Thread by @PetrasFreeMuse

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist I recently was reminded that my grandparents' generation kept separate bedrooms. It kept the spark alive. Today, I love the idea. Bec you keep being yourself, rather than swallowing up each other's individuality, & sleep more soundly, yet still get together as often as you want.

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist That being said, women today act in lieu of masculine care they desire. It causes them to lead, to provide, prove their value, bec their feminine, the soft, nurturing side, the side wanting to be protected, has become smothered & neglected by men not stepping up to the plate.

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist That's what makes a lot of women unavailable & 'busy'; catering to themselves in the absence of men allowing them be in their divine feminine role in a world where productivity & physicality counts more than emotional intimacy, which is what women truly want & rarely get from men

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist So my answer really is, all the time when we both want each other. But I also l don't date to date for instant gratification or to impress anyone. The question is how to make sure who both will still be AFTER the dating phase. Can you stay the same person & be just as attentive?

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist I was married 19 to 32. Divorced. 2 kids. He didn't drink, smoke, was in the military, seemed put together. He wasn't 100% my 'type' & I was naive, insecure, & easily impressed. He was the best option I'd ever get, I thought. He changed 2 alcoholic, narcissistic abuse, cheat...

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist I shrunk myself as a result, isolated, away from the country I grew up in, no support system at all. I lost myself as an individual, punished for the slightest misstep. It took everything to get away & I had to become hyper-independent to take care of me & my kids, trust only me.

@Pm1oPm1o @sentientist & most men are intimidated by someone who was FORCED to become strong, independent, intense, a force of nature to be reckoned with. They're majorly attracted & then feel like they can't top it-when all we want is to be reassured that we can FINALLY let our guard down & be loved🤷🏻‍♀️

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