangerous drug.
Your entire life will change the moment you stop looking for more information and start acting on the information you already have. Get your dopamine from action.
24. Happiness is found in the becoming.
Real happiness is found in the anticipation. It’s the quest. It’s the hunt. It’s the process. It's the journey. It's the moment right before you achieve it. Happiness is not in the having, but in the becoming.
25. The things you want most in life will come to you, but only when you're ready for them.
Mario Quintana once wrote, "Don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come." Your external reality is often a manifestation of your internal reality. Don't look out, look in.
26. The word "yet" will change your life.
"I'm not good enough" becomes "I'm not good enough...yet." "I don't know how to do it" becomes "I don't know how to do it...yet." "I'm not capable of that" becomes "I'm not capable of that...yet." "Yet" is your one word reminder that you can achieve anything that you set your mind to. You are dynamic and capable of so much more than you realize. Embrace the "yet" and change your life.
27. Success always follows interest.
Most people focus too much on being interesting and not enough on being interested. Being interested is how you become interesting. When you're interested, you're prone to deep focus, which cultivates a depth that is impossible to fake. That depth is a necessary ingredient of success.
28. Winning can be problematic for your social life.
Drake once said, "People like you more when you working towards something. Not when you have it." I felt that.
29. You should always cringe at your former self.
If you look back at yourself from a year ago and you don't cringe at your outputs, habits, behaviors, or actions, you should be worried. That "cringe" sensation is a sign of your growth. It should always exist.
30. Work hard first, then smart later.
When you're young, all you have is time. You don't have the skills, money, knowledge, experience, or networks that would allow you to work smart. You have to trade your time to acquire those things. Once you have them, you can pick and choose your opportunities, but until then, work hard.
31. The only way to make a lot of money is to create a lot of value.
No one hands out money. No one is going to pay you just because they like you or think you're cool. That's not the way the world works. Money earned is a direct byproduct of value created. It's not talking about the thing, it's not brainstorming about the thing, it's not asking about the thing, it's not thinking about the thing. The only way to create value is by doing the thing. Identify a problem, create a solution, scale the solution. Simple, not easy.
32. Everything matters.
You don't get to pick and choose when to show up, because the world will ignore your best and judge you for your worst. If you want to win, your responsibility is to show up with energy and enthusiasm for the little things just as much as you do for the big things.
33. It's not supposed to be easy.
The most valuable things in life are hard to earn. They will take longer than you ever imagined. And that’s precisely why they’re so valuable.
34. The climb prepares you for the summit.
If you got dropped at the top of Mount Everest, you'd immediately pass out from the altitude. You can't skip the climb in life, it physically and mentally prepares you for the summit. Never intentionally seek to avoid the climb. Be grateful for the struggle and what it builds within you.
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