A year as a 36 year old seems so much shorter as compared to when I was a kid or even as a teen.
It seems cosmically unfair - have less years to live, and each year is flying by faster.
2/ But, why is that happening?
My tentative conclusion is that it’s an unfortunate outcome of how evolution shaped our brain to be an efficient storage device.
3/ Our brain is a prediction device.
Its top job is to construct a model of the world so that we get a survival and reproductive edge.
4/ To be able to predict a phenomena is to be able to control it and have power over it, so our brain is obsessed with predicting how things are going to go.
It wants to be able to predict how mates are found, how money is made, what makes people laugh, and so on..
5/ But it’s also efficient.
If an event has happened before, what’s the point of paying attention to it and storing it in memory?
Redundant storage is inefficient, so the brain likely only pays attention to and memorises what’s new and surprising.
6/ As kids, everything is new and surprising.
The world is full of learning opportunities, so the brain makes massive updates in memories.
Full snapshots of your birthdays, vacations, days at school and so on.
7/ Surprising information comes in droves every single day, so the brain simply paid a lot of attention and hence you felt there were so-many-slices-of-time in a day.
It also stored that rich information in memory, so even looking back days felt longer.
8/ As we grow, new surprises become a merely tiny-patch on an old memory.
Why store the full details of your N-th vacation when you can simply store the diff of it from your first one?
9/ In other words, as we age, our memories and attention becomes low-fidelity versions of its former self.
As patterns in life start repeating themselves, the slices-of-time that you notice and memorise become fewer and coarser.
10/ Naturally, if anyone where did time in your life go, you’d access your memory and find majority of them relating to childhood, and very few from the recent times.
And that’s why time feels like it accumulated in the past, and not in the recent present.
11/ The main culprit in time-speeding up is predictability.
The more predictable your days are, the shorter they will feel.
12/ A thought experiment.
If you have a stable job, you can pretty much mentally time travel a full year and find your days to be similar.
But if I ask you to imagine doing a PhD in Sanskrit at a foreign university, you would have no idea what your days are going to look like.
13/ So, predictability not just impacts perception of time in the present but also for the future.
As kids, a vacation was full of surprising information, so it actually felt rich and long.
Now, your nth trip to Goa feels much shorter as you know what you’re going to do.
14/ So, what to do? How to slow down time?
The only approach I can think of is to break the predictability and actively plan to be (massively) surprised.
Take on projects that you have no idea about.
15/ Unfortunately, we are evolved to avoid exploring and taking risks as we age.
Our brain pushes us to exploit more of the world we have come to understand better instead of pushing us to explore more.
But that’s precisely how you’ll make your years fly.
16/ You need to ask yourself.
How do you want to answer you lived your life?
One that is long, or the one that *feels* long.
What’s more important to you?
(That’s it!)
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Effective technique for not getting involved with thoughts and emotions.
Correction: it’s acceptance commitment therapy.
By the way, not fusing with thoughts and emotions is the core of mindfulness and is pretty powerful.
Thoughts and emotions that bubble up to your consciousness is mostly clickbait - they got selected precisely because they’re exaggeration’s fabricated to make you pay attention.
The best guidelines for any forum/network I've seen is that from Hacker News.
And the wonderful thing is that these guidelines actually work - Hacker News is the most inspiring and thoughtful forum out there.
Other networks like Twitter can learn a thing or two from it.
Sidenote: the massive work of moderating this long list of guidelines is done by ONE person.
Though increasingly we can have LLMs (like ChatGPT) interpret such guidelines and try to provide feedback to people before they make low-effort, clickbaity, rage-inducing comments.
The guidelines are worth reading in full and internalizing if you want to be a more thoughtful communicator.
• For the non-creator, it appears that the world is falling apart as they see extreme, hot takes all around them as nuanced, well-balanced content is seldom promoted by the algorithm